How I cured my sexual disfunctions (ED and PIED and desensitization) and how you can to

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by HereIsMyNickName, Aug 20, 2016.

  1. Prophetz

    Prophetz Fapstronaut

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    Thank you
    I have used porn before since i was 14 after i couldnt keep it up i tried to masturbate to porn but i onky made it worse ...i have weak erections and i recently started no pmo but its only been 7 days now my penis went from shriveled up in the last few days to a little bit longer now...
     
  2. Prophetz

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    Thank you
    I have used porn before since i was 14 after i couldnt keep it up i tried to masturbate to porn but i onky made it worse ...i have weak erections and i recently started no pmo but its only been 7 days now my penis went from shriveled up in the last few days to a little bit longer now... I am 19
     
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  3. Epic Fight

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    In that case, noPmo will help you. Go on!
     
  4. Ryan Veitch

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    I sometimes think we have become victims of our own reputation in a way. Women expect us to be always up and ready for sex but seem to forget sometimes that there is the wham-bam type which requires no effort and therefore does not require much to be 'up' for. And then there is the good type which is what women want but don't link to the idea that men can also have moods, can feel tired or stressed or self-conscious and is therefore, not always possible.

    Society (both men and women) does not allow men the space to be human.

    That being said, on the other side, I understand why a woman who sees her bf/husband jacking off to porn cannot understand and feels betrayed because they can't manage it with her.
     
  5. Epic Fight

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    Absolutely agree but I need say this!

    Its us - men - who accepted this BS and embedded it in our core. Its a pressure from outside to which we surrendered as a whole. Because its difficult not to. Same as it is difficult for a woman to not surrender to the outside pressure on her in terms of being slim, always beautiful, and 1000 of other things.

    I had a huge luck, that Ive found (and already lost) a girl, which accepted me as a human. It was me who put pressure on myself. And thus my performace went to nada. She was just ok, waiting... I always though...

    "..man, this is my XXth failure in a row, now she will for SURE ditch me..."

    And she never did. After some months, I f her brains off everytime we get on to it. Than I used to take her outside immediately after and observed how totally out of her mind she was, it was beautiful. :p

    Thats also another part of my PIED cure story... not offtopic. Moral of the story is, I will not put this pressure on me ever again! If with my new gf my D is soft, so fckin what? Im not in a P film, Im human, got feelings, its complex, when it happens, happens, I dont care no more. If she gets rid of me, because my D was soft 4 or 10 or 15 times in a row, she is crazy insecure and whatever, Im gone, dont want no part in this. My value is much bigger, if she cant see it, good for me Ive learned so fast at start! What is XX failures in a grand scheme of things we aim for in a long term relationship? 0.5% of everything? We can have 1000s great nights together laters, so...
     
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  6. JonBlakeman2019

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    Just wanted to share that if you are on KIK and struggle with PIED, we have created a support group there called #PIEDSupport.

    You can also join via this link. kik.me/g/mAKmYBM-kYwYecJwtBMelWxH5NA
     
  7. Senior Tall Guy

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    Thanks for this advice!
     
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  9. scarto8585

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    hi am in the same situation bro but what i hear is that excess porn and masturbation reduce your neurotransmitter like the dopamine and also affect your blood vassal blood , ed mainly came from the fatigue of the nerf and blood vassal
    due to masturbation , in order to solve that you need nitric oxide ( no worries you are not going to be depend is just to help maintain the level of nitric oxide in your body , and in the meantime take alot of seafood , and fruits orange ......

    bro am going through the same shit , i have ed and premature ejac, men
    try nofap and nitric oxide
     
  10. iñaki

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    Your story and tips are great! Thank you for sharing your success story and congratulations for overcoming your illness. However, the most difficult part for me seems to find a partner in the first place.
     
  11. superdoc1776

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    Hey Fapstronauts!

    New to the recovery game here. Just found the Your Brain On Porn book and can’t put it down. It is spelling me out word for word.

