Nice Guy Paradox?

You must be quite unique then, since you say you are a nice guy, beta male, low testosterone, small penis, don’t do sportsball and your only quality is actually being nice. Yet you are able to hook up with strippers and porn stars.

I'd take it as an absolute win if you got cheated by bad girls, at least you got with bad girls in the first place. Most guys with your CV wouldn't be able to do that thing.

 

Not sure there is such thing as this "nice guy" paradox, at least from my perspective. I've always considered myself to be an inbetweener between the stereotypical nice guy, and the bad boy. Tough in a lot of areas but I to tend to be a little too nice if it ever came to love. I guess this is why my dating life has always been non-existent mostly because I am too shy and scared to talk to women in the first place, but also because I am still trying to figure out who exactly I am.

 

I think its easy to beat yourself up about the nice guy syndrome thing. I have too and its easier to do so when a relationship ends. I guess it also depend on how old you are. If your a younger guy and the women your dating or attempting to date are child bearing age then it will be a bigger problem because they are more likely to want something closer to alpha than not. Not all women demand that in a guy though so it might be a case of resetting you goals to something more realistic. But you have to stop carrying that nice guy chip on your shoulder because the vibe is defiantly picked up on...by everyone not just the bad girls. I know this first hand. You just have to get out of your own way sometimes and put your big boy pants on a stop bemoaning that life isn't fair. Do things that make you feel good about yourself and reframe your thinking. Get some CBT therapy if need be but either way change things up a little and set you sail in a new direction. Its all good. Everyone has challenges in life, Its how you react to them is the key.

 

I used to be bothered about being the 'nice guy' but now I don't care about all that. I try to live out my values and it's up to people if they want to place labels on me. I say forget about being a 'nice guy' or a 'bad boy' just be who you want to be. At the end of the day, this is your life.

"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice". - Steve Jobs