How I cured my sexual disfunctions (ED and PIED and desensitization) and how you can to

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  1. HereIsMyNickName

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    Hey,

    If you read this, I assume porn ruined your sexual life. Maybe, just like me 2 years and a half ago, you just discovered that you can't have an erection with a girl. This is what happened to me, and it was difficult. But I am cured, and I am going to tell you exactly what to do, how do to it and why to resolve this issue in your life.

    Masturbating to internet porn destroys our brains. It isolates us. It makes your life dark and sad. And, when you really do too much Porn: You become impotent.

    Don't worry, I was, and I'm not anymore.:)

    This guide is meant to cure your sexual disfunctions, that's all. No bullshit data, no "I don't masturbate because it hurts my soul" hahaha



    Here is what I did, and what you should do if you can get it up/can't reach orgasm with a girl

    No porn
    No masturbation

    No sex for the first 30 days

    After 30 days of Nofap, try to have sex with a real partner. You will go trough 3 phases.

    Phase 1: you can't get an erection
    Phase 2: you can get an erection but you can't reach orgasm
    Phase 3: you can get an erection and reach orgasm easily= You are cured

    If you indulged a lot in Porn in your past, ou probably will be at phase 1 for a few weeks after the 30 days; Maybe even for one month or two for the worst cases.
    Stay patient, your body heals as fast as he can, you can't rush your body.

    Spend as much time a spossible with your lover, cuddling, talking, kissing. You need that to get your brain used to real connections again.

    One day, you will, at your won suprise, get an erection: you are at phase 2. Congratulations. Now, it can take between a few days and sevral months to go from phase 2 to phase 3, depending of your situation.

    What you should do when in phase 2:
    Now that you can get erections, use it to have sex: that is what you need to heal. But don't rush for the orgasm: if you do, the old Porn related neural pathways will be reactivated. What you need to do: Karezza sex (look on internet:)). Try to be as present as possible with your partner during intimacy. Don't get lost in your head, be here, fully. That's how you reach phase 3.

    Once you are in phase 3:

    Congratulations, you are cured. Now, how to be cured forever:
    Don't ever watch porn again.
    Don't masturbate for at least one or two months after being cured.
    Don't masturbate often, it ould lead you back to porn.
    Have as much sex as possible: you need that to strengthen the good sex neural pathways.


    Don't get me wrong, masturbation is perfectly healthy. But as gys who were/are damged by porn, we have to be cautious.


    Some timeline guides:

    Noah Church reached phase 2 in about 42 days (I think), and phase 3 in 72 days.
    I reached phase 2 and 3 at the same time in 28 days, but only because in the last 2 years I did several streaks and relapses.

    One last tip: tell your sexual partner about your issue, and what you do to be cured. It will relieve you from a lot of pressure :).



    Here is the video from Noah Church, that you should watch:
    How long to recover from porn-induced erectile dysfunction (PIED)?


    Relapse is not an option. You can't hurt yourself anymore, you deserve more than that. Good luck guys ;)


    Edit: As you probably understand, this mean you need to regularly try to have sex during your streak (except during the 30 first days). Let me be as clear as possible: Even if you do a 200 days long streak, if you don't have sex at all, your porn-realted neural pathways will be weakened, but you won't have replaced them with normal-sex pathways, so you won't be really cured. TO HEAL, YOU NEED TO HAVE SEX (not the first 30 days). :)
     
    Last edited: Aug 24, 2016
  2. Arthur Murray

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    I relapsed last weekend after about a 3 week stretch... I tried to have sex with my wife a few days ago I had an erection @ first then it went away again I haven't Masterbated in a week now and feel like I have no action at all down there it's very week I get an semi erection in the mornings but not really... is this any type of stage you go thru while NoFap
     
  3. Xander74

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    @HereIsMyNickName great post, that's why I'm here, 5/6 years PIED and looking forward to phase 2. Took me so long to get here but I'm stoked to see someone having such great success with this process. Day 30 tomorrow. Thanks for sharing I really needed this!
     
