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Struggling with long term streak

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Your hope, Jul 27, 2023.

  1. Jul 27, 2023 #1
    Your hope

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    Guys for the past 4 months I've been trying to get a great long term streak with my pmo addiction. The reason im doing it is because I've escalated to stuff that doesn't match my sexual orientation. I'm struggling with transgender p addiction and been trying to get at least week off from pmo but I can't go more than 1 day without it. But i orgasm on vanilla p. After i relapse i feel bad but the thing is for the next 24hrs i don't feel any urges and things are going well. After that strong urge just suddenly hits me and It's so hard to control myself when i feel it. Any tips to get out of this cycle? I'm even struggling to get a 3 day streak.
     
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  2. Jul 27, 2023 #2
    Spontifex

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    Yeah those urges ... unfortunately they'll hardly ever go totally away, they do get weaker though. Urges, craving ... Two things. One is addressing the urges on a physical level, the sensations on the body, the energy. See it as waves, urges come and go, they never stay. Practice observing them, just observing the bodily experience and stay out of the content, the story, the images, the narrative, which address the second: mental skills. When thoughts and images, memories arise with the urges, the craving, apply the 10 minute rule, or 15. Be strongly determined for 10, 15 minutes not to give in. Keep reminding yourself they are only thoughts and images trying to get you back in, don't believe those thoughts. And build an image of a sobre, healthy, free you that you visualise instead. Practice this, try this and see how it works. Start exploring how your mind and body functions, start experimenting and keep those addictive images at a distance. Hope this is helpful. Stay strong and keep going.
     
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  3. Jul 27, 2023 #3
    +TenPercent

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    There's a thing people on here talk about called "the chaser effect". Regardless of how long or short the last streak was . . . after MO, it is like the sexual organs have been "activated" and many guys and girls experience intense urges somewhere between 2 to 5 days after an O. The urges can be very strong and when you're 2, 3, 4 days in, it might feel like they'll never go away. Good news is that this effect wears off around day 5.

    Knowing that, maybe you can hang on for a bit longer next time you get to three days? Try to make it to 5, and then 6! Then keep going.

    @Spontifex is spot on. Urges can hit at any time and they can be pretty intense. The thing about the chaser effect is that this is a period when urges are pretty much guaranteed to strike.
     
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  4. Aug 4, 2023 #4
    Your hope

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    Thanks for replying.

    I'll try my best to get 5 day streak.

    The thing is when i relapse i get completely disgusted by what i watched and i feel like normal self. I'm more sure about stuff and more mindfull,but when these urges hit, it's like you forget about everything and want to do the same thing.

    One thing i want to ask @Spontifex says that these urges never go away. So am i doomed? I don't want to have cravings to watch transgender porn ever again so that's not possible?

    I mean there was a guy, dr_persistent was his name if i remember and he had a same problem but after 4-5 years he said he completely lost interest in transgenders.

    I never had an interest in transgenders and it's learned behavior. So will my cravings to watch transgender porn go away? Or not? Im confused
     
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  5. Aug 4, 2023 #5
    Spontifex

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    Urges are one thing, content is another. What I am saying is don't wait for those urges to NEVER come back again and meanwhile you keep relapsing which of course will again strengthen them which is a vicious circle obviously. No, let the urges come and learn how to surf.
     
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  6. Nov 17, 2023 #6
    Heypleasehelpme

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    Just download sober app where you will notice so many people are trying to quit and indulge into that app and brother please just think one more day you don't have to clean for months but only one day and the small actions will turn into a big outcomes best of luck
     
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