How I cured my sexual disfunctions (ED and PIED and desensitization) and how you can to

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by HereIsMyNickName, Aug 20, 2016.

  1. RoadToRecoveryy

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    I was so bored last night that I kept thinking about MO but I didn’t do it. This goes back to me having too much time on my hands. Especially at night time. Erections are still about 60 - 65% hard whenever I do get them.

    I decided to throw ALL of my smoke away so I can truly begin healing. So this is Day 1 of no smoke. I’m ready to prove to myself that I’m mentally strong enough to put an end to smoking (Day 1) and PMO (Day 19) for good!

    I workout early in the morning before work. I rarely feel motivated to go after work and would rather “force” myself to go early before work.

    Besides working out, watching netflix, and playing video games, I honestly don’t do too much of anything. This is mostly because I’m in a new area where I really don’t know anybody.

    After work today, I plan to visit the outside mall around my area. Just so I can walk around, possibly meet new people, and actually DO SOMETHING (can’t even explain how bored I am here most of the time). In order to defeat my boredom, I’m going to respond to it differently.

    Instead of complaining or smoking when I’m bored, I’ll workout, do some reading/research, or something else productive. If, for whatever reason I can’t do these things, I’ll just start watching a new Netflix series or take a nap! Taking naps will help make time go by faster & takes away the “pressure” of finding something to do when bored.

    (By the way, The Office is HILARIOUS & contains 9 seasons so it will take a lot of your time just to watch the whole series. If you’re looking for something to watch, you’re welcome :) )

    The only thing is, IM ACTUALLY GOING TO DO THESE THINGS instead of just talking about it. I’m a HUGE football fan so once the NFL season starts that will help with the boredom too.

    Make a conscious effort to keep yourself busy or go to sleep when bored. TRY IT FIRST BEFORE YOU ASSUME IT WONT WORK!!

    If this doesn’t work, anytime you feel the urges, you’ll have to remind yourself why you started nofap in the first place. Remember what your goal is and how important it is to you!

    My goal is to be able to have my rock hard erections back and not having any doubt in my mind that I can fully satisfy whatever girl I’m with. I want to be able to O with no issues and start a family one day. To me, this is 1000 times more important than me wanting to PMO or smoking.

    We all want to change something about ourselves. The people who do it successfully are the ones who believe they can! So believe! Constantly remind yourself that whatever you’re trying to gain out of nofap is way more important than that 10 minutes of satisfaction from PMO.

    Good luck to all of you!
     
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  2. RoadToRecoveryy

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    Erections are significantly harder (About 70 - 75%?), they happen more often, and they also last longer without much effort.

    I honestly feel like I could attempt sex, but i’m not rushing anything. I have almost no urge to PMO at all.

    At this point falling asleep is easy. My voice is significantly deeper than it was before.

    These past few days have been great! I’m working out more often and took this girl out over the weekend. Everything was cool. More importantly, I passed my final test to start my new job!

    I was on a webcam for about 50 minutes acting out scenarios related to my job and answering questions. Everyone who saw was extremely impressed.

    I truly feel my confidence rising. My energy is at an all time high. Nothing is forced. I’m starting to feel like “me” again. It’s a great feeling.

    **(By the way, I’m not bragging, there’s bad news on this post too. I TRY TO BE 100% factual on every post).

    I did break a promise by having a drink a BDubz this weekend. I only had 1 & won’t do that anytime soon. I also smoked during this time but as of today plan to completely stop.

    Yeah yeah I said that before lol. Feel free to bash me I probably deserve it haha.

    I’ve been lucky to feel mostly positive effects from nofap so far but will probably feel different once I’m not smoking (which starts today Day 25).

    For all you other smokers out there, please keep in mind smoking anything is bad when it comes to recovering from ED. I would be way closer to 100% if I didn’t smoke. That one drink was a small slip up. I don’t normally drink.

    I truly hope you all can achieve your goals. NoFap DOES work I promise!
     
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  3. RoadToRecoveryy

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    Erections are harder than they were when I made the last post. However, there has not a major difference in the last two weeks (About 75%).

    Besides that, I’ve noticed my focus & mental agility have increased greatly! Instead of complaining about things, I make real efforts to fix them by doing whatever it is I can do. Not crying about what I can’t do.

    I’ve been able to begin putting my energy into different places and even bought a book over the weekend. This is truly this first time I personally drove to the store to purchase books to read for fun. In a weird way I felt good about it. It made me feel like my mind is changing for the better.

    Again, I am on Day 1 of not smoking. For some reason I legit think I can stop cold turkey this time but I not going to “promise” it. I’m just going to do it.

    Working out during NoFap will make a difference. I have been slacking off this past week so its no surprise why my erections haven’t felt much harder since the last post (almost 2 weeks ago).

    The urge to PMO is still there honestly, but much easier to ignore and I only get the urge when attempting to fall sleep. This has not been an issue for me either.

    In my current mind state I’m much more focused on my career and getting my mind right than how soon I recover from ED. Of course it’s still on my mind, but I believe nofap has helped me stay focused on what’s truly important.

    I’m starting to look in the mirror and like what I see. I’ve also realized the importance of slowing things down, taking my time with things.

