34 y.o. gay man starting a new challenge

Hey,

I'm new here also. I've heard of accountability partners but am not an expert on how it works. I can't even find how to DM someone on here and I've deleted Telegram, Twitter, and Insta. No way to really communicate.

 

Welcome @189, glad you're here.

Investigating the groups section here on Nofap could be useful. There are groups for gay men, French speakers and ADHD individuals.

Taking some time to learn about this problem will really help in your recovery. Plus, it will take you away from Porn for a while. Read the reboot material (available here => http://www.nofap.com/getting-started) and then come up with a plan for what you will do when you are faced with urges. It has good information and good advice, so don't skip it!

Also, this is a great post from a nofap veteran about what kind of things could help you during your reboot => https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/time-to-be-done-with-this.140257/page-25#post-1442099

As you start your recovery, perhaps start writing a journal? If you feel comfortable telling people about happened and what's going on now, you will start to feel accountable to them. You may even inspire others. It's a nice feeling! This will help your recovery.

Also, stopping bad behaviours is only half the battle. This fight will probably also involve a lifestyle change. So try to add things into your life that makes you the kind of person who doesn't want to engage in PMO. Think about doing:

• Something you enjoy
• Something you're good at
• Something important
• Something for somebody else, without thought of reward

Read the journals of others - we all learn from each other, and you may find very useful insights from someone outside your age group or part of the world.

Look around the forums, get to know people. Be kind to others and others will be kind to you, both here and IRL.

I wish you a successful reboot.

~Orf