Why do women play hard to get?

Maybe she is not playing anything. Maybe she's just not interested in you in any way, as a man or as a friend? I don't know. Sometimes people act closed, either because of their personality or because they really think they don't like you. But if you keep constantly showing up while at the same time showing that you have value for them - cheerful, funny, helpful, whatever, then usually people who are open to getting to know us, they open with time. So if that haven't happened with time if I were in your position I would just give up. If you are sending all the signs that you wanna be friend and they are sending all the "no" signs then eventually you gotta give up, or else you will just turn to obsessed, creepy/weird, annoyance for them. There are plenty of interesting people around who might be interested in you, that are worth your time.

As far as why women play hard to get, I think for the most part it's just automatic reaction of protection in a way. Because most people are boring. They are not worthy of their time. Just because you're man does not automatically makes you qualified to hit on her and just because you are friendly does not automatically qualifies you as a potential friend. We have to provide some type of value to people. Make then lough, make them at ease, build the energy up, etc. If not you are just a waste of time for them. And because most people are like that the default position for most is to be skeptical at first, until we prove ourselves. So that's what playing hard to get or uninterested really serves for, it filters gold from sand so to speak.

And then of course there is also that hard to get game people play for fun. I personally don't want to deal with that crap. I don't enjoy chasing. A little bit is all good and fun. But if a woman is overdoing it I will just move on. At some point the game becomes boring to me and we gotta cut the crap.

Or you could try something else. Like maybe becoming becoming friend to her friends, making them wanting to hang out with you. So then she sees that you are valuable. That's the human psychology, we often want what others want.

 

As Mr. Shugi Shugi said, maybe she's just not in to you at all, you can't win em all.
But on the other hand, if you have a strong gut feeling she is just playing hard to get, than she very well could be.

Now this may sound a little strange and possibly even a little wrong, but what often works with those hard to get sassy women is being a little mean -- not straight up insulting her, but little playful things like "Ugh you're still here?" or mocking something she says. It's all about tone of voice and body language, something that might seem rude with the wrong non-verbals can turn the tables on the hard-to-get girls if said right.

DISCLAIMER: Do not try this on women close to you or your friends, women you work with, or spend large amounts of time around, etc...

 

Yeah, the kind of girl I would use the "mean" thing on generally isn't long-term relationship material to me.

 

Women play hard to get to seem more valuable and attractive than they actually are. They expect you to give them attention. That's exactly what you're doing with this girl and it's certainly not helping you.

Forget about her, if she's interested she'll let you know, and if not you've got (or should have) other options lined up.

 

total waste of time. so many girls out there! It's not worth it to deal with emotionally heavy people like that. You'd rather have someone simpler like you seem to be yourself.

once you stop chasing, i guarantee she'll notice it, and even if she doesn't throw herself at you, she'll definitely respect you more coz right now you aren't earning respect for continuing the pursuit and it may even come off as desperate. Also it's not really about them respecting you but also about you respecting your own actions. Throwing yourself at someone isn't really self-respecting in my view.

 

Because the way a lot of men act ENCOURAGES this type of behaviour.

But I think it's time for YOU to play a little harder to get.
To her.
That is my advice, over and out.

 

Worth a shot. Try it and see what happens, why not.
She might have to step up her game ;-)
I don't know what will happen but...yeah!

 

Also OP be open to the fact that she just is NOT interested. It is not the end of the world, but at least you've stopped wasting your time on a deadbeat. A girl that plays hard to get romantically will be difficult as a friend, and even then she might drop hints and then step back. So being a friend doesn't have to be the next option. It doesn't have to be that way!

 

My experience of 44 years tells me that women normally do not play

Maybe you are playing - and then maybe it's your projection ?
And maybe you just want to be hunter, hunting for prey.

Just take her as she is. It you feel that you are not compatible, then just let it be. In a few weeks, you will have forgotten her.

 

they are not playing hard to get, they have there own past baggage they are dealing with also. just like you and me.

 

Nothing wreaks worse than desperation.

A.) Because they value themselves.
B.) Because if they didn't we wouldn't get off of our lazy asses.
C.) Fucking with people is fun.

 

keepin it 1000

 

You made the decision of a true self-respecting gentleman, and not that of the white knight!

MUCH RESPECT Namekian! I am sure you will feel better too, even though it may be disappointing, too, after all the effort you put in. A part of us wants to get that which we can't have. I've been there. When they reject you, you may feel that you lack something, and you want them to validate you. I've played the white knight way too many times. But once I decided to stop doing that and step back and respect myself, there's nothing more fulfilling then putting the reins in your own hands!!

You'll look back at this and be content with your decision. AND STAY FIRM BROTHER! We're here to help each other and bring out the best in each other!