Why do I keep hurting her without her knowledge?

@OntheSurf4ce , I've always found the chaser effect to be very powerful. I always feel horny the morning after sex with my wife - triggered in part by the lovely, fresh, vivid memories. Alas, she has a low libido so is seldom interested more than once every 10 days. This did present a challenge to me early in reboot when the urges were strong and old habits also fresh in the memory. With 89 days behind me now, I still notice the chaser effect but feel that PMO is safely in the past, so I don't feel I'm in danger of relapsing. I haven't (yet) experienced Flatline, so I can't comment on whether that modifies the strength of the chaser effect.

I'm impressed with the progress you are making. Your SO sounds like an absolute gem. Stay determined, stay close to her and be completely honest and open and you will both get to where you need to be, with porn out of your lives forever.

Good luck to you both

ANH