The Women in Porn Videos are Too Attractive

I am not sure they are too beautiful but it's hard man, it's like a drug that you want but don't get. Just relapsed after 3 months of PMO. Going to climb up again now, it's all just a waste of time and doing nothing for me on a personal growth level. Keep fighting!

 

Yes, I agree. P distorts people's idea of what a relationship should be. Now, you can say, everyone is entitled to their opinion - and that is true. But the proof is the pudding, as it were. If you observe the longest-lasting, most loving relationships (and people have done studies on this), they are almost always built on top of a strong moral foundation, and like Mr. Tony said, Respect and Love. Not that sex isn't a part of it - but it certainly is not a purely transactional thing.

Of course, I'm not advocating for or against relationships. Some people are just fine being single their whole lives, and that is great.

 

@LOSEmyselftoSAVEmyself

 

All I know is that at 48, about to turn 49, I have very little interest in dating, getting remarried, or whatever.

I just want my freedom.

 

Dude. That is the total opposite of freedom.

 

Most porn stars are drug addicts, so they have to do it. Which makes me think that many of these girls get abused on the set, so the director can get it in the can.

 

This is the purpose of recovery. You may have a certain thing, but every guy has something.

This hard mode reboot gives us, hopefully, some distance so that we can see
that if we don't have or pursue what we want,
life is still ok.

The bigger goal imho is freedom from this pursuit, this addiction.

Just to live man. Just to breathe. It is enough.

 

Coolidge effect. The industry thrives on that fact alone.

 

Tbh I never judge women (or men) in porn. I watch mostly amateur stuff anyway so in some ways they are more doing it to themselves. The love the exposure, sure some of them probably have a controlling partner, but in many cases I believe the girls are the driving force behind it. The love the fact a bunch of loosers are PMOing to their videos. Anyway, about marriage and life and women, I am also on the verge of giving up. I have a lot of experience and relationships behind me but my mental issues together with the fact that I am not really (at least according to my tinder statistics before I deleted it) what women want. The entire dating thing is mostly for women tbh, it's just making me feel worse about myself. But in the end I know the problem resides with me. As long as we have a huge group of lonely men that wants sex, love and comfort more than anything the industry will thrive. And besides, porn on the internet is like giving a kid free access to candy whenever. It's just "too good to be true". I remember growing up without internet, the source for porn was magazines and masturbating to pictures on an Amiga 600

 

Fight Club fan, I take it? I like certain things about that film, mainly the idea of being outside the mainstream.

Anyway, about women, the secret is to build up your internal value. Through fitness, making money, whatever. It takes work. Real achievements give you a kind of confidence that can't be faked, it's totally different than what dating coaches think.

My best to you!

 

Yeah, great movie, also about everyone being nobody thinking we are somebody, things you own end up owning you etc. etc. Also the way his life feels like nothing matters. In a way resembles my life a lot. Anyways, I do believe fitness and all these things can build you up but if you still feel you have no real purpose it's still hard. And for many people a big part of lifes purpose is love, family, connectio, friends. If we don't have that we try to fill that hole with different things. Cars, jewelry, work etc. I am not saying porn is only a way to fill an empty space in your life but it's certainly something we use to feel something. Porn is triggering something primordial in us, our sexdrive is one of the strongest things we have besides hunger etc. Our brains were not made to have full access to all these things we have nowadays, social media, porn etc. And it makes many of us miserable. We loose connection with real life, real talks, people. At least I have and I am not spending much time on social media or porn (well atm none but even before maybe 3 times per week).