Trigger Words* Mainly, cuckold, NTR ( its basically japanese cuckoldry, hentai comics and such) and humiliation porn. Even before my addiction and I could be wrong about this but vanilla porn wasnt as strong as these genres, these types of porn get me off so hard its unbelievable. Yet when I sometimes read comments under some of the videos of hentai *uck some people cant even fathom how some can masturbate and enjoy *uck porn. Why is that? Are our brains different? Is something different about our sexuality and did porn bring it out in the open? Are we just beta males with naturally low self esteem incapable of being the dominant one? Hope the questions made sense.
We might be naturally attracted to certain types but watching them brings them out more. It's like how some people have mental health problems with drugs while others can take it for years but apart from the addiction, can live relatively normal lives
Nobody is genetically wired to be a *uck for the simple reason that letting your woman have sex with another man is literally the opposite of what evolution favors. All genetic *ucks would die out in a few generations. You're designed to be dominant and procreate, just like the rest of us men. Porn most likely made you feel this way. You've been raised on videos of cherry-picked, roided out men using lighting, perspective tricks, and camera angles to make themselves look bigger, leaner, and more well endowed than they actually are. Your brain sees an abundance of men who it perceives as more desirable than itself, and freaks out, wishing to submit to the pressure rather than rival it. (I had the same issue as you. My brain just went the "I'll just be gay then" route.) The way to fix this is to rival the pressure. Work out. Make yourself the man you think other men are. Stop watching porn.
Let me throw my 5 cents here. I don't know what's cuckold pornography exactly(nor I care to check ofc) but it's something like femdom porn, isn't it? Back in the days when I was free from PMO, so basically in primary school(now I'm 27), I had extremely strong femdom fantasies. I have NO IDEA why I had such fantasies! 1. Didn't ever see P; 2. Didn't know femdom even exist; 3. Didn't see even naked woman once; 4. Never ever MO'd; 5. Had normal family. Yet still had that fantasies. Another funny fact is that I grew up from it. Once I discovered P I didn't find it attractive that much anymore. With time it was shrinking to the point that I barely enjoy this kind of porn at all(nor I watched it much) and find it weird more. I never ever would like femdom activities "live". I mostly fantasised about things that are not achievable. Probably some good sexual therapist would let us know where it come from. Maybe it would've ended up with statement "we're all different"?
If only alpha males bred, we’d have no genetic diversity. And every young mother would benefit from a stable partner- something a beta might excel in, especially compared to a lusty alpha. There are two common reactions to catching your partner with another man - one is anger and violence, the other is sexual arousal. Now, if you respond in anger, what do you get? Maybe an obedient partner, or you end up alone, back to square one. A reproductive failure until you find a new partner. But, the cuck responds with arousal. If this translates into immediately screwing the woman - then he has just increased his reproductive potential as the act of PIV will remove some of the competitors semen while depositing some of his own. And a cuck might still father a child or two of his own, if he tolerates his partner’s infidelity and helps raise the other kids. Perhaps this is even advantageous as his offspring will carry her genes and it could be argued that the successful cuckoldress is reproductively superior to the obedient wife described in the first scenario.
Makes sense. Maybe it's the brain's backup plan. You try to be the alpha male, but if there's a more powerful male you decide to be a cuck, as it's better than nothing. The men in porn trigger this circuit in our brains, and here we are.
It is about it being more "Forbidden" or "Wrong" than the regular stuff, that where the excitement comes from.
Thank you! All that makes sense. When i first got into cuck porn, i was never putting myself in the shoes of the guy being cucked, nor the "alpha" i was just getting excited at someone elses misery(sad i know). Obviously thinking that my girl with another man made me angry. This was 2 years ago, at that stage i didnt consider myself a beta. Fast forward to today, im dealing with a few mental disorders and one of the things that spikes my suicidal and anxiety feelings is when i feel like a beta male, ive had issues with inferiority issues my whole life and having been addicted to cuck porn for so long finally got in my head and i feel like a beta, im way more insecure about my size too which worsens this shit. I dont know how long i have to go before i get rid of this desensitized brain but i hope working out and stuff will get rid of this beta male mentality but i get worried often that this will not go away and im gonna have to accept i am a incompetent male.
This is probably why "sloppy seconds" is statistically one of the most searched kinks on these video sites. I doubt that's just a coincidence. This is something that has been wired into people since the dawn of time.
I won’t lie, I got super aroused by that two word combo … but, it’s good to see what our triggers are! Could be something to look at there. I’ve only had sloppy seconds once (that I know of!) but it totally makes sense to me why that would be arousing (or EXTREMELY arousing in my case) for some men. The sooner you can get in there, the better your chances of reproductive success. It also explains the urge to go down on a partner when you suspect infidelity … you might find some evidence to confirm your suspicions or the lack of evidence might give you a sense of security. Monogamy is a social construct. In reality women (and men) are absolutely wired to seek multiple partners … if they can get away with it. Much of this is explained exceptionally well in the book “Sperm Wars”
