Do you think some of us are into transwomen because there is no rules

Well said. When we get into religion and politics, everyone is entitled to their opinion and I'm glad that we are able to discuss it. But it sometimes gets in the way of the real goal of this site - to help people recover.

 

It happened to me several times that the description or the headline of a porn video says transwoman so I open the video and the players still have clothes on and they start making out, it is super arrousal to me, going ahead with the video I find that she (that I find really attractive up to this point) is an actual girl and the video description was inaccurate.
I keep finding her attractive but it is like something missing and I close the video to find an other one.
The point I wanna make here is that for me knowing that it is a transwoman is the trigger and don't even need to see the dick itself. Did anyone else experience this? Does anyone know the meaning of this? Maybe I have some problems with women that I am not aware of

 

Same here, I don't get why it is like that... I don't consider me gay or bi or something like that, but I wouldn't mind having a transwoman as girlfriend. NoFap hasn't changed this perspective, only in a way that I can be the dominant part in the relationship. Have to think about it on my way to work tomorrow, very interesting point...

Edit: I guess one major point is the fact, that porn objectifies people in general and trans people specifically as sex objects / toys. Since NoFap I watched several documentations about trans people (I myself don't want to change my gender, I'm pretty pleased with being a man) and I realised that most of them are quiet nice people. Probably a reason why I wound not mind sharing my life with a trans girl.

 

I thought a lot about that, in my case I think what attracts me is the fact they are sexually easy like man are or at least that is the idea that they give out and the overexaggerated femininity, I am only attracted from the ones who actually look like women though. I am not sure if I could have a trans girlfriend, after years of porn I acted out with escorts several times and it was delusional, I am really disturbed by the penis, you will also when you see it from real.

 

no i'm oppose it

its not even matter tho, are u still want to do this nofap or in ur mind u have this plan to search this particular person when the next relapse happen ? it will not get u anywhere tho ... u just destroy yourself

gosh this is disgusting, and Un normal ofc, why do it with boy with make up, rather than marry normal woman ?
man is a man . woman is a woman, man with makeup canot called themself woman vice versa, we still have many woman population in the world tho..why defy nature ? why defy god creation ? do you have a real life out there bro? or maybe your environment so fucked up that even a man with makeup called woman ?

 

Don't have have a same-sex marriage then.

I have found that my recovery depends on working on myself and not on bashing same-sex marriage verus non-same-sex marriage.

Perhaps it is because I have confidence in being straight? Even if some of the fetishes I want to avoid involve same-sex P, I'm not gay.

Trust me, I don't need to gay bash to prove I'm straight.

John 8:7

 

Ok, whatever...

 

The point I tried to make is the following: I was really into transwoman porn, and porn made me see these people as nothing more than sex objects. It also made me very uncertain about my sexuality. In order to prove my straightness to myself I started to hate gays and transwomen.
However over the last year this changed. I grow more and more confidence as a man - yes I relapsed a lot, but hey... And also I stopped seeing women and trans-women as nothing more than toys.
So when one day I meet a nice, good-looking girl, who share the same interests and values as I have, I woundn't mind if she's a trans.

I really have to laugh, when I hear about that porn makes man more open minded and stuff to minorities. For me, the complete opposite is true.

 

Porn, in a lot of ways, narrows our view of the world. You and me both started seeing people as PEOPLE after quitting porn, and not just objects for our entertainment. And it makes me sad when the anti-NoFap community presents us as intolerant people who are ruled by shame and closed-mindedness. There are some closed-minded fapstronauts, sure, but we all want to heal and we all want to improve. And there is nothing wrong with that.

 

Its a man trying to be a women cuz they feel and believe they are a women so basically some people like trans for their feminine traits so cant really be gay

 

I had HOCD in the past but I was able to get over it, I failed to quit the source of that which is transwoman pornography but I am working on it. I am 30 not a boy so I clearly know I am not gay at this point, I had plenty of chanches to act out as gay but I never been interested whatsoever, my thing for transwoman is clearly a fetish induced by porn and supported by my insecurities especially the one I have towards women.

 

As a straight man, I am very confident in my sexuality.

For myself, I find a huge difference between sexuality and a fetish.

HOCD is a made up term designed to bash gay people. Being gay is not a disorder. A man with a gay porn fetish is very different from a gay man. Nevertheless, HOCD and SSAD are terms invented by the far right to be able to bash gay people while sounding as if they were talking about something else.

 

Nope HOCD is a thing. It is one of the many OCD a person can get.

 

A transwoman is just a chick with genitals I understand

 

HOCD is gay-bashing using pseudoscience.

 

HOCD is a paraphilia whereas being gay is a sexual orientation.

 

Yo I can respect that

 

There is much that humans do that you cannot find in other mammals. If you're basing what you find normal, natural, and moral based only on what other mammals can do then I think you should get off the internet and go live in a burrow you've dug yourself.

 

HOCD is a sub-category of SOCD. It's essentially just obsessive thoughts in regard to one's sexuality and compulsive checking behaviours in order to validate one's sexuality. For example, you may see a man who is attractive and suddenly you can't stop thinking, "wait I find him attractive? Does that mean I'm gay? No no I'm not gay I've always liked girls. Here I'll look at a picture of a girl and see if it arouses me...yeah that definitely aroused me. Okay now a picture of a guy...did that arouse me? Did I feel something in my dick?" Because these thoughts give you such intense anxiety it becomes a vicious cycle where you become more and more anxious about your sexuality and the constant checking validates that the issue is a real problem.

I've heard of gay people having the same kinds of thoughts, yet it occurs in the reverse. They have obsessive thoughts about being straight despite always being gay and being convinced that they are gay. And it gets even crazier. Bisexual people will actually start having obsessive thoughts in regards to the sex that is opposite to the sex of the person they are currently dating. They're dating a man, so they obsessively think they're exclusively attracted to women.

In my own experience, accepting that if I'm gay then that really isn't a big deal and I have nothing to worry about, as well as cutting off the compulsive checking behaviours, cured my HOCD. There was no longer any anxiety about being to gay to feed the obsessive thoughts and there was no compulsive checking to validate the thoughts as being something worthwhile to engage in.