I know I'll be a virgin forever because of my paraphilia.

Seems like porn destroyed your mind. It will be a long journey te get back

 

It's a very difficult struggle not having certainty that you ever had (or will be able to have) "normal" sexual desire. I wired my sexuality to be entirely based around a certain fetish, and for most of my life, thought that this was just the way I was born, but after abstaining from all artificial sexual stimuli (and fantasy) for prolonged periods over and over throughout the past 2.5 years, I started having wet dreams to vanilla sex occasionally. For the first 2 years they were only about the fetish, but in the past 6 months, the majority of them started being about regular sex. I noticed that when I feel less shame, I feel less drawn towards my old sexual conditioning. It takes time man, and I think that giving up hope of recovering could cause you a ton of suffering in the future.

 

If you have never had attraction for vanilla or had it long before but it's just lost now, this might be for you : https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/my-way-to-overcome-pre-porn-induced-fetish.322399/

You have nothing to lose, for me and some people i have meet and talked to this works.

 

Only another way to me known is try to find sexual therapist, therapy may help.

 

It's totally fine mate
All of us are same, we breath air, eat food and sleep. Good thing is that you are aware of problem and you want to face that problem, everyone who is aware and fight with it should be accepted.
Good luck mate!

 

Dude @Francis X.
You might just have OCD. It's definitely worth exploring, you could talk to an OCD specialist a couple of times at least and see if that could be the case.



Zoophilia/bestiality isn't among the particular examples she mentions in that clip, but to me it seems like it could fit the pattern of worrying about having an unwanted sexuality.

 

I think that you are not a zoophile.
Of course I don't know, but I would guess that you aren't.
Please talk to an OCD specialist at least once. I think it's very possible that you just have OCD.

Are you a teenager? I'm 30 now, but when I was a teenager, I could get erections very randomly, it happens to almost everybody in that age. It doesn't have to mean anything.

 

Hey Francis,

I responded to another thread from you before. And I still stand by what I wrote.

You write in this thread that you are repulsed by people having sex and that breasts look like weird pieces of flesh to you. But you do feel an attraction towards dogs somehow.

I also remember that you wrote somewhere that you don’t have many friends at school.

Again, my situation from the past is very similar to yours, except replace dogs with shoes. A sexual attraction almost exclusively to a lifeless object. I was also repulsed by people having sex.

Like I wrote before: it will change eventually, but it takes time. And it also depends on your environment. The more interactions you have with people, and the less time you spend watching porn, masturbating or thinking about dogs: that will work in your favour.

You see, you are born as a human being, and human beings are biologically programmed to have sex with each other. You are not a grown man yet. Your sexuality is still in development. ‘I will be a virgin forever’ is a ridiculous statement! How can you know such a thing, life is full of surprises and things can change dramatically.

I never thought I would ever be able to enjoy sex when I was your age. Read that again. Boy was I wrong.

I encourage you to talk to a therapist, but I also encourage you to not worry about your sexuality too much. If you have a fun hobby or sport or other activity you like, you could join a club of people where you can engage in that activity together. That way you are interacting more with people and the sexuality is more likely to develop in a natural way during the following years. It’s also possible that, when engaging in an activity that you like with like-minded people, you will suddenly have great friends. Or even just one.

Really: have faith that things in life will eventually turn out just fine and you’d be surprised what kind of things are waiting for you in a distant future.

 

I can attest that I suffered with sexual themes to my OCD for more then 20 years before getting diagnosed. It is worth getting checked. It would have been extremely valuable to me if I had known sooner.

 

I work with a OCD specialist to do what is called Exposure and Response & Acceptance and Commitment. We work out what are obsessive thought patterns and then find ways of engaging the unwanted thoughts. OCD makes your defence mechanisms react as if the thoughts were really happening, but because they are not happening, you have no way to deal with the danger signals you are getting. So, you try to do things to make the feeling go away, even if they make no sense to you. The object is to help you deal with the uncomfortable feelings better and to not react to them the way that are compulsive.

You could be a zoophile or it could be an OCD obsession or it could be both. It is worth getting checked because if you do have OCD then your brain is not reacting to intrusive thoughts the way that most people do and requires a particular approach to address.

If you do have OCD then working on the content of the thoughts will not be effective, as the obsessions will take on another form. Generally it starts with the need for certainly in something. It has been debilitating for me at points in my life. The specialist that I work with has been helping me to recognize defence responses an undo them at a manageable pace. It is like I have been putting up a fight most of my life and now I am learning how to not fight.