Post published by savedandhealing
Hi, everyone. I need your help and advice as I progress down the road of recovery. I am 28 and have been married for about 5 years, I have struggled with porn addiction and have cheated on a few occasions in emotionless one time encounters. These were basically anonymous encounters that did not involve vaginal sex, once a bj and the other few times a hj (cheating none the less). As I have matured I’m realizing that I’m living for so much more and no longer want to be burdened by this guilt and sorrow. Recently I prayed and asked for god to save and forgive me of my sins. I have been working hard to beat this addiction and read scripture. I read various things about if I should tell my wife or not. I never plan on going down this road again and the acts were emotionless and I believe fueled by the issues I was having with porn. I’m working hard on my marriage, but I still wonder if I should tell her. I’m not sure of the benefit. What would you all recommend, I read so many various opinions on whether to tell or not. I truly believe God has worked in my life and made me a changed man. I plan on working hard to keep this up, just not sure if I should leave this in the past. I read that I am freed from my past sins and to not be burdened by them. What is your all’s opinions? Thank you
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savedandhealing
I have confessed these sins to God and he has banished them. They have been forgotten. Is this not correct?
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savedandhealing
I know it to be true, but I also now it as in the past and forgiven.
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The Wrestler
So I can murder someone and hide the body, but if I confess it to God everything's cool, right?
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The Wrestler
You're asking a very legalistic question - you're asking "how much can I get away with?" but not "How can I honour my wife?"
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savedandhealing
You make a valid point, but I also see the reason for leaving it be. Honestly this is very overwhelming and confusing.
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savedandhealing
I will need to continue to strengthen my relationship with God, which I believe in turn strengthens my relationship with my wife. I’ll pray and reflect on it.
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savedandhealing
I do believe honoring my wife is leaving it in the past though and moving forward as a couple.
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Romans12:1
This is a very difficult issue. From experience I can say keeping things from a spouse is extremely damaging to a relationship. You may push it to the back of your mind but it affects how you treat them.
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Romans12:1
John 3:20 Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that their deeds will be exposed.... place yourself in her shoes, would you want to know the truth or live a lie?