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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Shadow_Monk, Jul 18, 2019.

  1. Jul 18, 2019 #1
    Shadow_Monk

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    I guess this is the place for introductions... so, I’m Shadow Monk, I’m 44, been a porn/masturbation addict for a little over 30 years. Seems like that’s my coping mechanism for just about all of life’s troubles. In 1990, it was one thing, with limited access to porn (like the sears catalog lol). But in 2019, it’s a whole different world. The compulsive cycle is eating me alive, and I’m on a path to lose everything important in my life for the thrill of staring at 2-dimensional images and the novelty of trying to find the next dopamine rush. I don’t have much time now, so I will post a follow up here later, but I wanted to get a first post in before it became a thing I never got around to doing.
     
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  2. Jul 18, 2019 #2
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    Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

    Getting Started Guide | How to Usethe NoFap Forums | Panic Button |Day Counter | Rebooting Resources|Forum Rules | Glossary

    If you wish to keep a journal of yourprogress you can do so in the appropriate section found here

    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothingbut the best!
     
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  3. Jul 19, 2019 #3
    Shadow_Monk

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    Here's that follow up -

    Since I work at home or alone in an office, I have a lot of opportunity to act out with porn. Also, as a extremely skilled I.T. person, internet filtering or blocking really doesn't work - there's too many ways around it. As the years have gone by, the time I've spent looking at porn has been trending upward. I shudder to think about how much time I've wasted. On average, I'd say most weeks I'm wasting 10 hours, sometimes more. It's been a gradual escalation over the course of close to 20 years, but its gotten to the point where I'm at risk of not keeping up with my work, letting my fitness slide, and I'm starting to feel mildly depressed all the time. So, that's what brings me here - I've gotten to the point where it hurts enough that I'm ready to make a change...
     
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  4. Jul 19, 2019 #4
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    Welcome to the site. I am new here two, I started 4 days ago. Im a 50s married male. The amount of time that I have spent masturbating his increased steadily over the past few years. Most recently, it would end up being three or four days a week, with multi-hour sessions. My family life and my work and my fitness and my self-esteem all summer. I hit a number of lows and knew that something needed to be done. The escalation effect of meeting more and reaching new levels of depravity happen gradually so I could not see when I was becoming. All of a sudden I did not know who I was, or at least who that person was who sat in front of the keyboard on sex chat sites. I knew I needed something and so I am here. It sounds like you are also very self-aware and looking to get out of the situation.

    Hang tough - it sounds like it can be a tough road. Have a vision of what your life will look like without this addiction, and visualize that you are tempted. Have the end in mind. Keep that focus. Let me know if you have any questions - you can always send me a direct communication.
     
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  5. Jul 19, 2019 #5
    Tao Jones

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    Welcome! Your background as an IT pro is similar to mine. I had to get away from computers completely for two years to break free of this addiction. I quit IT and became a plumber instead! :) When there is a will, there is always a way. I, too, was at my wit's end and willing to do whatever it took to get free.

    Welcome to the fight of your life! If I may ever be of service to you, feel free to shoot me a DM on here any time. I am cheering you on to a better kind of life!
     
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