Porn aka "Cuckold training 101". How porn literally trains you to become a cuckold

I have more sex with my wife now that I am a cuckold. I desire her more and she is more interested in sex.

She just gets to have more sex than me because she has the sex with other men on top.
My wife says the more sex she has the more she wants to have.

In short, the cuckold idea is a method to increase arousal in the husband and make the wife happier in with marriage because she is not stuck to just this one man for her entire life.

You don't have to do it if you don't like it. It is certainly not for everybody.

 

as I said above, you are extremely narrow-minded and opinionated.

 

When you fall in love with a person, you're not only falling in love through your heart, but your body as well, and there is actual science behind it. We physically bond with our sexual partners by nature. Now that bond is infinitely stronger when we have also bonded emotionally with our sexual partners. We will connect our physical sexual arousal, attraction and desire to the person we have deep, intimate feelings for. Now it would go against all logic to break that physical-emotional bond with our partner by physically bonding with someone else. It would hurt our feelings to see the person we love give their physical attraction and desire to someone else. Why would you want to hurt yourself that way by seeing your wife cheat on the physical bond you have with her?

 

I think that you need to pick up a history book OP. Humans have been freaky motherfuckers since forever. And "degeneracy", really? Do you live in a monastery?

 

I'm always torn when it comes to commenting on stuff related to fetishes, because while on one hand I dont really care what others get up to (as long as its safe and consensual), I would be lying if I said I didn't find cuckoldry and other fetishes along those lines absolutely disgusting, I just do not understand why its appealing at all.

 

It's your life if you want to be in a cuckold/quean relationship that's your business. I don't have any interest in hearing about it, though. Just as you don't want to hear about my sexual fantasies.

 

that is absolutely fine and understandable. You don't need to read such threads. The reason I have brought this is up is that the OP felt it necessary to insult all cuckolds and "explain" that porn necessarily turns all men into cuckolds. Which is obviously nonsense, as you can see here on the forum.

there are a lot of fetishes that don't appeal to me but I don't think the people who are into them are degenerate criminals as the OP claims cuckolds are.

 

No one is advocating for the Monastic life here.

 

That is a good question indeed, I will try to answer it.

I do agree with what you said about physical bonding, but the reality is more complex than what you have said. I also understand the feelings that I assume are behind this question.

i don't think I would want a partner to cuck me after I just fell in love with her and am in the "honeymoon phase". I have a hard time myself understanding how people can do that.

Cuckolding usually happens after years of partnership. The honeymoon phase is over. There may be a bit of boredom creeping into the relationship. If you ever had a long time relationship, you will have to admit to yourself that you have checked out other people as well. Now, can you imagine that after 10 years of marriage you would be interested to actually live out your lust with them, just for a change?

Some people just do that, and they become swingers or hotwives. Those people are not less loving of their partners, they just feel the need for some change. The bond between the couple is not broken, it is just a mutual understanding that lust exists beyond the boundary of monogamy.

You might have noticed that often people leave immediately after one night stands. I think this is because they want to avoid the emotional bonding that happens with sex. the myths goes that it happens in cuddling after sex. With her last lover, my wife and also the lover avoided cuddling after sex to prevent them from falling in love with each other. They still had a friendship, but he left to live in the Uk. Maybe he will be back one day.

I really get aroused when my wife tells me about her affairs. It is a part of empathy, I feel her joy. I am happy for her. She has shown me time and time again how much she loves me despite the affairs. I feel doubly loved and desired when she comes back from a date and we immediately have sex. So the bonding part is not broken, quite the contrary is the case.

There are also people who go further than hotwiving. Polyamorous people have multiple partners, and it is all very loving.

Being a cuckold or a partner of a polyamorous person, as exciting as it is, is not for everyone. It is an emotional roller coaster, and yes, there are moments of jealousy. One needs to have trust in the partner and some guts to do it. And it requires good communication between the partners. Rules of how this all happens have to be negotiated, consent be given.

 

@BartlebytheScrivener i have no serious opinion on your topic but curious why you are on NoFap?

 

Thank you for clarifying. Even after many years of sexual exclusivity, I don't see how anything would change about the fact that sex, desire and attraction are an expression of love for my partner, and it would simply go against my own will to not keep that expression of love exclusive to the person I actually love. But what matters is that it works for you and your wife and you are both okay with it, and that should be respected.

 

I published a thread here about this topic before this one was posted. I’m glad that this is being talked about on here because I think its a very serious issue and needs to be addressed. First of all, I think you guys are being too hard on BartlebytheScrivener. If it works for him and his wife, who are we to pass judgment? I have heard stories where cucking did save some people’s marriages, it does work for some people but not everyone. On the flip side, something different that might save your relationship might not save theirs, everyone’s different and that requires different solutions for everyone’s problems.

Where I do disagree with him though is on porn causing it to happen. I strongly believe that it does, because doing so has crossed my mind (especially because I have PIED) and the thought of doing it turned me on, when even the idea of it never even crossed my mind when my addiction wasn’t as severe and it isn’t appealing to me at all when I have a clean streak away from PMO. I also take issue with some in the media trying to glamorize it and make it become mainstream because its not for everyone. In addition to CNN doing an article on cucking, a UK media outlet also published an article encouraging men to let their wives fuck another guy as Christmas gift this year.

And here’s a story from Reddit of a PMO addict who turned into a cuck.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.re...ed_to_watch_my_girlfriend_getting_with_other/

 

Let us not forget that we live in a world where swinging is normal. So cucking certainly should not be regarded as much stranger than that. But it is not for the faint hearted, admitted.

 

I wonder what the vetting process is. Can I just come to your house and demand to shag your wife? Strictly theoretically speaking.

 

What a sad post.

Do you have any respect for women?

 

Bartlebythescrivener, not gonna lie, i'm honestly shocked and disgusted....i really hope you're a troll.

And if you weren't, you should atleast admit that being a cuck is not 'normal', it's absolutely messed up, why are you even married to your wife? That's just disrespectful to the whole concept of marriage

I didn't know people take pride in being cucks the way you showed in this thread...damn, no words...

 

I think the discussion should be over. I do not appreciate cuckolding with acceptance and think it is psychological problem, but I am not at the position do judge anybody. This topic is not about comdemning people with some fetishes, even if they accept it as a part of life. This is everybody's own thing what they like to do and what not.

The major thought from topic should be: If you are not okay with cuckolding and you are aware of negative psychological consequences you should avoid porn. Porn can lead you to cuckolding fetishes and in consequence to the breakup of marriage or objectification of your beloved ones.

Porn leads you to need of more and more new virtual womens and feed your brain with such ilussion. You can even believe that monogamic is boring and start to believe your woman need another guy, because you are not enough. Do you understand? Guys starts to think their wife need another man, a real man.

 

Very well written!

 

Wow gowtham! You are so wise