Moving on with the guilt

What did you do?

 

What do you mean by "such extreme lengths" ?

 

Another point that is not that much discussed is about overthink. You know you made something awful, now you shouldn't shame yourself or think that you are the worst person alive. It's a moment to think about changes, what you did many moments before you consumed it and how can you circumvent it.
If you start to get obsessed and shameful, thoughts will start to roll over your head, making only more obsessed and then relapsing again (a cycle).
The way to avoid it is not OVERTHINK

 

If you did something illegal without consent of the other person or abused a minor you should turn yourself in to the authorities and take the punishment that is given to you.
Without more information on what you did, there isn't much advise anyone here can give you.

 

I disagree, guilt is what keeps humans in lines, besides fear of course. Without fear nor guilt, we will all be sociopathic monsters.

 

I disagree, it's not about shame, it's about learn the mistake. Sociopathic people are alive because the state is weak to defend the population

 

Guilt is about the action, shame is an identity. Guilt implies change is possible, shame tends to involve a blanket judgment.

In terms of guilt it's not about judging yourself as a good or bad person, it's about the action. Telling oneself they are either good or bad implies an absolute judgment and does not do the work of actually evaluating the action, not just the judgment but what it may cause.

From this perspective of evaluation, which will involve not having all the answers (but still a concerted effort) BOTH positive and negative identification are kind of a cop out, it doesn't really tell us anything and is too easy and doesn't do the work.

 

A super simple look is that action is about change, identification is about remaining the same. Guilt is about action and shame is about identification.

The flip side or positive identification is understandable, to want to lock in positive change but it kind of misses the point and is not realistic, but plenty of people try to do that in some form.

 

I would put my Focus on my Feelings and Emotions and see how my Body reacts to it, by that means -> before and after I have watched P. and MO.d to it. What is it that you felt uncomfortable?

You have said that you went through some extreme extents....what is it?
....it can not be as much shocking as I have experienced in the Past, but never made it public anywhere. And I have seen literally everything.

 

Can you ever recognize the weight of a mistake without guilt or shame ?

 

Nop, but keep stucked on those feelings won't make the person evolve, will feed the vicious cycle.

 

We still don't know what OP did. Could have been something relatively trivial he's catastrophizing in his head.

 

Practise self-compassion. Give this podcast a listen to.

 

We can give advice without knowing the details. We don't need to know everything. It's not a good idea to go into detail on this forum because other users will use it against you.

 

i think we should acknowledge it first, but not accept, otherwise we'll not feel any guilty or shameful.just like DeepRecovery said, guilt is about the action,which implies change is possible. paying attention to action is pretty significant cause sole emotions or affections themselves don't make sense and even harm physically.