Is a femdom fetish bad?

Is this a question about your porn addiction? If not, you might seek answer to your issue from another forum, or perhaps speak to a therapist to find out why you’re into this stuff.

 

It's likely you're not naturally into that stuff at the age of 18, and picked it up as a result of porn use. If you quit watching porn, it might go away.

 

I don't see why it would be inherently bad. Ultimately, you like what you like. But don't you think it would be more fun with someone you like, rather than just watching it in porn?

I'm also into femdom and I've accepted it as part of me. Doesn't mean I have to be a porn addict.

 

That was my guess - if you're into femdom at 18, then it's probably not from porn.
But . . . looking at porn will mess you up and it's easy to fall into a lot of traps, especially with online porn.

My advice:

1. Don't look at porn. It will literally poison your mind.
2. Get out there and live life instead. Consider looking into your local bdsm community. Make friends and ask for guidance. Many people, especially submissives, have gotten themselves into very dangerous situations by trying to find a partner online.
3. Again, try to meet real people in a safe setting like a bdsm munch.
4. Lastly, and most importantly, try to get to the root of where this comes from. Until you understand it, you are simply reacting to past experiences and trauma. Reacting means that you're not really choosing. The more you understand yourself . . . the more your decisions become a choice, and then you can decide if exploring femdom is right for you.

 

Were you spanked as a kid? I do wonder if having parents who use corporal punishment or who are strict causes someone to have BDSM fantasies.

 

Personally, I would say that femxom porn, along with most other forms of porn, don't make you any different than addicts who are into those, or "the very weird stuff" as you put it. That is, unless you try to act them out in any area of real life that isn't completely transparent and consensual.

In my own personal journey, for those into femdom porn, is pretty common. That they had some sort of trauma as children, usually from a mother or older sister, that form that fantasy world in their mind. It's an escape from reality to a world where that kind of treatment is actually enjoyable versus real life, that actually SUCKS.