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I lost my virginity to a prostitute

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Kurmutziku, Jan 5, 2017.

  1. Someone who never had sex in their life is a virgin, basically penile-vaginal sex. I would personally not marry any future girlfriend whose vagina is big as a pond. People generally do not prefer loose vaginas that cannot provide pleasure as they have had too much sexual experience. Frankly I'd be madly jealous of her as well. Plus women compare you with their numerous exes. They remain sexually addicted to their exes who could not maintain their relationship with them. This is the truth. Virginity is important to men as we all want sexual contentment..
     
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  2. Shin Iu

    Shin Iu Fapstronaut

    your word: numerous exes, really freak my day out!
    Thanks for reminding us!
    True Virginity is something couldn't be repaired or returned by anything!
     
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  3. Potato93

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    In the end, everyone suffers:

    - Girls that have numerous exes find difficult to maintain a relationship because their vagina is too loose.
    - Girls that are virgins arent taken seriously and get depressed at long term.
    - Guys that are virgins arent taken seriously and get depressed at long term too. (some hire prostitutes)
    - Guys that bang girls constantly have a lot of fun, but life is smart and end up fucking them in the future in some way or another. (if their lifes arent already fucked up) Most of the time by the bad reputation or karma they build up after they leave the girl for a new one.

    SO yeah...

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  4. Grapes are sour kind of stuff
     
  5. Aiyoshi

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    My case is a wierd one for a man.

    At the age of 15, there wasa woman who would hit on me. She was too direct and fat for me to accept it, she used all kinds of provocations available, but I always refused. Later in life, I'd regret this decision during PMO sessions, and used to wonder how wonderful would be to have sex with a prostitute. But never did anything about it.

    When I think about it, it was more than physic and being a salty human being as a mean of self-defensed. In reality, I was and still am scared of doing it.

    It's a weird case for a PMO addicted in his 20's, after all, sex is a thing that cativates our imaginations and I thinking about actually doing it, only brings more anxiety. Perhaps it's just anxiety taking over or high expectations. But it's impossible for me to let a stranger do such things to me.
     
  6. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    May I ask where you have gotten your information to form your opinions?
     
  7. It is personal experience.. regarding hard mode vs normal mode, there was a guy praising his understanding girlfriend who'd not dump him due to ED. He said sex with her made nofap easier for him.
    Hard mode is difficult for me as well.
    Rest is what I have experienced..
     
  8. Aiyoshi

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    It seens like a poor alternative to have an easier time. Prostitutes I mean.
     
  9. I find it better than wild mood swings, sudden mania and instant depression. Withdrawal in Hard mode is like bipolar disorder.
     
  10. Aiyoshi

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    The ADHD symptoms go away with sex? What? Lol.
     
  11. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    What information do you have to support hard mode having the potential to make someone gay?

    How is a being with a prostitute healthier than masturbation?

    You say that you don't want a girlfriend judging you (your sexual performance) is a reason you validate being with a prostitute. Did you really mean that?
     
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  12. Aiyoshi

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    Getting an STD or developing a sex addiction is waaaaaay worse than masturbation.
     
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  13. staub

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    So I'd like to join in and ask for an oppinion.
    I'm less than a year away of becoming a wizard. (If you don't know the internet, that's virgin at 30)
    I am trying my best at dating but since my mid-twenties mostly consisted of depression-eating and staying at home refined with an almsot crippling social anxiety, chances are that even with me loosing weight right now and other benefits from nofap as well as other confidence boosts, it still might be some time before this changes.
    Also, the never dated - dilemma contributes to this, I signed up for several online datings and had a few contacts, but nothing beyond one first date.
    A lot of women have a problem with a man that has no experience whatsoever.
    I'm sure there are some out there who don't mind, but that just reduces the possibilities.

    So I've gotten the advice from some guys I know that maybe it would not be wrong go visit a prositute. Not in a business but rather a private one, that would take the time to introduce me to everything.

    What do you guys think?
     
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  14. D . J .

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    I may be in the minority but I would suggest you not do it. You are not doing yourself any favors by sleeping with someone whose paid job is to make you feel as if it's the best sex she has ever had.
    Will your selection of women be reduced, yes, but since you have waited this long, why not work on you, deal with your PMO issues and then begin to date being wiser, more structured in your behavior and realizing that sex is not the main component in a relationship. Your current or past one (with porn) should be taught you this.

    She may "take time to introduce you" to the functions of sex but not the emotions attached to it. You are potentially creating a selfish man concerned with pleasing himself or showing of what he was taught as opposed to being someone who values the person. I would go a step farther and suggest waiting for marriage to have sex. Again, you've already waited this long and the connection you would have to your wife would be stronger since she would be your first.

    As I said, I am probably in the minority but take it for what you will.
     
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  15. staub

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    Heh, very valid points.
    For marriage, I'm not sure I ever want to get married. (not in the traditional way at least, no church if I can choose, but who knows what happens when I meet the right person)
    Another thing is, I really do not want to wait until marriage. Now that's is different from going to a prostitute, which is why I involved myself in this post.

    I'm very aware of the dangers of becoming addicted to another form of the same problem (Still, thanks for pointing it out). For me so far, the 90 days (@80 now) was very easy. Blocking porn was more difficult. I think I'll have to undergo further testing before making this a certain statement but I assume that my problems weren't with masturbation but with porn. (Again, just a theory at this point).
    So, in general this is something I'll constantly have to look out for. (Everyone here probably has to to sone degree)
     
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  16. D . J .

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    Many underestimate the dangers of masturbation. So be careful of that.

    Also 90 days is just a reference point to see change and the a guide for you to keep one focused. For some 90 days will work well, for some 60 days will achieve the same results and others more longer will be required.

    Obviously you are going to make your own decisions but since you asked a public forum, don't go to a prostitute. Even if you don't wait for marriage, wait for a relationship.
    The person who may be your girlfriend may be a virgin as well. There are women in the world who are still virgins. In case you aren't certain about that, many women would say there are no virgin men in the world.
     
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  17. staub

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    Well I'm already 29 and haven't been to one yet, so... :p
    My personal feeling also says that I should not. So right now I'm curious and thanks to the reboot I feel like bursting with energy. And a bit of curiosity.
    I'm also actively trying to find a girlfriend, so this also seems a bit like a waste then.
    I did say no with marriage and all that but I realize that waiting for a real relationship is kind of the same thing, so maybe not that much of a no.
    Thanks again for your input, really appreciate it.
     
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  18. D . J .

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    I'm glad I was able to help.

    I'm 46 and I will tell you that it is sometimes better to think things through and jump into decisions quickly without considering the consequences. Many have a YOLO attitude about things but fail to consider what the tomorrow's consequences which may occur because of today's actions. It is also easy for some to assume that something like going to a prostitute will have no bad consequences but they forget condoms don't always work and having sex with someone who had sleep with many guys and not be the healthiest move you can make.
    General advice: be careful whose advise you listen to. Make sure it makes sense to you and when it comes from friends, look at their lives and see how wise their decisions have been for them. If they typically don't make wise decisions for themselves, why would you listen to them for you?
     
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  19. BMW-6er

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    Your story sounds really sad but the way you tell stories is really good ;) keep going.
    Where are you from fapstronaut ?
     
  20. staub

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    Yeah they were not friends, mere colleagues, and that not even any more.
    But, I'm thinking about this for quite some time. Luckily I am was raised before the yolo took over (I even liked motorbikes when everyone was crazy for scooters). Didn't help with popularity, though. :p
     
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