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I would consider a commodity fetish as they represent intelligence to me and less of a sexual fetish. I would also see it as a preference. A strong preference

 

Anyhow, wrong thread for me then

 

Yeah. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clothing_fetish#Gender-related_clothes

"Fetishism may include various garments typically worn by or associated with a particular gender or gender expression. For example, this could describe an individual who is attracted to people wearing masculine-associated clothing items, like basketball shorts or a man's suit."

 

In a way: maybe. But on the other hand, it has helped you explore and more specifically define what turns you on and why.

 

I think in his case, he likes to be dominated by a female and not the other way around.

One more thing , accordingly to the theory you proposed a particular liking or fetish is developed due to some trigger durning early childhood. So, does that mean that homosexuality is created due to such triggers in childhood?? I am not saying that homosexuality is abnormal........just asking this becoz this sexuality is a minority in our society.

Please note that I am not homosexual and I have nothing against them.

 

about my fetish

I have foot fetish...It's just a liking for feet... Its just that I like kissing it just like breast or hips or pussy. Feet is not the only thing I like, it's the one of many female parts I like. Although, I have this fetish I am not obsessed about it.

However, when I started watching Porn, the issue escalated .....Started I interested in femdom, humiliation porn, mistress slave porn....All these kind of fetishes are gone since nofap...I no longer crave for it.

It is very important to note that watching porn can escalate a simple harmless fetish to different and harmful kind of fetishes.

Foot fetish is only a small part of me and not the complete part of my sexuality. I have this fetish even before I started watching porn, so it is not porn induced fetish.

Could someone tell me what could be the possible trigger....I don't have any particular childhood memory about it.

 

I have a women’s prison and medical fetish. The prison one comes from old 90s movies heavy on strip searches and shower scenes. I’m convinced both are power related. I’ve done both in real life roleplay so the novelty has worn off quite a bit.

 

That's easy.
Why there isn't enough information is because of how the information is studied and published.
Most of the information on fetishes fell off in the 80s, when internet porn started becoming a thing? And it became normal.
But the DSM4 came out and then DSM5... Both dont mention fetishism to its full extent so most people who study don't relate or understand.
If you want history or knowledge on your particular fetish, or trace on fetishes you simply have to go back further.
Most will be in actual books, not necessarily online... Unless you look for kindle or something.

 

I use to have a forced femminization, milf, femdom, bdsm, nonsonsensual bdsm fetish but it's been about 9 months since, and alot of it has felt dead. However, i can get rid of my foot fetish. I don't desire porn or naked parts, I desire to see barefeet, womans toes, soles, feet in heels. I've gotten to the point where I could cum without touching my dick. I remembered my femdom bdsm fantasy started when i first watched batman begins when ivy tied up robin when i was 3. However this footfetish has always been with me and I can't trace it. Supposedly it could be a crosswiring in the motor cortex where the feet and gentials are right next to each other. Fuck I just want to jerk off to feet.

 

This is the same as me. I was in too feet (and shoes), about 10 years before I even had access to the internet.

But I think the point is this... there isn't anything wrong with liking feet. Some women dig it. I've had a lot of experience in this. But the issue is the overuse of porn this then brings on.

I don't think it's an excuse to over use porn just because you like feet. Just like breasts, most men love breasts but they don't then over use and get addicted to porn.

So there lies the difference.

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I think trying to unwire your self from a fetish that came before porn and is rooted in your childhood is never going to work and will only lead you to suppressing something that is part of you.

It will just lead you to becoming very very unhappy and repressed.

I've been there and done that.

The best thing you can possibly do is start meeting women and exploring with them.

But again, overuse of porn is to be avoid.

 

Liking feet is not natural, having a lust for a body part does not uphold a womans dignity. No one has a Kid and is like I hope he's into feet. Children are not sexual if that makes sense. I just know that it comes from my wounds. Breasts and ass are a part of a woman's natural features.

 

READ AT OWN DISCRETION AS I DON'T WANT ANYONE TO BE TRIGGERED.

Who said it's not natural? As long as you enjoy her feet as much as the rest of her body most women will not give a hoot you like their feet.

I get the impression you haven't explored this with many women? Done right it's cute and seriously sexy! They don't all dig it but most do. Some are reluctant at first but then soon realise they where missing out by being apprehensive. 9/10 women complain that their feet hurt in heels. Do you really think given the right setting and timing they will turn down a massage?

I've met so many women that have told me previous boyfriends had foot fetishes.

Feet are sexy and they make women feel sexy too. Why do you think they paint their nails, wear hot shoes and put tattoos on their feet?

Again, absolutely nothing wrong with liking feet. You think something that you attained as a kid your going to be able to purge now?

How old are you out of interest?

Good luck with that. Your setting your self up for a lifetime of misery, failure and repression.

There's nothing to feel terrible about trust me. You need to separate your foot fetish from your porn addiction.

I understand one leads to the other and the viscous circle continues, but you are not going to get rid of a fetish you attained as a child.

So you need to move forward from this point.

Again, dudes love boobs, (we love boobs too) does that then cause the dude that loves boobs to over use porn? Nope.

So the issue is not the body part but the excessive PMO.

There is no reason to think you cant be porn free, but experience and share your kinks with women rather than through porn.

Sometimes you have to embrace something rather than fight it to move forward.

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I spent my first 28 years fighting my foot fetish. Very very depressed, reclusive etc ect. I felt guilty and couldn't talk to women.

One day I decided to actually do something about this and started exploring my kink with women. And since then my darkness has lifted.

I'm still addicted to porn. But I am able to talk to women, date women, I've explored the foot thing with more women than I can remember.

So your talking to someone that's already tried to repress it. And it only leads to self misery and darkness when it really doesn't have too.


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To be honest take what I wrote above as simply my own take on things. And of course ones perspective is shaped by ones experiences. Meaning, with time and with success with NOFAP ones perspectives may change again. And they already have.

I'm just not sure NOFAP can cure you of a fetish you had pre porn and one you acquired at childhood tho?

 

My fetishes go back to when I was a kid

 

I'm young like just turned legal young. I broke my fetish from BDSM with the rosary, I just wish I could break my fetish from feet. The inner Catholic in me says that this fetish is disordered

 

I agree with you 100%. Loving female feet is not a bad thing, as long as you are not obsessed with it. I dont talk to women and just start staring at their feet....I like feet just like, breast, butt and hips. So I dont consider it a problem.
There r people who get aroused only by feet and nothing else.. I think that can be a problem

 

Once I acted out my fetish it’s appeal was gone.

 

I think I know what you mean. In my porn-binging days, I would fap to vanilla and fetish stuff, but since trying to quit porn, it has always been to a fetish video that I relapse.

Honestly, if this fetish formed during childhood, I think there's a very real possibility it is there to stay. My fetish formed during childhood too and it wasn't porn-induced. Our options may be to find someone who shares our fetish, someone who will at least humour us every now and then, or to find a way to cut it out of our lives entirely while continuing to have a desire for it.