New discovery. I think I’ve figured out why PA husband has been crazy defensive gaslighting and back to his not-so-charming asshole self. IMDB Parental advisory. R movies with explicit sexual content. He’s perusing for risqué movies with his favorite actresses and using Not in Watchlist as a springboard. I discovered through perusing his accountability ap. So behold; my first real understanding of p-sub. Since his original deviance of choice was cybersex in chatrooms, reading sexual movie text is probably the best thing. And fairly covert. Earlier tonight he got upset and emotional from a dog dying in Babe Pig in the City. This is not a common occurance but dogs are his weak spot. Our dachshund died a year ago. So I show him affection and empathy and then while I give the girls a bath he creeps for sexual text including Rachael Weisz. I’m not sure how to approach this as I did not have a boundary for this before. Advice would be helpful. I’m pleased that my intuition was correct as something going on... and he has purchased ED pills without saying anything to me. Even tonight when we did FANOS. When we got to sobriety all he said was “No change.” This whole thing is an annoying use of time. I’ve detached enough I’m not even emotionally upset but curious if a break up may be impending.