Porn has escalated me to extremity, what do I do?

Even try a 7-day challenge if 30 days is too daunting, there are challenge sections on here, where folks can encourage each other and hold themselves to account.

 

The truth is that NOBODY who hasn't gotten trapped into PMO addiction could really understand it. I believe the best help an addict can get is from other addicts in a successful state of recovery. I think that's true for food, booze, drugs, and yes even porn.

The male orgasm is the end point of most porn, it's what we all ended up seeing, focusing on, and timing our own orgasm to, eventually why even have the girl in the scene, more males = more male orgasms. I'm a straight man in my 50s, husband and father, and yep, I searched out gay porn as well. You are NOT alone in this, and trans porn allows us the illusion of looking at females but seeing the all important male orgasm, I searched that out too.

Listen, if you're gay or bi or straight, none of that matters right now, you have to reset your mind and body before trying to figure that out, you're not in a place to even worry about that right now. Fighting PMO addiction is the #1 thing for you right now.

I go to Reddit for funny videos and interesting tech stories, even ghost stories and ufo clips, but I'd caution against going there for wisdom in fighting addiction. The Internet can be a cynical and negative place, there are few safe havens, like here, where we can sincerely support each other. Be wary spilling this stuff out on!ine, for now it might be best staying here for those conversations.

 

I agree with Chrisjord best leave these other sites alone unless it is a site specifically for porn addiction and it looks like it is going to be helpful. These open forum type places you get people just jumping in with their own opinions on a subject they know nothing about.

 

Yeah, it's so annoying how those people will just call you gay as if it was so simple. People are ignorant. It takes people who experienced the same things we did or people who actually studied this matter, that's why it's a waste of time talking abt this outside NoFap communities.

 

I have recovered completely from: First: Transgender porn, sissy and femboy. Then: Femdom and bdsm in general.
For me it took a couple of years. I am so glad I started with Nofap.

 

I believe the absolute worst form of escalation is child porn. This is the scary thing about porn how it can take our morals and it can twist them.

I believe most that used CP would have never imagined they would stoop that low.

Noah B Church did a good video explaining how it can happen with someone's testimony of how it happened to them.

Really scary stuff considering the legal ramifications not to mention the guilt it would bring but thankfully CP isn't super easily accessed and there is always hope for recovery from escalation.

 

If P in general were made less accessible, the issue wouldn't be nearly as bad as it is in our culture. How long will we allow easily available P to be viewed by any kid with a smartphone? It's destroying lives. I'm a big believer in free speech, but that's not what P is, it's not about exposing folks to different ideas, P gets to your brain and rewires it.

 

Parents just seem oblivious to this. I'm thankful my son hit puberty just prior to smart phones becoming common, they were still VERY pricey and nothing to hand over to a kid.

I'm not "blaming" parents, but they really need to educate themselves. I get the urge to get your kid a phone, but they still make very reliable and safe flip-phones.

 

Isolation and free time are a bad combination for folks with addictive brains like us.
I'm glad you're here fighting with us though, stay the course brother!