Small p and premature ejaculation

quit all sexual activities. That would be my advise and stop all rumination about sex. You are not a beta. pleasure of few seconds or even minutes should not make you lose your respect for yourself and get humiliated

 

That's very true. We are not alone.

 

Same and same (small and premature), got into the same things … short of hooking up with other men.

How does your wife feel? Do you give oral? That’s been my saving Grace. What are your goals?

 

I cum early too, and I'm still searching for a solution.

 

My solution is giving oral. Not much I can do about being small, and the more I worry about PE, the quicker it happens! So I give good oral and accept the rest.

 

Oh no no no. This misconception of masculinity is the problem. They tell you you are not okay. Why? Green eyes? Red hair? Small penis? What does it need to be a man? Everlasting xlarge penis or being a loving partner?
And: Alpha, Beta: that's bullshit!

There's so much to say. Two things are important:

• You are okay, as you are
• Don't doctor around on the symptoms, focus on the source

 

Most of those guys are dumb as f. A large pipi won't help there.

 

Allow yourself to be vulnerable and don’t live it in your head. Say to the girl or your partner “ I’m going to explode I find you so damb good. Work together, Make them feel special and the sex improves massively. It cancels out all that mental garbage about how you need to go 18 minutes 30 seconds to be any good. Vibe with it. Deep breaths through your nose, pinch your helmet when you’re close, swap position etc and encourage yourself

 

My husband is also on the small side, though he doesn’t suffer PE. I’m realizing it’s more dependent on me rather or not he makes me orgasm. If I get super into it, he makes me have very strong orgasms. If I’m not into as much, I end up faking it.

If I watch a lot of porn, it’s hard for me to get super into sex.

my husband is only around 4-4.5 inches long (luckily rather thick tho.) my only other lover was MUCH bigger, probably close to 8 inches long and super thick, I can tell you I never came with him.

don’t let size bother u, just learn to use it. And if u still don’t make her cum, it’s probably her problem.

 

This! All of what you wrote is so helpful to hear, but I firmly believe that I can and should give my partner orgasms … and I do, every time. Though it’s always by hand or by mouth.

Whenever my girlfriend gets really into it … I’m done for.
Literally, the very second I sense her getting into it, I sense that she really wants to f*ck, not just make love and then I immediately prejac.

I regret that I have never been able to give her the sex that she’s had with other guys, but I try to make up for that by being really good at doing it my way - slow comfortable love making, as slow as possible, never deep but attentive.

 

@kimmyb - have you ever told your husband about your other lover’s penis? How did he react?

Being small myself, 4 1/2 inches and slightly thick, I know that every girl I’ve been with has been with bigger guys. (Statistically, 95% of men are longer than 4.5” so it’s a safe bet!) but … hearing about it is different. My ex girlfriend had slept with a guy as big as you described and when she told me about it

Spoiler: Trigger Warning

I compulsively masturbated five times that day! And twice the next day … at work!

It’s uncomfortable and confusing that I have that kind of reaction, and that it’s so extreme when faced with the prospect of a competitor with 4 more inches than me.

On another note. I love that you are clear that your husband does have a small penis and that he’s a great lover. “Size doesn’t matter” - that BS never helped me. What helps is facing facts. I have a short penis. I literally can’t do certain positions because it’s too short.
I accept that and I make up for it … with oral. For me there are only two options - give my partner oral and an O before sex … or give her oral and an O after sex.

 

He asked before and I told him. I also told him how uncomfortable it was.