All I see is couples

Stop dwelling on what you don't have and make the changes needed to get what you want. What has prevented you from finding a relationship? Weed and booze feel good for the moment, but we all know that self-medicating will keep you stuck and it won't fix a thing.
Good luck, and ask yourself, what changes do you need to make in order to find a relationship?

 

I know that feel, hang in there.

 

Exact same age, no relationship ever and I get what you're saying. It is one of the most difficult challenges I've had in life is to not be discouraged by seeing this.

 

Its okay, don't feel too bad. Perhaps try to focus on your physical and mental health. Get your body and mind and soul in the best possible condition. We must find a way to enter a state of mind where we are completely happy and satisfied even without any intimate interactions with woman at all!

If we can get into that state of mind, and truly be comfortable in that position, then the pain will no longer be there, and we will be able to really truly smile again in this life

 

I'm an everyday common man, and when I stopped seeking, things happened. It's weird how it worked out, but it's how it happened for me. I've been with my wife now for over 12 years...but I can certainly relate to the draining emotional roller coaster from loneliness.

 

What exactly do you mean “when I stopped seeking”?

like you stopped looking for a wife and then she appeared or something?

 

The grass is always greener, bro.

Get sober, complete a hard mode reboot and start going to the gym.

You'll have more ladies than you could believe.

 

Yes. When I stopped constantly thinking about finding someone and stopped concerning myself with it constantly.

 

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You want a relationship because you believe that will solve the problems you need to face.
When you are in a relationship with your current state, you will only meet conflicts.
First things first.
First solve your issues and find a way to free yourself.

It's better to be alone with your own peace than in a toxic relationship

 

It's not. You can have hot girls, but you got to earn it.

 

I worry about the same but once every blue moon there is a normal attractive woman.

 

Why don't you marry as you are 31...

 

Probably looking for someone who he can't have. If he is realistic, and keeps his expectations low, i mean wayy low since he is clearly reluctant to improve his circumstances, there is no excuse that he should stay uncommitted.