Sissy porn recovery?

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by lifespark, Apr 19, 2019.

  1. lifespark

    lifespark Fapstronaut

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    Hey. Has anyone ever successfully recovered from viewing sissy hypno? I used to be a heterosexual guy totally into women who felt 100% masculine. Now when I see the kind of women that used to turn me on, I start to swish, I take on her mannerisms, I want to wear her clothes. I want to be her essentially. I now get hard from the idea of being the women that I used to want to go to bed with.

    Last night, I saw a girl I used to be crazy for and instead I'm wishing I was her. Checking out her hair, make-up and I came home and started looking at women's fashion shopping sites to see if I could buy something to wear so I can basically become her. I haven't viewed sissy porn of any kind for a month now and if anything, the feelings are getting stronger. I'm not into guys or cocks and I still feel a romantic attraction to women but I'm no longer masculine.

    I just want to know if this can eventually be beaten or whether it will remain as a trace part of me. I would hate to be spending the rest of my days fighting off urges to act like a woman. It takes every bit of energy I have to not want to feel girly around women. I'm living a 24/7 waking nightmare. I worry I have completely messed my brain chemistry up for good.
     
  2. locomia

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    This is terrible,man.But I think you should do some introspection ,there maybe are deep facts more than that hypno sessions you made to reach this state of madness,you have.
     
  3. lifespark

    lifespark Fapstronaut

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    Porn escalation. 100% porn escalation.
     
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  4. ZenAF

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    First of all, there's nothing wrong with acting girly as a man. Go ahead an be a girly man then. Clearly you want to make that experience right now.
    I don't believe in the hypnosis bullshit. I've watched tons of sissy stuff, I'm still not gay, I've never cross dressed and don't feel the urge to become a woman. I just liked the filthy femdom aspect of it. I think if it works on you it's because you want it to. And that's fine.

    You come here to get rid of porn. Do so. Once you got rid of ALL porn for at least a year, analyze you situation again. Do you feel miserable because you want to be a woman? Or do you feel miserable because you think you're supposed to be different?

    Some things need to be lived out and experienced before they can go away. I'm not saying this is necessarily one of those situations but it could be.
    But as long as you're addicted to porn you won't know who you really are.
     
  5. Rando115

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    You just gotta wean yourself off it ..its dangerous bro. You used to be stunning as a masculine guy.
    I've seen someone tell you to be a girly man. Those are not your people. Fight your demons fam
     
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  6. lifespark

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    I agree. I felt great as a guy. I loved it. I remember when I was able to grow a goatee for the first time. I loved it. I'm the only member of my family who can grow facial hair and I can remember how virile it made me feel when I first realised I could do that. I feel miserable feeling girly. It's not denial. I know who I am. Hypnosis is NOT bullshit as another poster here has stated. Derren Brown in the UK successfully brainwashed a subject through hypnosis to shoot someone live. The person involved was in on it and the gun fired blank rounds. It can be done.
     
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  7. ivanhoe

    ivanhoe Fapstronaut

    Got to disagree here. That might be YOUR experience but it's different from everyone else. All that stuff might be related to other childhood trauma or the brain's weird way of trying to fulfill some other need.

    And there is something wrong with acting girly as a man. no one who wants to improve themselves and make something of themselves, as the OP clearly wants to - will get anywhere giving into any and every 'feeling' the worst advice you can give someone is 'hey just do what you feel'
     
  8. lifespark

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    I never said that my experiences are the same for everyone else and I don't know where you got the sense that I did. If you can watch Derren Brown - The Assassin. He successfully programmed a man to 'kill' another person. He then deprogrammed him after the show to remove those triggers.
     
  9. ivanhoe

    ivanhoe Fapstronaut

    @lifespark, I was replying to @ZenAF - that his experience with Sissy porn may not be the same as yours and that i thought his advise to you was unwise.
     
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  10. lifespark

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    Sorry chap. Crossed wires.
     
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  11. ZenAF

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    I didn't tell him that he has to do or be anything. However I also didn't assume out of default that he's a straight guy that got confused. How would you know whats up with him?

    And ignoring feelings as if they're nothing is not advisable. I didn't tell him to keep watching sissy hypnosis videos, quite the opposite. But if he feels like cross-dressing and feeling like a woman, how do you know that's not the way forward for him. Even if it's just for a while before he realizes that's not really who he wants to be.

    Unless he clearly states "I don't want to be a woman ever, I know from the bottom of my heart I don't, I'm suffering from compulsive thoughts" then we really don't know what he needs right now. Except that quitting porn is always a good idea.
     
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  12. ZenAF

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    Derren Brown is a stage hypnotist. How can you trust someone like that to be honest?

    Hypnosis does work of course. But the subject needs to be willing to accept the hypnotic suggestions. If you fight it, it doesn't work.
    That's why I was saying a part of you obviously wants the feminzation to happen. That doesn't mean that part is right about who you are, maybe you were just curious.

