I lost my virginity to a prostitute

In my darkest times I've thought about doing the same but leave it at that. Deep down I know I'll regret it. I want to lose it to someone I'm in a loving relationship with.

But I have done some dumb crap in the past. Like others have said my advise would be forgive yourself. If you ever find yourself beating yourself up say to yourself that you've forgiven yourself (you might need tell yourself that a few times in those moments).

 

I did the same man.

But I'm not ashamed anymore. I was vulnerable then, and I put sex on a pedestal. But looking back on it now, I see no difference between having sex with an escort and watching porn. They both are just fantasy, you get the quick high, and then feel nothing but shame.

If future girls ask me how I lost my virginity. I would first tell them that its not important. I would tell them that its more important that I find the one girl who I would have sex with for the rest of my life. And if she asks again, I would say that if I thought it was so important that I would tell her, but there's no point. And if she keeps prodding, I'll finally tell her the truth. And if she were to leave me for it, so be it. A girl who can't accept your past mistakes, which reflect nothing on the man you are today, is not worth being with.

We are new men everyday. In church they teach that God forgives you if you repent, that he'll blot out the sin in your life. If even in the most popular religion in the world, God doesn't even remember your sin when your repent. Why should you? Why should you constantly remind yourself, and tear yourself down, over something you have learned from and decided to never to turn to again?

So forgive yourself. Understand that for thousands of years people have been losing their virginity to prostitutes. Some even in worse ways. You weren't hurting anyone.

When I told my friend that I lost my virginity to an escort he told me, "Better than what I've seen guys do at parties. They'll lie to a girl all they want, and break their hearts just to get in their pants. But you just paid a girl, and were up front and honest about your intentions." (He had a point there, but that still doesn't make sleeping with escorts virtuous to me)

So I hope you can keep your chin up, and understand that everyone has parts of their past they aren't proud about, but keep it up. I know men who are proud to say they still sleep with prostitutes and they're like in their 50s. Everyone has their own standards, but you really got to sit back and think about what you value, and live a life worth living.

 

Chose your new path and recommit yourself to virginity again before marriage.

 

Wisdom being spoken.

 

Thanks

 

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Your dog right?

 

Did someone lose their virginity to a dog?

 

I lost my virginity to an escort. It was not awkward, but it wasn't something that went overly well. I don't regret it, because it gave me confidence to go talk to girls knowing that I had gone over a hill so to speak. I've actually went on to sleep with another escort....yes it's paying money for sex, but sometimes its a good release particularly when you have completed your 90 day rebooting...

 

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I too did this...honestly I'm still deep in the PMO with week long streaks that seem to fizzle at times...I ever wonder if I will ever get over this... Even now in America as Valentine's day approaches I start wishing that I had a girl yet agai/in a relationship and trying to sike myself up to talk to an attractive woman. Knowing really I feel like it's better for me not to and personally want to focus on myself still even if I have to try over and over again to at least do 90+ PMO and better yet 180+ PMO. Still I'm not savvy to giving up this battle even when I fall. One day I know if I abstain ill feel whole...maybe for the first time.

 

Yeah, we all know him. I won't reveal his name though. He's a sensitive guy.

 

Thanks for all the advice on here, reading a lot on this forum has helped me make my decision.

Im 25, Virgin and was debating about prostitute for sex. I was considering it mainly so I can get experience, but I think holding off is the right thing to do.

 

Ah, yeah don't do it Those women aren't happy, even when they have a choice, even when the guy is nice. And it's something you'll have to hide from someone down the line. It's OK to be a virgin. The right women will feel SPECIAL to be your first. I took someone's virginity in HS because I felt sorry for him and he was a friend No regrets, he appreciated it, I felt like I was doing a good deed.

 

Cool, good advice. =) Worried about that also if I did see a prostitute, having to explain to a women I liked why I did it.. So being a women, if you came across a man you were interested in for a serious relationship and he was a virgin, it wouldn't turn you off? Would it make him any more or less appealing? Just curious lol

 

This is a worse way how to loose virginity than with a prostitute.

 

It is hard to forget your first time, if it is in wrong way, the negative feeling would never leave you in your life, and keep damaging your love and relation!

 

Similar people attracted and hurted each other. If virginity is meaningless, then 1. Why they created such word in every language? 2. Why virginity matters marriage? 3. Why we are posting our discussions about it? 4. Why people need help about it?
I also want to know if virginity just means 1st time? Or it has much more meaningS?

 

I lost my virginity to a prositute think i waa 19 aswell. I was drunk, in another country and so very sick of the chase.
Once i returned home though i found that the girls i had been chasing were actually interested so, and our intial intamcy was lessened for what i had done.
Its not something that bothers me anymore.

 

Sounds like my story exactly...I've patronized prostitutes for years and only had 2 girlfriends.
It's never worth it all the social pressure leads to nothing.
With this program I hope to find my true self and eventually a true life partner...

 

Learn to accept the things you cannot change. Be strong enough to change the things you can. And develop the wisdom to discern the difference between the two. This is a philosophy I recently adopted. Hopefully it helps you as much as it has me.

 

I think prostitutes are a healthy alternative to our hands. We can't really have a girlfriend if we have ED, DE, etc. Girlfriends expect good sex from their partners. So, till the time my erection is rock solid like it used to be 10 years back, I don't want some girlfriend judging me. Prostitutes are better, also nofap in hard mode (no PMO or sex) is impossible for me so I can only go with normal mode (no PMO but sex is fine). Also I am not sexually experienced so it is good for me. And, prostitutes helped me reach day 14 which otherwise seemed impossible. You can have sex with them without them bitching much about your almost flaccid dick. I also read somewhere that normal mode is better than hard mode since it trains your mind for having sex. Hard mode has the potential to turn you gay.. speaking of life long fapstronauts. Just use protection, stay safe and concentrate on penile-vaginal sex.