    Back story: Been looking at porn for almost 20 years, even looked at porn and masturbated a LOT to it before I had sex for the first time, and have had what I now know to be PIED ever since I started. I always chalked it up to just who I was or being tired or stressed or whatever, but never really changing my habits. EVER sexual relationship I have had has had this problem, sometimes it works,sometimes it doesn’t, sometimes it would need to be very aggressive or hardcore sex to get it going..sometimes it would only work during porn viewingmasturbation..even then, especially the last 10 years or so, it wouldn’t work or be limp..the last three years I met my now wife who insisted I stop watching porn which I did with only the occasional slip up, but I was and have been still maturbating a lot, especially since we have had periods of long times apart, most recently 6 months due to military deployment..I recently started reading the YMOP book and realized that even with masturbation, I was looking at erotic images of my wife, I still have a lot of anxiety about performance, don’t get many spontaneous erections...etc., I realized that I have spent two decades wiring my brain this way and SO much of my life is affected by it, impulsivity, aggression, depression, anxiety, risky behavior, the list goes on and on..Iwant so desperately to stop..I want to have amazing sex with my wife and perform greatly, but I fear so much that I have done so much damage for so long that recovery won’t happen...

    Am I a lost cause? Is there hope? How long before I can maybe start seeing the benefits of this? Any tips or tricks or advice on how to stay “sober” / Fap Free? What do the different abbreviations mean like PMO?

    Thanks Fapstronauts for any help you can give!

     
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  12. jobbyj

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    I relate to you in many ways - PIED, 20 years porn, and some other complexities. I dont believe its over for us, and i think the hard part is finding the thing that unlocks this, i have been on this nofap struggle for 1.5 years and its had good and bad, but its worth it still.....i now feel after a few different ways of tryign that i am about to get closer to cracking it, but i think you need to find what works for you....the generic strategies are a good place to start but given the lenghth of time, i think you will need more work but hopefully not

    it can be done, i have read many people who have had issues for long time and turned it around, as can you
     
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  13. superdoc1776

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    JobbyJ: Thank you so much for your words of encouragement. It definitely seems very intimidating and daunting to stop given that I’ve been doing it for so long, but after reading success story after success story from NoFappers, I am driven to make it work. Obviously, it’s as simple as just not watching porn and not masturbating, but what tips might you or anyone else recommend when temptation creeps in or stress overwhelms you...how do you deal with fighting relapsing? Thanks again!
     
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  14. jobbyj

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    I think you need to find your own systems through trial and error, everyone differs as to what works, so i recommend reading the main texts and work out what you need to stop - as it really depends on your own behaviours and triggers etc
     
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  15. HelpMe3773

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    I can't get erections at all anymore in any situation. It's devastating. But doc says I am healthy. I keep reading about success stories being free from addiction and having free time but I am here to cure ED. So I truly hope this is real. One week in I am trying to examine other things that might not be allowing my brain to reset. I caught myself yesterday slightly masturbating subconsciously to sexy images in a video game, using only my legs... I am guessing stuff like that prevents the brain from resetting. I suspect the concept of a reset would work best if we were stranded on a desert island for 90 days so the old "dopamine pathways" (or whatever is wrong with the brain) could start to break down.
     
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  16. jobbyj

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    so even porn doesnt work? just wary that it could be a physical issue than a porn issue the way you describe it "at all anymore". as usually with PIED, it still works with porn.
     
  17. HelpMe3773

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    I am extremely confused because the urologist checked my blood and said I am healthy, nothing is wrong and that this will pass. So I self diagnosed myself with some sort of PIED. But I am learning from these forums that people with PIED still have normal erections with porn. With a lot of effort I can still orgasm but its not really an erection. Maybe the doctor missed something. Or could there be varieties of PIED where people are so messed up that erections just stop working completely?
     
  18. Male38

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    yes it could, do the 90 days reboot, work out, eat healthy, some cardio, cold showers etc
     
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  20. Epic Fight

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    To me, no pmo hard mode and than a year with loving gf did the job. Than we split and my D is half dead again. Long story. Hard mode again. But my life is 100x better now than 2 years back. Im in spain on holidays with beautiful indian girl. Just unbelievable. Before I was locked down at my room in my country covered with my semen. So its a good change. Go on.!!!
     
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