Had a great first date but now im confused

Some folks are adverse to chatting or texting. There are so many ways that text or words and be misconstrued. Perhaps she is dyslexic and doesn’t spell very well. Phone calls could also fall into a similar category, it could be seen as disconnection even though it is a conversation through a device. I am horrible about phone usage. My thumbs don’t work well, and a phone call seems impersonal. To me there is no substitute for real in person dialogue and interaction. There is more to conversation than words said as we have micro expressions and body language, and no matter how much technology can bring us together and feel more connected, it just doesn’t compare to being there in person with another person.

 

Not understanding women.....welcome to manhood.

 

Hi @Hawx79 sorry to hear this, I've been there myself only as a woman who dates men. I think a lot if it is modern dating, a lot if people can be very flaky on those sites. She might also be dealing with her own issues like social anxiety, depression etc.

You'll never know. But you do deserve to be with someone who treats you better than that and communicates clearly, someone who can't wait to see you again! Are there any other nice people on the dating site? It helps to talk to several at first and not get too attached, although easier said than done I know.

 

Yep unfortunately it happens a lot, ghosting. I've experienced it too. It hurts I know. It helps to remember that on dating sites:

- Some people are already in relationships pretending to be single
- Some are still in love with exes
- Some have bad life issues meaning they can't actually commit
- Some are genuinely inconsiderate
- Plus many more things that are not clear from their profile

But do you really want to be with someone who can't extend some common courtesy to you? You deserve much better than that my friend.

 

Yes, in the end dating is a discovery phase. It's hard because if you're someone who starts to develop feelings quickly it can be painful when people suddenly ghost.

My ex ghosted me then reappeared and we got into a relationship. A few months later I had to be protected from him by the police - I met him on a dating site and he ended up being dangerous. If only I'd noticed the red flags and taken the ghosting as a bad sign. Afterwards I read a post that said "Leave all ghosts in the cemetery!" which makes a lot of sense to me. If someone shows you disrespect and lack of consideration that early on it's unlikely they're going to make a good partner. Onwards and upwards to people who deserve us!

 

Don't worry it has nothing to do with being an awesome 1990s ghostwriter!
I only learnt the term myself last year, not exactly being down with the youth myself. It means when someone you are talking to on a dating site, dating or even in a relationship with suddenly disappears, never to be heard from again. It seems to be connected to lack of accountability due to dating online rather than in the past where everyone in your village etc knew eachother and you couldn't just suddenly ignore someone without ending it properly.

 

I think ghosting is also specifically related to when someone blocks you--so your texts go into the ether but I don't think you even know the texts were never received (because you were blocked).