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An interesting read there. I know for me my fetishes are porn induced but I don't know if they're a part of me now or not at least some of them. Some of my P induced fetishes I don't really like anymore or fantasize much about nut others I'm still curious about. I'm hoping that by abstaining from PMO I'll have a better understanding of what is a part of me and what came with the porn.

 

Yeah I haven't had any of these problems with family etc, my fetish is also porn induced. I was exposed to it at a very young age and unfortunately can't remember why I took an interest in it. But my life hasn't been lived in absolute misery because of this and I've seen other people who have it worse on here. So it is an error as you'd say. I've always seen it as something that's latched onto my life not something I was born with. But I do admit that I have a special attachment to it now which will be hard to get rid of.

So I'm into bondage. It started off as just that and then escalated into extreme cases of bdsm and the like. I seeked higher doses of dopamine from things that were much more extreme. Currently I'm at a point where I get off to injury and choking where it even becomes life threatening. And yeah it sickens me. That's when I knew I should be doing something about it so I joined nofap. I've seen quite a few people tell their stories and how seriously it has affected them. Their fetishes would make them question their sexuality and well-being. This is because of how frequent they've done PMO and how far their desires have escalated. We crave dopamine in high doses because we have easy access and we feel undeserving as you said. The longer we do it for, the more we crave something more and we eventually cross our morals for more sexual desires. So for me, I'm not sure yet if I'll be able to get rid of my fetish. But I do want to undo how far my desires have escalated, the things that I really shouldn't be looking at. Otherwise I'll be living the rest of my life disgusted with myself.

 

I completely agree with you. I to am into bondage although not nearly to the extreme that you've mentioned. Abstaining from it and PMO is key. I'm talking to a girl who is in to BDSM and from what we've talked about it's different than what you see in porn which is nice. It needs and should be safe, sane and consensual. It's a fetish that I'd like to try as I'm curious to see if it would be something I'd actually enjoy but only time will tell.

 

Glad to see I'm not alone! I'm glad your tastes haven't become as extreme as mine. Yeah only recently have I thought about whether I would actually enjoy still being into it. I'm wondering if doing nofap will get rid of my fetish or just the extremities that I speak of. If it were fun, safe and consensual trying it in real life maybe I would enjoy it without guilt. But I am at the point where I enjoy non consensual simulation of this porn. I definitely want this to go away as it's very scary to think about.

 

You're never alone in this fight, we are all here for you. Yeah I'm glad I never could get into the really heavy and graphical stuff. Try seeing what it feels like to you after your reboot maybe you'd like it less extreme or maybe not. Nofap would most certainly help I think. From everything I've read about BDSM and the people who practice is professionally safe, sane and consensual is the only way anything else is considered abuse and is not tolerated. If I may ask, what exactly do you mean by you "enjoy non consensual stimulation of this porn"? You can always message me about this as well. We will get through this!

 

Thanks
http://rekink.com/guides/kinks/ I came across this here the other day, "consensual nonconsent" is what they call it in the link. They also refer to it as rape fantasy or rape play but they prefer "consensual nonconsent" as a softer term. Soo like... they consent to act out that they haven't given consent as part of the scene. I know that the thought of rape does not sit within my morals and I would never actually rape someone, so this always confuses me how I can be into such a thing when I'm browsing for sexual pleasure. Usually the stuff I'd watch is where they'd act out such a scene and then show the girl at the end to show she was okay. But I have come across videos that cast doubt on whether the line between roleplay crosses over to something that "wasn't part of the plan" aka non-consensual. Whenever I'd watch those kinds of videos, I would feel a heavy wave of guilt and sickness much more than usual. This is as far as I went before I joined nofap and I'm glad it stopped there. It's manifested into something I'm not proud to call mine and I want it gone.

 

Interesting read. Definitely got me thinking about myself and my fetishes.

I think my fetish must also be porn induced. My particular fetish is dominant women. I just got erection thinking about it. Anyway... I have a very loving mother. She has always treated me with love and care so I don't think my fetish stems from my relationship with her. I did used to argue with her a lot when we lived together but I don't think that can be linked to femdom can it? I did find myself enjoying porn that involved the punishment of women aswell so it's not all about submission of myself. I also enjoy being watched by a woman. I have never had proper sex. I think that it all stems from becoming desensitized from "normal" porn and looking for more extreme stuff. I have only acted out my fantasy once in real life. I asked for the women to insult me and strangle me. She was payed. I enjoyed it and when I think about it I get excited.

My conclusion is that if I hadn't ever watched porn I would have never got into these fetishes. Porn has deeply affected my sexual needs and I wonder if when I am one day in a relationship if straight missionary will ever make me happy. Hopefully this nofap process will make me "normal" again. Then again what is "normal"?

 

That was an eye opening read to say the least. I certainly wasn't aware of the extremities of such fetishes.

 

I have that fetish as well and feel like I've had a normal relationship with family and friends and that if I hadn't watched porn I wouldn't have known about these fetishes. I sometimes think because I'm a virgin that my curiosities get the better of me and make me want to experience it all.

You raise a good point here. I think it might be something to do with this as well, as I've heard of people in power liking to unwind like this. I do think it is an escape mechanism or fantasy for stress relief for myself. I like the idea of it being sensual and with love and being caressed and cared for while being tied up. In my mind it sounds so exciting and relaxing to just melt away from all the daily pressures. I know my PMO addiction largely stems from stress and boredom and since managing them better I've been able to go on the reboot I'm on now. Not sure if that makes sense or not.

 

I would appreciate it if you could name your fetish. Then, please identify the deep root cause in your list. You can then give a first hand account of your recovery. Many thanks.

 

I have an Asian fetish. It's not because of porn. It's a bit complicated.

 

I actually exist (or have done) in the Fetish community in my town. They believe they are a happy bunch exercising their natural sexuality.

Again I think we are not seeing the wood from the trees.

Depending on the individual the fetish isn't the issue. It's what impact it has on their lives. If it leads to addiction and excessive PMO then that's a problem.

But some people are happily married have kids etc but still active participants in their Fetish communities.

 

It's called a commodity fetish.

 

Kind of. I have a thing for intelligent women. I come from a very strict household. My father compared me a lot to people my age who were leagues ahead of me in achievements and intelligence. As you can guess, most if not all of this people were Asian. So I developed a thing for Asian women.

 

Liking or developing a "thing" for Asian women is not a fetish, surely. That is just your preference is it not? Don't sweat it.

 

I am hay and I have a fetish for gay men in suits or formal wear. Is that ‘normal’?