Does Going to Prostitutes mess with your Relationships?

100000% porn has warped your mind and your expectations are not real. In my opinion, visiting a prostitute is never worth it. I have not done it, but I think you have this unreal expectation of what the experience would be like. From what I have read on these boards and few other things she is going to get you to orgasm as quick as possible and then want you out of there.

I also think your expectation on how hot they are is not realistic. Sure on websites they look like models, but I'm willing to bet 99.99% are fake pictures. Don't believe me? Google "prostitute mug shot" and see what they really look like.

 

1. No, porn probably screwed your expectations already, dont think one prostitute can screw it too much further.
There is nothing wrong about aiming to have a partner on the same level of attractiveness but it is not just attractivness what put (or dont put) people together...

2. If hot is what you want you should go for what you want. However should also ask yourself if that is really what you want deep inside. Let me clarify, I was very similar to you decade ago, just wanted a hot woman and then I realize i wanted that as external approval that I made it. Now I really dont care if she is hot (mostly she is hot enough anyway) but I care more if she makes my life happy, if she refills me with energy, if my dick is hard with her all the time. That are the things that matter to me now. Hot on its own is not enough.

About 10 years ago I visited maybe 50 prostitutes (dont really remember the number or all their faces). Some of them were really good, some of them were really bad (I was thinking during sex that if I wanked home it would be much better lol). So it really depend on the girl. If I can give you advice if you decide to visit prositute dont do it online but visit the place in person (with cheeky smile on your face), see all girls in fish bowl, and choose one that is smile most genuinely back to you.
This will guarantee the best sex, it doesnt matter if she is the most hot or not.

Out of all girls I do remember my first one complete model 10/10 redhead, hourglass figure, came there as virgin too and was so anxious of it being first time that I even couldnt get hard (she kept asking me if I was on drugs lol that I couldnt get hard). In my experience it depends on the location if the photos are autentic or not, I would say that 70% were somehow authentic, maybe with little photoshop improvements but the same persons.

 

You’re asking the question from the wrong angle.

There is nothing wrong with finding a partner that you find incredibly attractive. The wrong part is to have “porn-star standards” as your measuring stick for choosing such a girl. Trust me bro. The most attractive and sexy girl you will enjoy your life with is the one who loves you, supports you, finds you funny, wants to cuddle with you, wants to cook for you, wants to have your babies, wants to surprise you, etc, etc.; NOT the plastic double D Latina prositute that wants your $350 for a lousy 2.5min blowjob that she’s given to 7 other John’s before you. How do I know this? I myself have been one of those John’s and have actually spoke to one of these women. They don’t care about you and it’s all an act, and you’ll feel like a ripped off asshole after you give her the money.

Not worth it. Not even if she offered to suck my dick for $5. The guilt, shame, dishonor, and deterioration of integrity doesn’t have a price tag.

Stay away and don’t even consider sexual providers. They are enticing but actually venomous snakes that poison the soul.

Find yourself a woman who will actually love you and make you feel like the man God designed you to be. A strong, sexy, caring, sacrificial, protective, and providing man that loves his woman and she reciprocates that love.

 

Don’t listen to @JustinX.

It’s not worth seeing any prostitute. It'll suck you in and deteriorate you as a man. It’s very difficult to then get out of the spiral for laying for sex.

Find a woman outside of that ring. You’ll be thankful that you did.

 

If you want it really hot, take a shower until it hurts you. Then finish with only cold water for a good while.
Then think about your idea again to share your heart and sexuality with a hooker who had let in at least a 1000 other guys....

 

haha solid advice there

I didnt find that difficult to have 50 prostitutes and then 5 years none. But I agree that your mileage might vary.
Actually after few prostitute I felt better not deteriorated because at least I didnt have to wory about perfomance anxiety as I did at the beginning.
But yes I did replace prostitutes later on back for PMO, what was not a good thing.

 

If you’re wanting to build a foundation in which a loving committed relationship can take root and flourish in your life, then you couldn’t go in a more wrong direction than prostitution.

I’ve noticed a common theme on this site is guys think becoming a fuckboi makes them manly. Sure, they can boast of having multiple notches on their belts or be juggling multiple women at one time; however, if you ask them if they’re in a long term committed and loving relationship with someone they’re able to be completely trusting and honest with, you’ll get the same response which is, no. Talk about unimpressive.

At the end of the day, guys who are incapable of love are the antithesis of masculinity.

If that’s what you want then by all means go the prostitution route.

Oh and it’s more manly to live and die a virgin than to be a fuckboi.

 

Lets be fair: How would you feel if someone YOU wanted to date admitted to visiting prostitutes with certain frequency in the last 6 months?
put yourself in other's shoes, so to speak

 

Are you a Confirmed incel and ugly as sin OP? If not, i cant recommend ladies of the Night.

 

I think the fact of hiring one makes one an ipso-facto weirdo. the only way to win is not to play

 

Prostitutes are pure poison

 

It has destroyed any intimate relationships I have had.

sex with a prostitute is not intimate.

sex with someone you have grown an emotional connection with is a positive experience.

like pmo seems pleasant and none of us realised what we were getting into, so we did it for years before realising how damaging it was.

the reason why pmo is damaging is because it rewires the reward centre in the brain. It gives you a reward for getting the outcome (orgasm) without any of the work… getting to know someone, connecting with them etc.

if you never want to get to know someone and connect with them on a deeper level then PMO and prostitutes are fine.

for example if you are with a girl and you want to have sex with her, you have to get to know her etc. if you want something meaningful. If your brain says you can get the sex without the effort then you will be tempted to do that. The more you train your brain that way the further away you get from having a meaningful relationship. Visiting prostitutes is a supercharged way of damaging your reward system, more than pmo as it fools your brain into thinking it is real because it is a real woman.

 

I’m going to get a lot of hate, but I would never date or consider marrying anyone who has paid for sex or had one night stands. I can overlook a man who has had sex with someone he loved or at least cared for, but it would be a hard no for hookers and hookups. So, it might limit who would want to be in a long term relationship with you. Obviously you can always lie about it, but I can tell you that doesn’t bode well for the relationship if you lie. I’d rather be with a virgin all day any day than someone who has been around and especially with hookers.

 

Well at your age, youre not exactly the ideal prospect for a lot of Men so thats about as offputting for them as your hatred for prostitutes.

 

Lol. I don’t hate prostitutes. Unlike a lot of you, I actually worked with them for several years trying to help many of them get out of sex work, as well as arrest the John’s. I’m just saying there will be some women who do not want to be in a relationship with someone who has been with hookers. Just like the guys on here who want their wife to be a virgin. It’s no different than if you don’t want to marry a hooker or be in a relationship with someone who sleeps around a lot. It’s ok to have certain standards. My niece won’t be with a man who has kids. Her choice, she doesn’t want the drama. Be honest, many women don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who looks at porn, so it stands to reason you may hurt your chances with “ the one” if she turns out to have those standards.

 

@g2stop is exactly right. Don’t listen to JustinX. You will be messed up long term and have to do a LOT of work requiring your brain if you get sucked into visiting prostitutes. And also, it’s never that satisfying. What they offer is a lie.

Real satisfaction is finding a woman you can love and be intimate with. Not random woman trying to get the cash in your wallet.

 

Lol at the many myths here. Many women have bodycounts higher or equivalent to Men who have seen prostitutes. Let’s get out of this mentality that the female gender is somehow the higher Paragon of virtue out of the two.