    I know with my generation especially, we’re all used to having what we want right away. We want the “reward” of the work right away & have the ability to get it done, but we don’t take the time to get it right.

    I know I’m rambling but I’m just saying what comes to mind. Overall, I can truly say NoFap works and the benefits you gain are much more than a harder erection.

    Good luck to all of you!
     
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  4. The Great Warrior

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    what about those from those guys that don't have a partner ? should take there chances with random woman or try to get into a real relationship ?
     
  5. The Great Warrior

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    i couldn't agree with you more i am the exact same feels great to finally have a plan! just wondering how you got on ? what day you at now ? :)
     
  6. zabir143

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    i have this problem. am ready to take this challenge. but am not married and i dt have girl friends. then how i will do sex after 30 days ?
     
  7. The Great Warrior

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    your goal is not to have sex after 30 days as much as it is to bond with woman and flirt with them. your task is not to just have sex your task its to rewire your mind. your mind is probably wired to get off to computer screens you need to wire it to have fun with real woman again. cut out the porn because when you only see woman that way makes it hard to flirt with them especially if you never use to do it. you have to try to create healthy thoughts experiences and pathways in your head. take little steps everyday and subtly your mind and life will be changing everyday in the right direction
     
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  8. Cowboy72

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    This great news. Had a situation a few days ago where I had a erection with my wife and I got up to close the bedroom door and had a hard time getting it back up to have sex. Finally did, but it wasn't a full erection.
     
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  9. Epic Fight

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    Great!! Reminded me myself one year back, i finally got it UP with my gf, went for condom 2m away and it was gone for weeks :p

    You are much further now, thats great. Once you get it IN, its just a fast progress towards healing. Its a milestone. I found a possition where I was able to penetrate her, and I just repeated it all the time and it went better and better. Than I found 2nd possition, 3rd... some positions did not work. So I skipped em.

    What helped me at this start was to have my fingers touching my penis, while I was having sex with her. That made me connect better with myself. Laters, I did not need my fingers touching me.

    Good luck, have fun ,)
     
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  10. Ryan Veitch

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    Story of my (recent) life. Nice hard erection, then something comes up and it's gone. Sometimes it just weakens slightly but I start panicking when it happens which pretty much flattens it.

    How long was it before you could maintain an erection?
     
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  11. Epic Fight

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    Had the same. I think 6 months? I have forgotten it honestly. But I was with my gf for 1 year so 6 months is something like a avarage...

    I ended up with delayed ejaculation tho. So I was able to go for one hour sometimes, sometimes much less, we are people, not machines afterall.

    The most important thing is, it all was improving, untill our relationship started to fall appart (not because of sex problems, she had so many real Orgasms I lost count, I know she loved it)

    Keep on going on. No PMO and rewiring.

    Good luck


    Edit!!!
    IMPORTANT!!!
    WHEN you get soft, stay in her!!!
    Just relax... give it a time. Than start slow small moves again. U will get it on. Dont stop trying untill you feel u need a longer break. I usually had like 2 times soft stage, 3 hard in one session of cca 1 hour. Than a longer break untill next day or 12 hours or so...

    Thats what helped me as well.

    Also. Dont be affraid to do it in darkness. Evening. No lights. Just hit one possition and go. For me, spooning worked wonders! The darkness gave me calmness. Best times!!!

    Now Im in half dead relationship and full of pain because of it. Enjoy while it lasts man!!! Stay strong, kick some freakin ass!!!
     
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  12. Ryan Veitch

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    Thanks, mate. I won't break.

    You said you're in a half dead relationship? Because of the PMO?
     
  13. Epic Fight

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    No it has nothing to do with PMO. After 1 year of relationship which was about fun (but also love, being faithful, no lies etc) my gf decided that she has changed her opinion towards children and that she wants them.

    From than, it went down the drain for way too many reasons. Its very painful for me. Good luck
     
  14. zabir143

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    am ejaculating while cuddling my gf. how to overcome this. pls help me
     
  15. Epic Fight

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    Have sex with her, after few orgasms you will get better
     
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  16. Meditation Monk

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    not everything is about sex, if you are that desperate, go buy a playboy magazine and wank to it. lol. If you want to go that low level. lol.
     
  17. Ryan Veitch

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    Sorry to bring up painful memories. Here's to time, healer of all.
     
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  18. Epic Fight

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    No problem my friend, thru the pain we grow. But yes, it sucks, not gonna pretend it doesnt. I loved her so much :/ be well, stay strong!
     
  19. Prophetz

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    I have been having erection issues
    My morning wood is not very hard and the last time i had sex i had a problem keeping it up and i only lasted until i first ejaculated after that even after making out i couldnt... Is it pied
     
  20. Epic Fight

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    Impossible to judge. How old are you? We are not machines, its also about how we feel that day, if we are tired etc. You cant say its PIED after ONE "failure" and I use "" because you had a normal orgasm just a moments before that. Refraction period is real as well. I recommend you to chill and if you have a problems which are periodically re-occuring, than come back to us here.

    On the other hand, quitting porn will improve your current state if you used it before. So just stop in that case, thats a 1000% sure thing no matter what.
     

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