Loneliness and anger

Take it one day at a time bro and improve what you can little by little.

 

You've been pulled out to change your life.

 

I've been getting the same emotions, my friend. I never had a gf and I wish I never had been exposed to P. I've been pondering the same questions and here's what I came up with:

Spoiler: Religious answer

Loneliness/solitude is not a vice. Adam was alone in the garden before corruption existed in the world. Solitude may mean we are chosen by God Himself to excel in our fields in a unique way no one else can. But this is not easy to believe in (me included). I have a feeling this is the truth, but as with most religious subjects, I have no proof to convince you.

Spoiler: Atheist answer

It's natural to be angry and jealous of something you do not have. I've rarely been able to successfully ward off these thoughts of anger. But one thing I can tell you for sure is that fighting anger with anger is not going to help. I used to listen to heavy music and thought negative things to numb the anger, but this has always led to relapse. Although it is more difficult, I think the key is to let positivity defuse the anger.

 

I resonate with aspects of your story but no idea of the cure.

 

It's good that you're angry, now you can use the anger for something productive. Learn to box or do some type of martial art. Don't let the anger burn you up inside. Take complete responsibility for your own quality of life.

Understand that the world isn't against you. You need to be mindful of the type of energy you're putting out into the world. You have to start fixing the issue by first dealing with your own mindset. You're pissed off that 2 random people found romance and you think you can't? Foolish! You need to find some courage to take actions in the direction you want your life to go. Nothing is guaranteed but if you're putting in the work every week you'll eventually see results.

 

I don't know anything about your life or what you are like... but.. one thing that you are in complete control of is working out and building your physique. I'd say just start off getting in the best shape you can possibly be in. Also, wear some decently nice clothes, maybe a collared shirt when you go out, even if its in the daytime for something simple.

I know it seems shallow and superficial, but its a shallow and superficial world. I bet some of the guys you see with girlfriends aren't even that great at all, probably a lot of normal guys, not much different than yourself

 

Why was it censored in the post? Must have a new, zealous moderator on staff...

Definitely I agree with this:
Solitude may mean we are chosen by God Himself to excel in our fields in a unique way no one else can.

When dudes show up here to this site with a problem, they are being pulled out of
the general population to perfect themselves, to become awesome, powerful men.

But they rarely understand it that way, which saddens me.

 

This forum is about loneliness so start there. Fix your loneliness and life will improve. The only way to fix loneliness is to become more active. Get out there and interact with people of both sexes. Meet as many people as you can and try to find a few friends. You will also find a gf in the process.
If we are busy living productive and happy lives we will not want to PMO.

 

Loneliness is more a result of self-esteem and lack of achievement. So I say do the reverse,
get some self-esteem built up through work, fitness, and achievements. Girls will be there.

 

Lmao, I love how you gave both an atheist answer and a religious one.

 

1. Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself. Overcoming addiction and making life changes can be difficult, and it's okay to experience a range of emotions. Understand that progress is not always linear, and setbacks can happen.
   
   
2. Identify Triggers: You've mentioned that your addiction often served as a form of consolation. Identifying the triggers that lead you to seek solace in porn is crucial. Recognizing these triggers can help you find healthier ways to cope with your emotions.
   
   
3. Seek Support: Consider reaching out to a therapist, counselor, or support group. They can provide guidance and strategies to help you manage your addiction and underlying emotions.
   
   
4. Healthy Outlets: Find healthier outlets for your emotions. Engage in physical activities like exercise or sports, which can help release built-up tension. Also, creative pursuits, such as writing, art, or music, can provide a constructive way to express and process your feelings.
   
   
5. Mindfulness and Meditation: These practices can help you become more aware of your thoughts and emotions without judgment. They can also help you manage your reactions to difficult emotions and situations.
   
   
6. Set Realistic Goals: Break down your aspirations into smaller, manageable steps. This can make the process of self-improvement more achievable and less overwhelming.
   
   
7. Connect with Others: Open up to friends and family members about what you're going through. Sharing your feelings and seeking their support can make a significant difference in your journey.
   
   
8. Professional Help: If your anger and emotions become difficult to manage, consider consulting a mental health professional. They can help you address any underlying issues contributing to your anger and offer strategies to cope effectively.
   
   
9. Positive Affirmations: Focus on building a more positive self-image. Use affirmations to remind yourself of your strengths and your ability to change and grow.
   
   
10. Time and Patience: Remember that change takes time. Be patient with yourself, and don't give up if you face setbacks. Each day is a new opportunity to work toward your goals.

It's important to recognize that overcoming addiction and managing emotions can be a complex process. Seeking professional help and support is a vital step in finding motivation, learning healthier coping mechanisms, and achieving your goals. You're not alone in this journey, and there are people and resources available to help you along the way.