Ejaculating way to early

maybe she's "the one" ....hee hee.

but to be serious, i think it's a sign that you should begin to regard your body and sexuality with more respect than perhaps you have up to this point in your life. maybe sex is not such a casual affair after all to your core beliefs? i suspect you have an ethical origin or a moral standing that has been washed over most of your adult life by the society we choke to death in. try some self exploration. maybe if the chick is cool enough she would be down to come over and literally do some self help group exercises. or just talk about your life as a youngster, what was important to you then. pretend you're both 8 years old again for an evening instead of sex. might be fun.

 

p.s. i know box made brownies and watching balto were likely activities i would have been enthusiastic about at that age.....and building a huge living room fort that breaks a lamp trying to support the weight of my largest blanket.

 

In my experience, the more I worry about premature ejaculation . . . the more likely it is to happen!

It's happened to me from various sports and exercise. Then I'm afraid to do that exercise again and when I do my mind starts to panic and my heart race doubles as I fear that I might have another humiliating experience. Often it quickly (well, I should say very quickly) escalates and next thing I know I'm ejaculating.

I know to not worry about it is easier said than done, but I imagine that it's a factor. Do you get really nervous that you are going to do it again when you are with this woman?

Hopefully that helps!

 

had the same issue mate. the more i think "do not cum do, plz not cum" the faster i cum.
Accept it. Statisticly nearly every third person suffers from PE. Try to relax.
Important don't be to hard to yourself about it. That would make here also feel unconfortable. There are other ways to please her aswell.

what does help me is as soon i feel i'm close to come i pull it out and let it calm down. once, twice but it gives me a confidence boost that the third time last s longer because i know i can still control it.

 

Hi there, I'd recommend doing kegel exercises at least 30 min each for two weeks. The stronger your pelvic muscle( between scrotum and anus) the easier it will be to go for longer periods of sexual intercourse.

I've personally done the kegel exercises for two weeks and I was even able to stop from ejaculation during wet dream. Whenever I'm on no pmo for more than two weeks I start having wet dreams. So I did the kegel exercises to keep my semen inside and not waste it.

 

30 seconds is still more then me!

 

Better late than premature!

Sorry if that was inappropriate. Glad to hear that you are doing well, that you were strong enough (or wise enough) to just let the girl go, and that you are courageous and insightful enough to acknowledge that you still have issues.

 

Feel free to share any of your insights with that. I just had a hunch but had no idea beyond the underlying concept that you seem stuck out of alignment somewhere between ...consciousness and the subconscious core self are not in agreement.

 

That’s pretty intense. Sort of amazing how much of our daily autopilot and working paradigms are actually not ours but sort of molded into us.

for example, I am struggling with this hyper critical and super shallow inner voice about my appearance. Like, why am I so busy grappling a “fake” problem and you were so busy trying to exploit your end of that, or get laid by as many willing females as possible which usually means as many validation seeking self-denying females. We have been set up somehow to use this very hokey and insufficient system of supply and demand between incomplete parts of ourselves. Porn is only a part of the problem, but feeds it like rocket fuel.

 

very cruel things. I am not even going to be able to find a loving partner someday because of those things, even if they aren't all true. the insecurities are so well fed and rampant that I am not even emotionally and mentally well enough to form new relationships. I am terrorized by the conclusive evidence of my ugliness/worthlessness/unattractiveness/flaws can barely even make eye contact with people. that's how ugly I am/feel/look. I can't even untangle how much of that is from the rejection, disrespect, abandonment from my relationship with a PA that ultimately chose porn over me...many many times, some times for the same pictures over and over. or if it's all from my chronic illness finally destroying my health or both .my emotions tormenting me thus my immune system giving up. I dunno it's a fuckn huge mess dude. huge fuckn mess. depressed and sad but more than anything I want to get better and heal. this is hard to do on one's own! during a global crisis no less. I have obligations to my family and many health issues so that takes most of my time and energy. the rest was swallowed up by the defunct relationship with a PA, but now he's gone. it's hard to say if it'll be harder or better in the long run.

 

Your not alone- the rejection, disrespect and abandonment can literally destroy us if we let it. If you can remember his brain on Porn and how that has screwed him up and rewired his brain, will that help at all? It does me, at times I am very low and feel so ugly. Are you working a program, listening to anything to help you get more positive thoughts moving through your subconscious and conscious mine? What do you see yourself doing to get better and start to heal?

 

hey kaia... its okay to be alone then to be with wrong people... just because you haven't met someone till now doesn't mean you will never met someone who will know your worth... body and looks are a secondary factors at the last of the day the person matter with whom you are living... stop judging yourself in so wrong way just because society is obsessed with perfection doesn't mean everyone is looking for the same... some people are happy with the way they are... one person rejection can't describe who you are... and attitude matters... dont let the responsibility conquer your mind else it will completely became defunct... focus on yourself...there are number of people who look for inner beauty rather than external (may be i sound too philosophical but still its fact you can deny at your choice)... and seriously if that person choose porn over you then for sure you deserve lot better partner... its good it happens that you realize that for him instant happiness was more happiness than memories with you... everyone is dealing with global crisis in their way so stay positive for yourself, for your family and yeah i know its too easy to say as hard to follow but still i will say *move on* dont let your any time further waste by his opinion/judgement/rejection... every person is beautiful its just the perception that matters...

 

since there are many things you are trying still i would recommend along with change in lifestyle focus on your diet too because that too matters and since you are on way of nofap so all i can suggest is go for hardmode idk how much it will help you but from my own experience it help me not just in curing PIED but also early ejaculation during masturbation... and as u are already on way of learning respect so all i can say choose quality over quantity... its not something sort of records that need to be maintained by sleeping with as many as possible... everyone has their own definition of sex but feel it for emotion not for lust may that help too... rest pray to Christ may be he will help you too