{SO's and PA's} Where do you get relational support for recovery?

I've been going to a church-based porn recovery group based on Pure Life.
1 on 1 personal counseling
Have a priest friend I can talk openly with

 

I don't have any personal recovery support. I just work through it on my own.

Hubby is seeing a CSAT once a week or every 2 weeks, as his schedule allows. He also attends SA and has a sponsor, who is also becoming a friend.

As for our marriage, his strong commitment to recovery and 100% honesty is really what is bringing us back together.

 

I once went to an RCA (Recovering Couples Anonymous) meeting. They are rare. Interesting format. I actually did not like it. The couple is in recovery together. The couple has to share together, they have to both agree to share and then they each get to say their bit. But an individual cannot share on their own.

A former sponsor of mine started the local meeting. He and his wife, who is in S-Anon, are big believers. For once, I was not (I know *shocked*). I won't knock it, it just wasn't for me (and my ex-wife).

-Quinn

 

We've been doing it together, by ourselves, just using online resources like NoFap, daily talks with each other, watching videos, and reading articles.

 

Hubby and I are doing it together but we have a husband and wife (20 year friendship) friends that know 100% everything all the details. He’s a recovering alcoholic with around 25 years of sobriety. Any of us can talk to each other if we need to. They were both there for us/me with the first DDay.

I also have my mom, she knows the first half of it all (DDay #1). My husband isn’t ready yet to disclose the PA half but she is aware of the physical cheating. She is very supportive us with what she knows. I needed my mom more than anything at that time.

We have his lifelong best friend and wife that know about both and some of the PA. Not gory details but my husband has had conversations with him/them about the PA stuff. They are also very supportive for us.

Other than that NF has been huge for us, especially with the shared wealth of knowledge and experiences.

Lots of books about affair recovery and information on line.

 

My "inner circle" is my wife and my sister, day to day. My sister is like my AP, but I have full disclosure with my wife.

Just recently told my foster parents (who I view as true family), and they have been exceptionally supportive. My Mum is a trained psychologist, and she has talked me through a few things. I intend keeping them in the loop as regards my progress.

Recently discovered what I firmly believe is the root cause of my addiction and have started attending a support group locally to deal with the that.

I do my best to support my wife, and she also has my sister (they are great friends) and her own sister as her inner circle.

Relationship recovery - the two of us are working on resources that @Numb kindly provided and some ideas that @Broken3 has posted. Mrs Harp and I have always been good friends first, so we have quite a good relationship, considering what I put her through. Like @Jagliana said above, constant communication. We don't let questions hang in the air - we talk and we're honest.

 

Communication & honesty are SO important! If you two have that I think the rest will fall into line