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Just Told My Mom…

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by (Basil), Oct 29, 2022.

  1. (Basil)

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    That I’m giving up on women and marriage.

    She was heart broken.

    It was sad because she’s always dreamt of her son finding someone.

    Every mother wants her son to find love.

    I got emotional because I felt like she was very affected by what I told her. I broke her heart.

    It was sad for the both of us but I explained to her that 99% of women aren’t virgins after they hit 21 nowadays, and the world isn’t the same as when she was growing up. She understood because she knows I will never marry a non virgin, because I am a virgin myself.

    Plus, no girl ever gave me a chance. over 50 rejections is not easy to go through. I explained to her that I tried and no girl ever wanted me. She told me you can’t give up but I said it’s just too painful to keep trying and getting pissed on by these women. Modern women are way too picky and their expectations are insane. You need to be a top 5% man for them to even consider you.

    Let’s do the odds and I’ll be generous with the numbers. Even though I want to say 99% of girls lose their virginities, let’s be generous and say 90% lose their virginities by the time they hit 21.

    That means I have a 10% chance of finding a virgin. Now how many women out of those 10% are available, attractive, and good compatibility for me? I’d say 1%. Now let’s factor in the fact that maybe 1/100 of those 1% would give me a chance and go on a date with me… 1/1000 of those 1% of women would end up marrying me after giving me a chance. That means I have a .0001% chance of marrying a virgin!!

    That’s exactly why I gave up. The odds are way too low.
    At least I tried damn it. At least I tried.
     
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  2. kropo82

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    What a disappointing post. When I saw a thread titled "Just Told My Mom…" I was a amazed, I thought it would take a much braver man than me to tell their mother about their porn addiction, though I know there are some brave men here who have done that. Don't give up, and definitely don't try to reduce relationships to a probability formula! I also would drop the 'must marry a virgin' rule. Just see who you end up falling for and take it from there. Who knows.
     
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  3. MarioCorrelos

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    Hi there. Just out of curiosity, what if she had sex with someone that was special to her, someone that she was in a long relationship with, but it ended for whatever reason?
     
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  4. (Basil)

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    My friend you are correct. Men are programmed to want a virgin for evolutionary reasons. Men have always wanted a woman who is a virgin because a woman who slept with other men has a much higher chance of having a disease or std, and pass that disease on to your children.

    Not only that but a woman who’s a virgin is a sign that she will be loyal and faithful to you once you marry her.

    It’s rooted in us all, and unfortunately women don’t know how disgusting it is for us to be with them once they’ve been opened by other men.

    I think the reason is because women don’t really give a damn about a man’s virginity (most women love men with experience), so they assume men feel the same way about them.

    WRONG!

    Most women have no clue what men want.
     
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    The reason is irrelevant. Only women who are virgins deserve a ring on their finger.

    Marrying a non virgin makes absolutely no sense at all. The whole purpose of marriage back then was to allow a man to take a woman’s virginity. It was beautiful and sacred.

    Nowadays marriage makes you feel like a beta male cuck. Fckin disgusting.

    No hymen, no diamond.
     
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  6. (Basil)

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    I knew this one girl in high school who went to a party and got her butt cheeks clapped by some black douchebag.

    A couple of years later she met a guy who was a virgin and he ended up “falling in love with her” and marrying her. I don’t think she ever told him about her past.

    The poor bastard.

    Let’s face it. Marriage is dead. Men should never get married in todays world.
     
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  7. Honestly, this describes you. The picky one with insane expectations may be you.
     
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  8. (Basil)

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    Picky? I only want 3 things in a woman.

    Virgin, attractive enough for me to look at her and a nice personality.

    And yet I’ve never found a girl like this.

    So what about you mr. not picky? If I brought you a 500 pound woman with children and who’s ridden dozens of phalluses, would you take her?

    But yea, somehow it’s a bad thing to be picky nowadays as a man but nobody ever mentions how picky women are.

    Men are supposed to settle for anything that comes their way and women can be as picky as they want.

    Double standard.
     
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  9. lostguy

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    You have totally unrealistic standards. Time to look in the mirror my friend. A woman who loves you is not going to be ruined because she has had sex.
     
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  10. I think if you eliminated the first condition, you might find a woman who brings you happiness. But I know I'm not the first one to say that.

    Straw man argument.

    There is middle ground on this.

    Guys talk about that nonstop here!

    I'm actually not trying to be antagonistic. Would be happy to hear that you found what you were looking for. But I think you have limited your options to a point where failure is very likely.
     
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  11. (Basil)

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    Thats beta male cuck thinking.

    You do realize us men have an ingrained evolutionary predisposition to want a virgin wife right?

    A virgin wife evolutionarily speaking is much less likely to have a disease and pass it on to her children. Also, a virgin is a sign that she’ll have the willpower and value system to not cheat on you when you’re with her.

    Men are far more attracted to virgins than women who’ve been bent over by other men. You put a woman in a picture with other men and men rate her as extremely undesirable.

    It’s ingrained in us all.
     
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  12. lostguy

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    I've never been a beta cuck, except when i've been on the porn. Do you realize that we have an ingrained evolutionary predisposition to find the quickest, cheapest, most effective way of releasing dopamine? Do you think that porn is therefore "alpha?" or natural? You may truly feel like you need a virgin. But you don't. Have you ever had a relationship before?
     
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    Well porn makes you a cuck as well, so I agree with that. That does nothing to prove what I said was false lol.

    No I’ve never been on a date in my life. I approached over 50 women and they all rejected me. Not 1 of them gave me a chance.
     
  14. lostguy

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    If you've never even been with a woman, you have no idea whether or not you will care if she's a virgin. I guarantee the first time a woman actually cares about you you will not care at all if she's a virgin or not. This is reality and im sorry but you've never been there.
    I have been with many women. I have been on lots of dates and lots of women have been interested in me. Porn is what destroyed all this. Nothing to do with "beta cuck thinking." That term, by the way, is a real sign that you spend too much time on the internet. Nothing on the internet has been real since 2010 or so.

    Women like, in no particular order:
    physical attraction
    good grooming
    humour
    intelligence
    confidence
     
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    Well people tell me I have all of these things and I’m still an untouched virgin lol
     
  16. lostguy

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    Then they're either lying to you or you are coming across as very creepy. Sometimes the porn addiction is visible to women even if we don't think it is.
     
  17. Bloodstream

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    Why go for virgins? They are much better in bed if they are not virgins, I never understood this obsession around virgins. Also if you are a virgin a more experienced woman will be good for you, she can show you things and rock your world. Let that go and at least your chances will increase.
     
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    If you've bust a nut due to PMO-ing before, I don't consider you a virgin. This is a general statement and not meant for the OP, necessarily.
     
  19. Warrior4Freedom

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    I'm not sure why you felt the need to mention the douchebag's "race" either. Honestly this implies something about you, and if you desire some sort of virtue and nobility from a girl who happens to be a virgin, I'd advise you look at your own thoughts and perspectives first....
     
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  20. You are completely lost. With a mentality like that you will end up alone for the rest of your life. I see that you are 27 years old. It's time to face the facts and take charge of your life. That's what I wish for you. You have a long way to go to get to something healthy.

    You're the loser cliché. You are negative, you blame others and you lie to yourself. What's the point of this thread except to complain? What do you expect from us? That we tell you everything is fine, keep this state of mind and everything will be fine?

    It's time to grow up
     
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