No more Gay porn

Hmm, I always thought some women were into gay porn like men are into lesbian porn but I know what you mean being a devout Christian myself. I would look up even gay male porn myself from time to time and questioned my own sexuality because of it to the point where I started thinking I was bi, but for some reason, when I see males out in public, it doesn't do anything for me. Only porn of it. Then I found traps which was a compromise and now I look at traps just as much as when I look at straight or lesbian porn. You got into it at a pretty young age. I started looking at porn around 14 and I'm 26 and married now. Let me tell ya, it's really taking a toll on my sex life to where I just can't stay aroused when I have intercourse with my wife. I feel that I've been desensitized. I'm new on this site too but I'm ready to quit.

 

Desensitisation is real.. that's literal physical desensitisation of the penis..plz read more about it..

Wish you all the best for this journey..

You're not alone!

 

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Hi welcome to nofap!

Thanks for sharing your story. I' like to suggest that you need to reprogram your brain into natural sexual habits since it has seen online sexual stimulations so much so that from here on the level of wierd material your mind will demand, is beyond imagination. It may very well be seem normal to you at the time..but this will lead you to real damage psychologically, emotionally and physically..

I'd suggest to immediately stop PMO and start doing MO using imagination and eventually giving that up as well with time..

Wish you all the best for the journey!

You're not alone!

 

As for me, I'm cutting out PMO and MO and only have sexual activities with my wife.

 

Hi. Welcome to forum!

Yes. It's kind of normal. Well, watching porn to begin with is not normal and not healthy. But fantasizing about opposite sex is normal thing for straight person. And it's more fun in company than alone. Plus you are straight so watching female do it with a guy is less fun (cos you are attracted to only one of them) so why not replace her with another He. So combine those things and you get get what you get, it all makes sense.

As far as your reboot, make sure you crate a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!