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Escalation - Public Masturbation

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Deleted Account, Jan 13, 2019.

  1. It sounds like you are the yin to his yang. A voyeur to his exhibitionist (I dabble in both).
    I can't speak directly to his motivation because I get a thrill from trying hard to not get caught. For me I enjoy the need to heighten my senses and be hyper aware of my environment in order to do that. That focus is a rush to someone with ADHD.
    I also wouldn't say you are addicted so much as intrigued. Perhaps he is looking for someone to engage in mutual masturbation (which can be exciting in itself), a hook up, or maybe not interested in anything more, he just likes knowing someone else is interested in watching him (also pretty common from people I have met here on nofap).
     
  2. Where does your sexual energy go when your main outlet is shut down?
    For all those in this post that said the best way to stop masturbating in the sauna and jacuzzi is to not go to the gym. Covid took care of that. Obviously it is common sense that would be the outcome, but I am curious how cold turkey approach for one vice causes new venues for exploring pleasure seeking behaviors.
    Driving naked is probably the earliest behavior since shut down, moved on quickly to looking for porn involving flashing and public masturbation, online chat and mutual masturbation with other fellow pervs, nude sunbathing, more than usual flights of fantasy, and creating and posting 'tribute' video of myself cumming to select video for the sole purpose of getting an online friend off.
    Wanted to get some sense of how all my fellow brothers and sisters with exhibitionist and voyeuristic leanings are doing with their own vices during social isolation. Secretly masturbating during zoom meetings? Cam sites? Sexting? Naked outside? Better or worse?
    Helps so much to know you are not alone in the struggle.
    THX-DK
     
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  3. I'm going to call a gentle BS on this. You were w---ing in the jacuzzi and the orgasm was unexpected? What sorts of out come do you consider expected in everyday life?
     
  4. In this case it is completely true. I had never experienced a hands free orgasm before that. I wasn’t jerking off - just letting the water jets work their magic. Of course it felt great but I was assuming it would get me aroused for a bit and then I would go finish myself off in the shower or sauna. I was definitely not expecting how quickly it brought me to cum. Before that I was in the habit of edging for hours on end and could keep myself from exploding - not the case with the jets. The fact that I continued to do it after the first time is the issue I am trying resolve.
     
  5. Saythatagain

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    I find there are a lot of missing pieces that people don't see. Pieces that connect sometimes unrelated dots that take us from point A to B. Through recovery programs and interactive webinars on a certain site I have a better understanding and appreciation for my past and the addiction that has grown from those experiences. It's too much for me to type out using my phone and I have a reason to start a post this week. It doesn't provide that magic fix but it does pull back the curtain and let you see done hard truths that take away some of the power.
     
  6. Interesting to read this as this is almost exactly how my first streak ended!

    63 days without PMO and I was triggered by a young lady's giggling (at a meeting for sex addiction, I imagined that she was laughing at me, amused at how hard it was for me to not touch myself) and ended up with a case of gnarly blue balls. With the best of intentions I went to the gym hoping that exercise would help . . . it didn't. Then had the brilliant idea of getting in the hot tub since a hot bath is supposed to help with blue balls.
    No sooner did I get in then the jets started filling my swim trunks with bubbles, tugging on my genitals. It felt really nice and I thought I should stop but perhaps I'd just enjoy it for a few seconds and five seconds later I was ejaculating. I concur, the orgasm was intense. And when I went out to my car after that I felt euphoric, but at the same time profoundly sad. I had lost something really precious :(
    and it had all happened in a matter of seconds. :oops:
     
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  7. Mindless Exhibitionism?
    Going through a relapse last several days and searching old favorite porn sites and found some old gifs I made of myself masturbating to completion that I had posted years ago online. I decided to reverse image search and see if there were other times the images were posted. To my surprise I found some threads that I had participated in, that I didn't even remember, including several that I had posted nude and masturbation pics I forgot I took. Yikes! I know I sometimes get into a porn 'haze' but this was a bit of a shock (didn't realize how often I was creating content). Have any of you ever experienced this before??
     
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