Need to spill my guts

Ok, so you found a fitness expert on youtube, and then used that information to create your own workout. A personal trainer would be kind of the same thing, yes?
What do you think, then, of going to a mental health expert, like a counsellor, social worker, or doctor, to get help with the depression - to give you the skills to get through the tough parts so you can create a routine of your own?

 

I never said medication - I said see an mental health expert for advice! Baby steps

Now that you mention it, medication can be a good way to help you get your happy self back - like using a cast while your bones heal or a brace while your muscles regain definition. But, and I cannot overstate this enough - if you do not want meds, you do not have to take meds. Except for the month of December, I have been med-free for three years. And the reason I took meds in December was because I knew I needed all the help I could get to get through it. Medication is but one of many tools to help you get back to feeling good, and a counsellor or a doctor would be able to teach, show, or refer you to many, many more. You are right that this is an uncharacteristic blip - depression often is - what are you willing to do to get back to your normal self?

Yeah, there are a lot of places you could be getting that pressure from, and then once you start seeing it you can't not keep seeing it...

What you are saying does not sound ridiculous! I know depression doesn't make sense! And fuck depression! It's a big shitty steamy ball of shit!! Full of bullshit getting down on yourself and blocking you from getting shit done! Tripping over bullshit things...Pain in my ass! I have put a lot of work thinking about those two questions you raised - where depression comes from and how it doesn't make sense - and let me say, with whatever authority 14 years of chronic depression affords me: it goes better when you're not alone. And you are not alone in this - I know no one is feeling precisely what you are, because no one else is you, but others have felt similar things and know how awful it is. I am right there in the gaddamn trenches with you, there are other people who have gone through or are going through similar things on this forum, and there are all kinds of people with specialised training and experience who can assist you through some of the tough spots and I highly, highly recommend them!

What do you think of the idea of telling this girl that you really enjoy spending time with her, and you really want to be with her, and that you are having a really difficult time and a difficult time being physical, and can you go out on dates without getting physical just yet?

 

I can't really help with the fetish thing, but I have felt the way you feel about your "size". I personally feel that it's one of those things you can't control, so there's no point thinking about it at all.

Thinking about it is not going to change the fact that it is the way it is.

Besides, you get so many opportunities with women, I'm sure there must be atleast one who doesn't care about your size.

Lol here I have a similar problem as you (the size thing), and I cannot get a woman to even talk properly xD. So I think in conclusion, you shouldn't think too much about what you don't have and focus on what you have.

 

This goes to the nub of the problem. What do you think an erect penis measures on average?

 

OK, good, so you haven't got some wild figure in your head. Your opening post on this site shows that you have been so affected by this for seven months or more. You had excellent advice from @D . J . at the time, but you are saying the same things again. I do empathise with you, but you have not moved on and for what - 0.6 of an inch below aveerage?

 

It is important to measure your erect penis correctly. Once you are certain that you have the correct information,
then you can deal with what remains. And that is the psychological component in all this, which is the biggest factor.

 

OK I didn't read through the entirety of this thread but I just want to leave my 2 cents.

First of all, here's a little secret, proper women don't give a crap about looks or penis size or whatever else you're worried about. What's important to take notice of here is that you are the one holding yourself back, no one else. You create your reality, if you're constantly overthinking and worrying and if you feel ashamed and at the end of the day you think you're a loser then other people will treat you like a loser.

There are things that we can't change about ourselves therefore it's stupid to obsess about them, however, if you can do something to feel better just do it! Shift your mindset immediately, your thoughts and concerns are keeping you from happiness, not the fetish or your body, it's all in your head, it's how you perceive all of it that creates a problem.

I see a lot of depressed people complaining that "it's not that easy to change my thoughts" and yeah they're right, but don't you dare say that you have no power over how you think because I've also been a victim of depressive thoughts about me and about the world around me and as soon as I started not caring about whatever my monkey mind threw at me, voilá, I began to feel better.

If women approach you and make a move on you if you're in such a negative state then can you even begin to imagine your real potential?

Oh yeah and sex is overrated, women who let their urges and desires control them are just as bad as PMO addicts.

Here's a thread I made some time ago that might help you clearing your foggy mind:https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/the-ultimate-positivity-guide.108225/#post-894997

 

It is easier said than done, man, but the sad part is that it can't be changed. And that's just the brutal truth.

Like you said, you have no control over it. So I think you should just take things forward with her. Like just go with the flow and see what happens. Besides, if she's the type to fuss about your size and stuff, I don't think you should stick around anyway.

Besides, they say it's only a big deal if you make it one. Maybe when she finds out, she won't even care about it?
Like if she had small boobs, but you really liked her, you probably would ignore the boobs right?

I'll be honest with you, if whatever you've written up there is even remotely true (about having so many hot gfs and all), most people would die to be in your place. (I know I would ).

 

Hey @Hisself, you cannot define yourself as a person by your penis. You are not your penis. The - am I big enough, am
I good enough - is a very male thing. The vast majority of women do not see any relevance in the size of body parts.

You can still be the perfect guy for the right girl when you meet them. Who you are as a person is the most important thing. Even if you think good sexual performance is crucial, that can be accomplished even without penetration! Most women cannot even orgasm from vaginal penetration. Even so, you are easily big enough to have intercourse, give and receive great pleasure and have a family if you wish. You have battled through 8 months on NoFap - take confidence from that!

 

So, I assume that once you have rebooted and PIED has gone, you could re-join that online community and find a partner. Your ideal partner may be hard to find, but it is not impossible. So, maintain your hope and keep moving forward buddy.

 

I don't accept that. It is masturbating to porn for years on end that makes us talk that way. But it is not true and you will eventually break free from the chains of slavery and humiliation. Completing this challenge will give you untold confidence.