Question for partners of PAs

Yeah I love it, too.

 

Ha!
Since when?

 

Dont talk to me about Stevie.
I heart Stevie.
I just haven't heard men share her views Ever

 

Holy shit, @Kenzi . I never thought of it this way. Wow.

 

You're welcome

 

What is the worst part of the PMO for partners? It's straight up betrayal. It's bringing in another party to our (supposed to be) monogamous relationship. It's like bringing those women directly into our bedroom to sleep in our bed. They are between us constantly, dividing us. When we should be together, united as one flesh within our marriage, he is sharing his mind and his body with them and separating himself from me. And he has taken away every choice I had in the matter.

Does the M bother you even if no P is involved? What is the point of M'ing if there is no P or fantasizing? Save it and be intimate with your partner instead.

 

My SO is over a year PM free.
He's actually a year and a half.
He's had a P-Subs blip.
It was minor... Most people around here didn't call it a relapse.
We run two counters on him because of it tho.
He's making huge strides and it seemed to not set him back because he was so far into reboot.
Still... He faced heavy consequences.
I wasn't going to deal with any more lying.

 

I have seen a lot of people say that the edging is actually worse for you, effects your brain more. I am not sure how true that is, but I've read it a lot.

 

And I think there are three kinds of addict people here... The people more M, the people more P and the SA trying to P&M to be free of S

Then you have the SOs.
And the parents seeking information.

 

I think that the counter should depend on what part of the addict spectrum you fall into.
You know?
Better customize the reboot for better healing

 

Edging is worse than O because it bathes your brain in more dopamine than just quickly finishing with an O. O releases prolactin which stops dopamine release.
Edging causes more dopamine release and more downregulation of dopamine receptors after the fact.