Hi everyone. I am new here. My husband has a problem with porn. I found this out a few months into our 6 year relationship when I found out he was using it daily but also talking to people he had met on erotic literature forums. He broke down, apologised and promise never to do anything like that again... I have now caught him 6 or so more times using pornography over the last few years. Last night I found out he was back on it and had tried to hide it from me. I’m devestated and really don’t know what to do. He makes all of these promises and he does really well for a few months and then goes back. It’s the lies and the sneakiness that I can’t stand and I just need to know how to deal with this better and maybe places to signpost him to get help. I’ve asked if it’s me (I’ve put on weight since having my daughter) or whether I’m just not enough for him. He says no and that he loves me but I can’t shake this feeling of utter worthlessness. I feel like I let him off too easily and he never actually has to earn his place back. I’m too quick to appear to forgive him for the sake of our marriage and the children and I think I’m almost sending the message that his behaviour is ok because I’ll just get over it in a week or so- of course the reality is that I’m heartbroken and numb and not over it at all. Sorry for the rambling, hope it makes sense. I’ve barely slept last night so not entirely coherent.