Has anyone here gotten to the point where they tried cuckolding?

OMG! Where on earth did you come up with all this bullshit? There is way too much of it for me to exhaust time on it. I totally disagree. "That's all I have to say about that"...Forest Gump!

 

Shame on you for promoting that crap, especially on this forum!

 

With all due respect, there's a lot of nonsense in those posts.

 

Please forgive me if I have offended anyone with my posts.

But also please understand that what I have shared has helped me to recover from being cuckolded (not as a fetish, but in real life) and to understand why it happened to me not just once, but multiple times and why I masturbated compulsively when it happened. Could it be that I played some part in this happening to me?? Yes. Most definitely. Can I blame it all on some pornographic magazines that I found when I was thirteen or the internet? Nope. I didn’t even have email when I caught my college girlfriend in bed with another guy!

What I need to know as I move forward is:

1. Looking at porn IS cheating (thank you @happenstance for that and please keep reminding us, because most men will tell themselves, and each other, that it’s not the same thing.
2. I can’t masturbate ever again.

If I’m looking at porn, I’m in my head. It’s sucking up mental sexual energy and robbing my girlfriend of the attention that she deserves.
And if I’m masturbating, do you think it’s ever to romantic thoughts of my girlfriend? Nope. At best, it’s to fantasies of other women, at worst it’s to euphoric recall of being being cheated on or, worst of all, in a triggered response to uncertainty in my current relationship.

Hopefully that might help others (it helps me).

 

Wasn't offended. Just didn't agree with it. There's a difference.

 

The general rule for most people is monogamy. But there are a lot of people in polygamy type relationships and it seems to be on the rise, or at least people are more open to revealing their relationship type. No one can speak for all women or all men, open relationships seem to work for some and are a disaster for others. I know of women that have cheated and it wasn't because they were abused or forced to by their partner. I know a guy who's gf asked for an open relationship as well. This stuff isn't that unusual anymore. It's not for me to be honest, I think you have to have a certain personality type for it to work.

I can see how a cuckold type relationship would fall apart easy enough though, the man's self esteem probably goes through the floor and the woman eventually loses respect for him as well as feeling used if she isn't fully into it.

Again, it's not for me, but not everyone out there thinks or feels the same way about sex.

 

In other words it has become normal. We as a society have been so indoctrinated into believing that this shit is OK that we now accept it as being OK. That's part of the problem. Normal doesn't make it right or OK. It only makes it an acceptable practice no matter how fucked up and stupid it is. But that's JMHO!

 

I think there will be a backlash against this type of behaviour eventually. Society seems to me to work in cycles. You get sexual liberation anything goes, then things get more conservative/oppressive again over time before going back to sexual liberation/degeneracy. Another few more years of this and things will start to turn back the other way. I don't wish for it to be one way or the other, just my observation when looking at society from a historical perspective.

 

It's amazing how porn can twist a guy's mind into depravity, wherein after a certain time elapses, such things even start to feel normal to the now diseased and infected mind. Sure we can objectify women in porn at their expense and get our own egos, insecurities, and jollies stroked. Then, when one starts to imagine the same thing on loved ones in real life - you talk as if this would fulfill your "imagined" girlfriend's wildest fantasies and complete her sexual satisfaction, when all along the depravity of those actions would quite warp her mind and thinking, destroy her emotional/relational life, setting up a situation where she has now crossed a line into depravity and has now adopted self-demeaning addictions and fetishes, now losing a previous inner beauty of innocence and joy in life. Yeah, what a fantasy! What a dark thing to impose on a partner! But, one never thinks about it from that point of view, right? It's part of the mind's twisted porn delusion that now cuts one's own sense of reality in half. And, then, one imagines that one will have a real and meaningful relationship with a woman someday. Really? The odds are against it if full PMO recovery is not sought sooner than later. Don't take this lightly!
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From a strictly bio-evolutionary perspective, your posts were fairly accurate. That's how people would behave (more or less) outside of any cultural / moral training.

Under the same circumstances we would also be slaughtering each other en mass and likely eating each other as well.

 

Jealousy is likely 100% still there. You might not feel it at the beginning. But then she might spend more time with him than with you. Or she might even leave you and stay with him instead. She might even call you a pervert or predator for "tricking him into having sex with her." When you lose your girlfriend to him, you are probably going to feel very regretful and jealous. And this is all before considering the impact of big societies and social groups on adultery: every step of the way, someone is going to say that you are a fool for being an adulterer or allowing your girlfriend to cheat on you.