I have realised it's a problem

Hello Mr5TimesADay. Welcome to the club

First of all, you could list all the benefits that most people report who successfully abstain for a longer period of time. May it be self confidence, more focus and ability to concentrate, more creativity and more drive and motivation overall. Try to think ahead aswell. If you have a girlfriend, what values do you want to live? Do you want to be able to speak honestly and open towards her? That means you would have to let her know about your porn consume. Do you think you will be capable of doing so? While being aware that getting so high from porn actually decreases your sensitivity to get aroused from your future girlfriend? (or maybe you have one already, I don't know.) A goal might be that you start investing now into being the man that you want to be, the man that you would be proud to show off to the world. A man that doesn't need secrets or to feel bad about himself, because even though he did things that aren't that great, he grew above them. And every human makes mistakes. So there is no shame having a fucked up past. You will only feel really truely loved, if you can be yourself and honest, I tell you that my man. If you have to keep secrets in your head, it will slowly poison your heart and you will lose access to it. I'm saying that as someone who experienced it himself and I never want that again. I want healthy relationships where I can be open and honest, vulnerable but strong because I know who I am and I'm doing my best.

Also, what do you want to achieve in life? What carreer? Which hobbies? All the energy and creativity you get, all the confidence can be put in there. You can find out what you want to learn. If you have struggles at learning or it's not fun to you, research on learning techniques and try to find what suits you. You can do so many things in life and the benefits you get from retaining your sperm can be used for all that. Life is already full of obstacles without jerking off. But we won't find the strength and drive to overcome those in creative, determined ways if we keep our energy level low.

Hope some of the things here can help you.
Wish you all the best on your journey, you're still very young and the younger you are, the more your brain is capable of change, even when that capability never stops. So you got all the world and all the possibilites ahead of you. But you must find your own "what and why". If you need help with that, you can find help with that, too. Peace.

 

Hey & Welcome to NoFap Community!

You are in the right place for recovery here. We are so glad to have you with us to beat this addiction together.

You can go read some Success Stories in the "Success Stories" section to learn more about the benefits of NoFap , get useful tips and ideas to help you in the reboot.

If you have any question about rebooting, you can ask it in the "Rebooting" section.


And I would recommend you to make your own journal in the "Reboot logs" corresponding to your gender & age to track your everyday progress.
You can also join challenges in the "Events & Challenges" section, to keep yourself motivated and focused.




You may start by checking the links below:
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Best of luck to you in your journey!





-The Winner

 

Hello and welcome!

We are glad to have you as a part ofour community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

Getting Started Guide | How to Use the NoFap Forums | Panic Button |Day Counter | Rebooting Resources|Forum Rules | Glossary

If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in theappropriate section found here

There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!