Any advice for P.E.?

I have similar case and i dont know what to do, they said its mentally but idk man i feel stressed out

 

Yes exactly man its ruin moment

For me its even worse , i even ejaculate when my pants still on,, im really scared

I just cant understand im past thay 90days of nofap even beyond but why did this happen to me

 

We have similiar case, and i cant even find the answer in this forum, so why dont we try to solve it

I will try something too

If one of us have improvement, we share here , what do u think?

 

Because this is a mind games, i tried to fasting from instagram and youtube short

And i think i will try to use cold water to wash my face and hair before perform (not like a wet cat, just wash and dry it)

And i will do that before the penetrstion phase too, if the first one did make any difference

 

I used the cold water and some breathing technique and its works man,, even tho its just + 2mins its still some imrpovement

 

I perform wudu (islamic way of clean, like washing face etc with cold water ) before we do it

Take time on 4play take a really long time on it, its not always a stimuli , u can flirt, make fun etc,, everytime my brain is too high i coold it down by breathing slowly with nose not with mouth

When the times comes to penetrat, breath slowly and think in my brain that is not a pene , its just like having a boner when using a jeans, itd not Sx so calmed down myself

And it happens my plus 2 minutes

 

There was a guy who used to be on this forum about a year ago, his name was Modern Milarepa. You can search for him, but his account was banned. But he said he would have sex without ejaculating, and that he could have sex no condom, and last for an hour or more. He had a 500+ day streak.

Here is one of his posts. Idk if it can help either one of you, but he had a different perspective on sex, which may help either one of you

https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/431-days-no-pmo-semen-retention-while-having-sex.312721/

 

I list several different things you can try in this thread in 3 different replies:
https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/has-anyone-cured-pe.341037/

 

Is sex with condom prolong the duration tho?

 

I haven’t had sex in a while, but in the past, for me, yes. Especially if I didn’t put any wetness inside the condom, like just dryness. Then one time I didn’t feel anything at all, like I was just numb, because I only felt the condom which was rubbery texture

 

Swinging in without reading anything else except the last post, here goes.

First you have to check in with that wife. We have the perception from porn that women want to have sex "for hours," and that isn't true. Make sure it's not your insecurities informed by bad media that's the problem, not your "stamina."
But I relate. Addicted, you have DE and off it you have PE, it's stupid.

My wife is a pelvic floor therapist. I asked her about it, and she said the only thing is acclimation therapy. That is, real sex with your wife, more than once a week. Take your time, communicate, don't stress too much about it. Enjoy it for what it is supposed to be; intimate connection between pair bonded partners. Again, porn gives us the wrong impression, making it seem like sex is about passion, athleticism, prolonged ecstasy. We easily forget those are actors, acting. Real sex is about relationship. When you quiet performance anxiety, both of you can enjoy one another better.

And last, there seemed to be a reference to non-ejaculatory sex, or karezza. It's a thing, it's real, but it's achieved roughly the same way my wife described; exposure therapy. You can look it up on your own, but proponents swear by the practice (though they can get a little weird, imo). They recommend a lot of cuddling, a lot of eye contact, definitely don't try any motion for a long time, don't even try penetration if that's an issue. Again, take the focus off "we're doing this thing with our genitals" and place it on bonding, you can gradually move up to more stimulating stuff and be cool with it. But seriously,. check in with your wife before trying any of this stuff and respect her position. It's a joint decision.

 

I don't think porn is the only cause of "the human sexual experience being about penetration and marathon f***ing"

I bet hundreds of years ago, and thousands of years ago, there was still an ego thing about having sex for a long time and being a "powerful man"