    I said "I don't believe in this hypnosis bullshit" and meant those sissy hypnosis videos since that's what we're talking about. And again, unless you WANT it to work, it won't work. It can't just change you without your consent. What's bullshit is that they, and others who post here too, make it seem like it will work regardless.
     
  13. BigOne79

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    It’s all the porn bro. You will have to stay away from it for at least a year like another poster said on this thread. You have to get your mind clear of this. Also, get yourself into other habits and not looking at magazines. Working out is a great way to help your mind. Bicycle or go for a walk. Go to the mall and walk around. Keep your mind focused on other things. You will get better. I need at least a year for PIED I have from looking at bad stimuli for a long time. It is slowly going away but have to meet up the work with myself.
     
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  14. lifespark

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    Thanks man. This is what I'm going to do. I have a bicycle in storage I haven't ridden in years. Going to pump up the tyres and get out on it. Getting out and doing things is what I need.
     
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  15. ivanhoe

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    because he's on NoFap and seems to be not happy with some of his sexual feelings that seem to have developed from 'inner sexual fantasizing' - we're all here because of that from one degree to another..
    agree 100% but giving into every one is not advisable either (and no I don't think you advised this but this is the 'zeigiest' advice since the 1960s "hey if it feels good do it!".
    agree.
    Well if I say I think I am a horse, or i want to kill myself, or that i am revolutionary war solider with an amputated arm and therefore want to get rid of my right arm would you say 'hey cool, try it'?
    Because I believe (This is where we disagree I guess) unwanted behavior or fantasies are an attempt by the brain or subconscious to fulfill some other need.. maybe its a lack of confidence and the only way to engage with the feminine - and that what he really wants is a confident way to engage with a woman (just a theory not saying that is what is)
    yes, and while i disagree with your posts I don't think you meant any advice maliciously, put i personally think it's damaging, thus my raising my objections.. I support whatever helps people recover, and I wish all people healthy recovery. I see you have 106 days under your belt (so to speak :) ) congratulations!
     
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  16. delhiboy

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    Just one free suggestion to you- run as much as you can, just so physical exercise so hard that you cant bear and so tired that you can sleep anywhere anytime. And this should be done with cutting all kinds of non-vegetarian foods like no eggs, no chicken, no milk, no meat, no pork, no fish, no mutton, no beef and essentially no gym supplement like protein powder.
    Start with at least 5 km of running in less than 12 minutes. Gradually reduce time and increase distance.

    Go for heavy weight lifting after running, keep lifting until you fall down.
    After doing this for 30 days (not essentially continuous) post here again.
    Trust me every kind of divergent thought process would be cured.
     
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  17. ZenAF

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    Well that's possible. But the fact is we don't know. As we all know our psyche is anything but straight forward.
    Oh no I certainly didn't mean that. It's not about saying something is ok if it feels good. I was rather suggesting to take feelings seriously rather than rejecting them by default because they don't fit the norm.
    We're talking about sexual identity not about suicide or self-harm.
    There are genuine cross-dressers out there. They're generally gay. And they're happy working citizens.

    Of course it is likely that he's struggling with this stuff because of sissy hypnosis. But it could also be that sissy hypnosis was just a gateway for him to clarify who his subconscious urges him to be.

    I mean this stuff is complicated. People are generally way more confused nowadays than they used to be. So of course we need to combat that, keep straight guys straight, let the gay guys who want to come out but are afraid become who they are, etc. You can't determine by a few lines someone's written about themselves who they really are and what they need.
     
  18. ivanhoe

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    wanting your penis cut off because you think you're a woman isn't self harm?

    I guess we're just going to have to disagree, i don't believe sexual identity - a lot of this is just fashionable academic theory has emerged in the last decades.. and, for political or ideological reasons the complete rejection of any suggestion the cause may lie elsewhere, I think there is something at the core that's causing this and fulfilling it isn't the answer.
     
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  19. delhiboy

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    Awesome clarity of mind. Porn abuse have effects which cannot be known so early.
    I mean ok gay are fine, but isn't it unnatural a dick liking other dick, and same with ladies lesbians. Is it against nature? I need lot of perspective here
     
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  20. ZenAF

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    Did he say he wants to do that? Come on, don't simplify it like that.

    Look I generally agree with you. I don't think sexual identity is something you chose. I'm not a post-modernist, quite the opposite. I don't believe we are born tabula rasa. Which is why I also don't believe that sissy hypnosis "just works". If it does work it plays off your insecurities OR you are denying a more feminine version of yourself which was always around to manifest itself, and that's not healthy.

    But yes, our civilization has problems with sexual identity. Just like the Romans and Greeks had before their civilizations crashed and burned. Not sure if this is stoppable. The flood is coming.
     
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