Why You Need To Stop Chasing Girls Right Now

Interesting. Just focus on yourself?

 

OH CRAP you mentioned social
I have terrible social skills because i have asperger

 

Haha same! I just gave up after a while. It's near impossible for me to read emotions so I can't say the right things.

 

I agree, very well said!

The difference between boys and men - men don't play games.

 

I mean everyone goes through this. Its great we have the internet to share experiences and thoughts on the subject of women and its relation with nofap. But I do really believe that all these things are superficial, nofap helps us connect and believe in ourselves. Each individual is capable of vast achievement. Girls will come and go, some are kind some are rude, they are all regular human beings. Do you really believe that women never feel lonely? You can get a gf anytime, but the more important matter is finding one that is synchronized with your beliefs and attitude to push you to a higher level like op said. Stay clean, push towards fulfillment and you be pieced together as the man who feels he fits in this world.

 

Yea the premier example is of guys in the pickup community chasing girls under conditions of depression and anxiety. they really need to read this because theyre so brainwashed to think that rejection is part of the process. attracting women is not a skill, its something you have, like having abs covered my belly fat.. the abs dont become bigger,, the belly fat goes away. and in this case, brain fog is the belly fat.. the way to get rid of brain fog is to become independent from girls and also becoming independent from improving socially.. be urself and the anxiety u receive is just something to accept, dont try to make friends if it takes so much effort. If u get up in the morning and u get to a point where ur work is the only thing ur planning to do and its enjoyable, thats independence. find a love for something and when u walk past a girl on the street on the way to wat u love, she will see it in ur eyes and be potentially attracted.

 

I chased girls (actually I just wanted to have a girlfriend, I'm very emotional). And just this year, when I started college and stopped going after it, some girls are interested in me. There's no anxiety and bad feelings. I'm just living life. I still have trouble approaching and im insecure about myself. But I never felt better. I plan to finish my PMO, go to gym and go out more (tho i wont be able to afford this life, since my parents pay my living out State, things will work out slower ).

 

I think it could even be difficult hearing all the success stories kindly and openly shared by others because you might feel some miraculous should happen and everybody works different.

So do I. And for me - I believe it's wise to stay in contact with girls but to balance things out a bit. So be kind, and be very subtle with your kind gestures, but inviting a girl for a dinner or a movie that will make you more vulnerable then saying > Hey it's nice to see you - and leave it at that. I personally wouldn't chose the way of stop showing interest in girls. But it's just an opinion and there are many ways to success!

 

shit dude that explained it all. i agree 1000% and thank you to remember me about this

 

i am single for 7 years. i decided not to pay attention to women and not trying to impress anyone. but itis so hard to do it. i do not even know if i'am doing it as i want it. i decided to ignore women because i feel soooooooo sorry for them. they fall far bad boys or rich boys but then get beaten up, disrispected... list goes on and on and then they cry for a normal guy. well normal guy is at home feeling like horseshit because he never gets a chace and he is at home watching porn and masturbating asking why can't he get a date. i feel sick just to think about this but this is what they do. then they go out and gossip how guys are and that guys are just pigs who want sex. i have to throw up now because it is really annoying to listen this shit. then they see me just as a friend.

i remember once i was at the club with friends. i was there standing. just standnibg. not even dancing. i had a drink in my hand. all the club was starring at me. i felt weird because i am not used to this. one girl then came to me and rubbed her as at my dick. i went away because i was not in the mood. i was like fcuk you all and leave me alone state of mind. now i don't know how to enter this state of mind again. it was a good feeling not to care of anything around me. but even if a girls aproaches me i have no idea what to talk or do... i'm not skilled at dating so.... even if a girl likes me i will never know.

daoists have a nice words for this YIN - YANG. there is only yang in my life. there is no equilibrium. i need yin too but i can't find it or i can't see it when it comes. dao also says that things go as they are ment to go. so it will happen when you are ready

 

Pretty well put. I would also like to add my 50-cents. Read books. The more the better. Here are a few of my suggestions of books who are worth reading several times each: The Monk who sold his ferrari, the secret letters of the monk who sold his ferrari, The power of now, New earth, The alchemist, The prophet, Think and grow rich, how to win friends and influence people, tao te ching, the tibetan book of the dead, the compound effect. All these books have the power to change your life on its own. I would also suggest meditating twice a day for 10-20 minutes. Once in the morning and once before bed. After a months time the effect will be huge. You will feel happier and calmer, and other people will notice. What I also figured out after doing nofap and meditation for years is that PMO holds you back spiritually. Try it yourself and you can tell that I am right.

Another thing that really makes an impact on your personal development is to have a diary. I used to write in it just to get my thoughts down on paper. I also keep a daily gratitude list in my diary. write down 5 things you are grateful for every day. You have to feel it too. You can even make it into a meditation if you are advanced. You will notice a difference in your overall well being in no time.

Then make sure to workout regularly/go for a walk etc. You should make an effort to kick yourself out your front door for at least an hour a day. The world is a beautiful place. Do not get stuck in your bed all day!

Also make sure to have fun. Remember that you are your own best friend. You have to threat yourself like it. Take yourself out for dinner at a nice restaurant once in a while, take yourself out for a date, a movie night. Be creative. When you start loving yourself, you will soon realize that the love that you feel is too overwhelming. You have to share it with everyone! So grab your closest friends and let them take part in your fun as well.

 

Ever tried natural grounding? I would not recommend it to everyone since it can be a little triggering for some. Search it up on youtube. It does not contain nudity of any sorts, just normal girls doing normal stuff like singing and dancing. It also goes under the name Yin-Yang meditation, sexual polarity meditation etc.

 

Ever tried to bad boy?Girls love bad boys..
By d way sometime its good to be bad..
Try it you will feel better.
Change is the only thing permanent in this world.

 

i don't know how to be a bad boy

 

I understand what you mean but it is not really about being "bad". Girls like strong men who are not afraid of asking for what they want. You can still be a gentleman. And I can guarantee that nofap makes fear less of a factor in our lives. It is nothing wrong in kissing a girl who you find pretty. Invite her on dates like there is no tomorrow. Do not attempt to hide that you think she is pretty. And do not get upset if she rejects you. Just be natural, and remember that life is not worth taking so serious. I live at a University and I have to say that there is no need in taking women serious. Talk with them like they are your male friend. As long as you have humor and charisma people will love you. And how do you get that? Develop self confidence. This is where learning some skills comes in handy. Every problem anyone has ever faced is written down in books. Having problems? Read a book. You do not need any magic formula to pick up girls, although I would not write off all pick up artists just like that. A handful of them might learn you a thing or two. It is not about being particularly bad in any way even tough I understand that the way "bad boy" is used here refers to being confident. Somehow most people think it is bad to touch and flirt with girls. It is not. Girls will love it. And you will feel better too.

With that said, be careful during reboot. Sex too early can ruin a decent streak. Learned that the hard way.