  4. Arthur Murray

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    Your Welcome!! it's Tough!! But we gotta stay focused on what's important... we gone overcome this...
     
  5. HereIsMyNickName

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    If you sometimes get erections when with your wife, but not every time, or not as hard as they should be, or if they go away duing intercourse, it means you are somewhere between phase 1 and 2. To go to phase 2, you have to do what is explained above! Be patient and trust the process!:)
     
  6. Perun

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    Thanks for these tips! I'm on the phase 2 and I wasn't sure how long will it take to reach phase 3 - I think 3 months should be enough.
     
  7. Arthur Murray

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    Thank you!! I was thinking maybe something wasn't going right but you just lit the tunnel for me!! thanks and yes I will be patient what ever it takes I'm in...
     
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  8. HereIsMyNickName

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    Yes, it is pretty sure that 3 months will be enough for you! I would say even less, especially if you spend time with girls;)
     
  9. HereIsMyNickName

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    You're welcome :D; Stay on this path, we can't waste anymore time on such bullshit behaviours (talking about pron addiction) ;)
     
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  10. TheSolarShaman

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    this is a great exploration of the process and healing our attachment with PMO, thanks for shedding some light on this!

    ~PEACE
     
  11. pablo8744

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    Thanks for your success story man.
    This type of stories I like to read to keep motivated.
    I hope some day I can tell my success story about how I cured my PIED
     
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  12. HereIsMyNickName

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    Why only hope ?;). I knew I would when I started my current streak. If you only hope you might not succeed. You should be 100% convinced you will. And all the data you need is above. Just do it. And remember it is not only about you, it is also about the people you will be able to help once you'll be cured ;)
     
  13. pablo8744

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    You're right. I will succeed and I will post my success story in this forum :).
     
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  14. HereIsMyNickName

    HereIsMyNickName Fapstronaut

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    That's what I wanna hear! :D
     
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  15. HereIsMyNickName

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    A little update.

    Day 38.

    Had a big urge to M yesterday, but resisted it.

    I prefer to not masturbate and be sure that my sensitivity during sex grows.

    I will tell you guys how the way I feel during sex evolves over time, while I stay on the no PM mode!
     
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  16. Xander74

    Xander74 Fapstronaut

    You're doing great, I'm also on day 38 but still in phase 1. Still looking at p-subs which is slowing my healing. Must try harder!
     
  17. Endless Night

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    I get what you are saying, and I don't necessarily disagree, but for some of us, we PMOed in the past because we don't have a partner. I've had sex only once in 37 years; I don't have someone to "help" me through my recovery. If I can't attract someone because I'm addicted, but I have to have sex to be cured, then I'm in a Catch-22. What of us then?
     
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  18. HereIsMyNickName

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    We definitely have kind of the same story. In the past 3 years, I failed to have sex with something like 5 different girls.

    And I am cured. So you definitely will want to use my advice :).

    14 days is not enough. You need no PMO for 30 days, then you keep on with no PM, only having sex/trying to have sex with girls. You will be recovered quite soon if you do that, i can promise you that. Because you seem to have no difficulty to put girls in your bed once in a while, just like me.

    I know that feeling of impotence man it's horrible; But I don't feel it anymore and as long as i don't go watch P, I won't feel it anymore ever.

    So.. stay on the path man ;)
     
  19. HereIsMyNickName

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    Putting P out of your life won't be enough to get you laid. But it is necessary.

    Take it as the first step, the cornerstone of you becoming the man you deserve to be. then, do other stuff, to improve yourself. Do things you like to do, eat healthy, follow your passion, be a social person. One step at a time.

    The best way to find a girl is to work on yourslef while talking to girls regularly.

    Don't be too hard with yourslef, but have disscipline, self love AND self respect.

    That's my take man, I hope you'll find it useful :)
     
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  20. Son_of_Iroquois

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    Thanks for this. Great to hear about your success.
     

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