Why do women play hard to get?

I understand that there are so many reactions, so many types of situations that play a role, and other variables. However, like you said, if the signs are obvious and she doesn't give me the attention that I want (which has been going on for months) than I should except it as that. I realized that she has gone through a tough relationship prior to our first encounter, and that's something I don't want to mess with. One of the things we haven't addressed upon is the female's history: Their family and friends, past relationships, and so on. Now that I know, it's better for me to move on and leave her alone. I'll still say hi, but nothing more that that.

 

Well being a porn addict is just part of a person's character, even though it's problematic. Whether she knows that or not is none of my concern. However, since you're pretty much a porn addict yourself, you can't hold yourself non-accountable either. If someone was a smoker, would that mean that they would make a bad partner to someone else? Just because of this one flaw? Given the fact that these are two different addictions, you can't judge a single characteristic of one person to assume that they don't deserve to be with someone. She doesn't like me; that's all there is to it. And other that, we just don't have any chemistry.

However, I have encountered women in the past who have liked me and have had some interest. Why? It's because of my character, my charm, my humor, and so on. If they knew I had a porn addiction, would you think they'd even care? And just because you and I are porn addicts, does that mean that neither of us deserves a partner? I think not; you deserve one just as much as I do.

And the whole purpose of Nofap is to find ways to break our porn addictions, work on ourselves, find ways to improve our confidence around women, and so on. So yeah, I don't agree that just because I'm a porn addict makes me unsuitable to have a partner. It's one's character and the chemistry between a male and female that really matters. Even if she had a porn addiction instead, I wouldn't look past her flaws, but rather, the more positive things that she processes.

 

Yeah you have some good advice. But like I've told the other guys, I've been winging it with this girl for months on and off. And nothing is happening. However, even though she's not giving me any signs, she's always "nice" at least. But even that isn't good enough, so I'm pretty much giving up. I do know my limits. You know? And sure, I've chased other women, but in the end, it was worth it. And you can tell by the chemistry that I shared with them. You can just tell when a woman likes you. However, this lady isn't having any of it. I can't even get past the first chapter of the book. She hasn't really "rejected" me yet, but I feel it's not worth my time.

I guess besides body language, emotional ques, and so on, one of the things to consider is the person's history. Sometimes, this can play a part in how and why a person behaves or acts that way, especially when it comes to relationships. Ever wonder why that girl is always bitchy and pushes away every dude that tries to get her? Well we have some clues at least. And apparently, I heard some asshole was messing with her before our first encounter. But yeah, it's clear that I've been trying for quite some time, but I think I need a break. Thanks for the advice though.