Managing PMO instead of abstaining

Managing pmo is out of the question. Managing mo is more reasonable.

 

Throw away your old collection I have this problem we all have this problem of our minds controlling us to do things out of fear that's the egoic mind you can easily tell when it's your egoic mind taking control when you are not living in the present and worrying about the past or future your true self your higher consciousness knows that pmo is terrible for you and wants you to get rid of it but your mind is almost never a representation of who you are because it's just trying to protect this identity that it's known for so long it's similarly to us wanting to try new things but are ego talks us out of it so be mindfully of what your thinking because most times it's negative thoughts that haven't happened or have happened already all we can do is live in the now to do anything else is resistance and with resistance comes suffering

 

I can remember going to the adult dvd store browsing the shelves looking like a total perve and wondering what the other people were renting.

I remember jamming into an unsanitary small booth with a dvd player and television that was so unclean with a roll of toilet paper and a garbage can.

The internet took this all away and allowed us to watch porn privately and anonymously.

I too threw out my DVD collection, only to re-find them online. I am searching the internet for pornstars of the past attempting to hold onto memories of my youth back when the dirty movies were actually produced.

When I meditate and think about it, I truly have no fond memories watching porn. There is no really no such thing as moderation of PMO. Porn was evil back then and it is still evil now.

 

Managing watching porn is not worth having the withdrawals trust me.

 

Thing is, you wouldn't tell an alcoholic to manage his drink, so we can't expect to be able to manage our PMO as we are addicts.

So maybe nofap is the answer.

Thing is people have to realize that nofap on its own isn't the answer. You need to channel that energy and start building the life and person you want to be.

 

Im Christian but that doesn't matter the same concepts are pretty much found in every faith and religion whatever works for you most of this I got from "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle it's a very spiritual book and ever since NoFap my spirituality and faith have gotten stronger pmo keeps us at one of the lowest vibrations possible

 

Do Christians believe in semen retention?

 

I just cant, I convince myself I can do 1 a week, then its 2 a week, then 1 every day, then 2, 3, 4, 5.

I just cant stop once I start

 

Do nofap for a year then only mo once a month max

 

Nah, I know myself too well. Doing nofap casually is like doing heroin casually. Sooner or later you will need more.

 

Let me put it this way.

I dont want to need or want masturbation. If I want anything sexual, it needs to be with a partner.

Sex will always be great, because its not competing with a hand.

You will always be energetic because of semen retention.

I just dont see why anyone would suggest that M is even necessary for living.

 

Sorry, you’re right. I’d go no mo for life if I can unless with partner, but most people don’t want to hold out too long after they are done with nofap, so I just want to give them an idea. But no release for long times, to me, may be unrealistic and maybe even bad. Personally, if I were to choose, release every 3 months or more, after a year or two of nofap, but I don’t want to scare people away with that idea lol

 

Are you seriously saying that there's no harm in rubbing one to porn in a forum called NoFap?

Jesus ...

 

I get you man. In the same boat. I went 10 years once with no action in the sheets and in my lifetime (36) I've probably had sex on no more than 6 occasions. Not because in damn fugly, but more because I've been so wrapped up in porn it changed me outlook.

One if the things it dies is destroys your self esteem. But it sounds like your resigned to just looking at girls and you don't think your worth their attention. You need to break your self out of that man. You have one life. You need to do what you think it'll take to start dating and getting what you need/want.

 

I just think that the idea of "Need to release" is related to this addiction.

No one really needs to do it, our bodies do 2 things, wet dreams or reabsorb sperm. We dont need to do it, and as soon as we are able to have sex its 10 times better.

I just think that abstaining creates a more dicipline mind, we can choose to do things or not instead of being driven.

 

Idk lol it's more of eastern philosophy I think but masturbation is a sin against your own body one of the worst sins you can commit and I can totally see why