Can't stop relapsing after years of trying

bdaw213 · Mar 3, 2023

Hi, if you'd like I can send over a book called how to quit porn by Celibate Yogi. It perfectly explains the reasons why we relapse and why we think during long streaks that we should PMO,

I saw it on the Internet somewhere where it says loneliness can lead a person to higher porn consumption and It was true to me as well, while it was really hard for me to quit, it was because there was still a thought pattern in my mind that let me PMO, when I was away from porn and was literally doing well recovering, there was always some stupid irrational thought trying to get me to relapse, this book opened my eyes and taught me there is no need for distractions willpower or anything for me to quit PMO, this book explains the reasons each thought thats trying to rationalise reasons to PMO is false, and opens your eyes about the lies of this poison.

I have read this book in June 25 2022 and have only had 6 relapses ever since.

Back in the 1960s doctors used to tell people who had stomach problems to just smoke, smoking wasn't thought to be harmful back then but later people noticed that it caused lung cancers, and more problems.

Today, people find Porn and masturbation normal, relaxing because there are testosterone supplement companies, therapists, making money off of people's porn addiction.

bdaw213 · Mar 3, 2023

Here

Fullyawake · Mar 3, 2023

bdaw213 said: ↑

Today, people find Porn and masturbation normal, relaxing because there are testosterone supplement companies, therapists, making money off of people's porn addiction.
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Simple as that.

Foreverfree · Mar 7, 2023

bdaw213 said: ↑

Hi, if you'd like I can send over a book called how to quit porn by Celibate Yogi. It perfectly explains the reasons why we relapse and why we think during long streaks that we should PMO,

I saw it on the Internet somewhere where it says loneliness can lead a person to higher porn consumption and It was true to me as well, while it was really hard for me to quit, it was because there was still a thought pattern in my mind that let me PMO, when I was away from porn and was literally doing well recovering, there was always some stupid irrational thought trying to get me to relapse, this book opened my eyes and taught me there is no need for distractions willpower or anything for me to quit PMO, this book explains the reasons each thought thats trying to rationalise reasons to PMO is false, and opens your eyes about the lies of this poison.

I have read this book in June 25 2022 and have only had 6 relapses ever since.

Back in the 1960s doctors used to tell people who had stomach problems to just smoke, smoking wasn't thought to be harmful back then but later people noticed that it caused lung cancers, and more problems.

Today, people find Porn and masturbation normal, relaxing because there are testosterone supplement companies, therapists, making money off of people's porn addiction.
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Thank you very much for the link... I downloaded now and will read it.... Maybe my face is so up to the tree that I don't see things the right way anymore.... My sexologist told me several times that I put so much pressure on myself to go from big porn user to being a white angel that it creates a big stress that causes me to relapse...Some sort of vicious circle, and I must say she's right... I'm either black or white... It's hard for me to be in the middle when I decide something or get involved in a hobby... It's pedal to the metal or not interested at all... I do the same thing with quitting porn, I must be perfect, and not make any bad move... Thus creating even more stress.... So I'll definitely read the book with great interest...

freedom9222 · Aug 8, 2023

Legacy of Lost Soul said: ↑

It does not matter how u loose your seed. Results are always 100% the same. It was always with woman, it was always devastating. Its a pity one cant talk with nobody here about it, who actually walked the walk. Thank you.
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hey are you still there, I just relapsed after a 181 days streak today. I can't believe it.

Wolf7 · Aug 9, 2023

Sorry to hear this. Unfortunately one of the transgender and gay sexuality moderators keeps muting me due to them disagreeing with everything I post so I’m not sure I’m able to provide any info at all. I do hope you get some help, everything will work out for you

nomo · Aug 9, 2023

Foreverfree said: ↑

Hello all,

I would like to know your thoughts if someone is having the same big problem I'm having in quitting porn once and for all... I just can't despite all my efforts, I keep relapsing after a week, sometimes 2, sometimes 3...

Here's my story in short... I'm 53, been doing PMO since I was 15, I never realised until 2016 that it was toxic and and shit... You name it, I thought of all the words when I discovered the sites like this one back in 2016. What used to be fun relaxation time became something quite toxic and self destructive when I realised what a fool I had been all those years...

In 2013, 3 years before a long term relationship with my girlfriend came to a stop when I didn't expect it... I had it all at the time with her for over 13 years... Nice house, making several trips a year, good job, a dog, big fish tank, finches, I had my collector GMC trucks I worked on and drove...Life was sweet.... Then disaster hit in 2013.... She left me, and the big hearted woman I had known turned into a devil in disguise who threathened me to throw away my beloved things if I didn't leave the house within 2 weeks.... I had lucky me, an extension to 3 weeks... But the nasty behavior didn't stop....

Anyway, found myself living as roommate with a family I knew nothing of, in a very dark basement turned into an appartment.... I had lost my job a couple months before and got a job I hated in the meantime an hour drive.... I moved 8 times 6 years....

Got on dating sites, and since 9 years it's been 9 years of being rejected, abused for my kindness, ghosted, you name it.... So here I am in 2022 in a condo I bought in 2019 but turned out to be more sadness than a home, due to always being alone and add teleworking to that loneliness since 2 1/2 years...

Therefore since 2018, I feel so lonely, so sad and lost all hope of getting back the life I had before... And my condo is no escape, as soon as I come in, I start to feel even worse... I gotta go somewhere... So since 2016 I tried to quit porn with all my heart, even see a sex therapist since 3 years to understand my behavior... She says it's a way for me to stop from suffering right now, especially when tired and depresssed, but I have so many regrets and culpability for relapsing every time that this struggle is pulling what little energy I have left.... I keep trying again everytime I relapse, but that makes me so sad, I would like so much to be a better myself, but I say to myself, why? I have no one, and dating is only getting worse and worse since covid, that the hope of finding someone and getting back a normal life is out of reach for me, so this motivation not to relapse is not there....

Anyone in my situation? Sorry for the long text, I just wanted to explain my situation..
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Put your energy elsewhere. Instead of focusing on meeting women to date, focus on activities with other people who can become your friend. Make friends with both men and women, and maybe one of those women will become interested in you for more than a friendship. If that happens you have won! You will have friends and a girlfriend, perfect.
Good luck.

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