I never said i was ashamed of it. I'm just not proud of it. It's a neutral thing for me. Some people have the size and flexibility to achieve it, some don't. But no, I won't ever do it again because it is pointless and far too much work for what I can achieve in half the time with my hand. Also, I would say it's extremely disgusting. Idk about religions perspectives and what not; I'm referring to the literal act of placing my dick in my mouth. It's not a healthy thing to do. At all. I don't feel shame with normal M either. There is nothing to be ashamed of. That's just what you get when your hand meets your dick for too long. I'm making myself happy and that's all there is to it. But I hate masturbation nonetheless and there is nothing I will say to condone, endore or further anyone's interest in the act. They joy is too short for it to be helpful. The side-effects are too damaging for it to be healthy. The effort is too much for the prize. So no. I hate masturbation and do anything in my power not to give in to such desires.
Thank you for your point of view. You bring a perspective that although is different from mine, is no less interesting and valuable.
I wonder as well. I view sex...self sucking, masturbation, intercourse as all good and natural and healthy things. Porn is the enemy. I value your perspective and opinion, but I'm debating as to whether masturbation is itself addictive or if allowing it to become a focus causes the addiction. Porn obviously is bad and addictive. Also, isn't oxygen addictive? Can't quit that one! Just a little light-hearted joke there. But yeah, my goal is to be able to eventually enjoy all parts of my former sex life but just in moderation and without porn.
I think self sucking is a natural and healthy expression of human sexuality. It is also extremely pleasurable. I think it is funny that several posters 'aren't proud' of their ability. I am proud I can do it. I went through a phase when I was self sucking everyday. As long as you are not hurting yourself. As it is more extreme/intense form of masturbation - you sometimes are more apt to exert yourself, that could lead to injury. As for porn - I view it as an amplifier. If you want to control the frequency of your masturbation, I noticed it drops off exponentially when I am not searching porn on the internet.
Thanks professor for your remarks. I was beginning to feel that everyone was coming down on me. The 'aren't proud' guys seem to be from Europe ... I thought Europeans were more progressive??? Liberated???
I am from Europe, lol. After you have rebooted, I cannot see any reason why you would want to avoid self-sucking.
I'm most likely doing a minimum of a 90 day reboot and possibly longer if the reboot needs it. Please keep in mind that I am just getting started with this and am not knowledgeable enough yet to say one way or the other what I will or wont do. But the goal is the typical reboot which is 90 days. My goals are to become un-addicted to pornography and diminish or wipe out my PIED.
This is a good response Jack. It is good to have a goal, but it is not written in stone, so you can change it, if necessary. Some people just like to have a big target to go for e.g. 90 days. Another way you can approach it is to also have smaller goals that help keep your focus. Some set 7 day goals, which will bring you to the same place in 13 increments. Some like round numbers and set their milestones as multiples of 10. Ultimately, you decide what you do and if and when you change your mind.
This is a great way to approach to phasing out porn if you are new to the community. The added bonus of lots of small rewards, that keep you motivated.