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Great job nomorefappingforever on 3 days. I don't know how old you are but I bet you will get more boners from not PMO'ing. Do you like these girl friends in a sexual way? If so, I'd just be honest and tell them your not watching not PMO because you believe it's a habit and is addictive to you at this time. Let them know that you find them sexually attractive so that's why your getting boners. Something as simple as I find you sexy and you turn me on sometimes, works. See what happens, maybe they find you sexually attractive too and it could start a relationship or just a friends with benefits. Either way I don't think it hurts to tell them why your getting boners. I'm guessing your much younger than me as well and it's totally natural.
What are you doing instead when you get the urge to PMO now? How is that new habit working?

 

Great thoughts. I agree that helping others helps yourself. I think this community seems to be good at that since I've been on here.

 

Day 23 Update:

I'm back at home after a 5 day mountain biking vacation with great friends from where I went to College. The only times I thought about PMO was early in the morning and right before bed. Hanging out with friends and staying busy helped to reduce my thinking of PMO. I found that mountain biking and being tired helped reduce the urge because I was getting a dopamine rush and I was just tired and didn't want to do anything but eat and sleep. In addition when your surrounded by friends camping the location of PMO wasn't convenient.
I am now back at home, still tired but it's a beautiful day so I'm trying to find friends to play disc golf with.
I am finding breathing deep, cleaning up the camping gear and napping are distracting me from PMO. This is not getting any easier from Day 3 but that's ok.
I'm looking for the cue's that cause me to PMO. I know the reward is an orgasm but I'm not certain of the cues. I think one is being alone, just like the Weezer song says.

 

Day 4 for myself. I've done 2 weeks before and the results were noticeable. Had also quit weed at the time as well, and that makes a difference. Imo.
This is definitely not an easy undertaking, but one I think everyone should take on. We can do this! We will all feel so much better about ourselves, and make the world around us a better place to be. Positive thoughts, and positive vibrations everyone, peace!

 

While they are attractive I'm not attracted to them. I think I'm just a little overly sensitive at the moment due to previously only thinking of girls sexually due to porn. I'm hoping it'll pass soon and I'll be a bit less awkward, but its not that big of a problem anyway its more just an annoyance.

 

6 days longest streak in weeks crushed due to a mind clouded by exhaustion and boredom and easily reachable porn on my phone. I've decided I'm going to shut off any form of internet connection on my phone and if I have any bad urges shut off my phone entirely. Learning from mistakes

 

It's common for guys to think of girls in a sexual way, don't suppress that, were guys. That doesn't mean you should do every girl you think is sexy. Porn may make you look at them in a more objective way instead of seeing them as a woman with a body, personality, human with feelings. It sounds like your on the right track though, good for you.

 

I agree DSL, a good undertaking for anyone to ween ourselves off of a habit. Congrats on stopping weed as well. It's call the "f' it" drug for a reason. I am getting more done at night now that I don't watch porn or masturbate, Good luck to you. What's your challenge time line?

 

Day 25 and 26

Parents drove through on there way home so spent most of the day with them.
After they left I went on a date with a woman from Tinder that I'd been texting for quite some time but had never met up with. Date went really well and lot's of making out, getting her wet, and playing with her boobs in the car. I felt like I was back in high school. By not PMO'ing I just feel more sexual and the interaction seems more natural when it leads sexually.
She did want to but we decided not to go back to her place, I brought it up many times. In hindsight it was probably a good idea. I would have had to get up early and drive home an hour and then go to work.
I got turned on easily by no PMO and was pretty horny. The conversation/flirting beforehand felt very natural and nothing was forced.
After the teasing and sexual tension I wanted to PMO but I resisted, took a few deep breaths and went to bed.

Day 26
Work, and a 2 hour meditation class. The class is an excellent way to quite the mind and a tool to reduce the urge for porn I'm starting to find out. I looked at some pics from a trip I just took and am now writing this before going to read about Entrepreneurship and then going to bed. I had coffee and chocolate an hour ago so we'll see how easy getting to sleep will be.

I can't believe I'm almost at day 30, I'm doing this.

Just had to write a little pep talk for myself.

 

I know. I meant in a more objective way constantly thinking what I'd do to them and stuff and it was pretty nasty and not something I liked. Now I think of them like that more naturally instead of going "I would pound her so hard" I'm going "Nice ass" and then just continuing on with my regular train of thought instead of obsessing.

 

Sounds like you had a pretty good couple of days. Power on to day 30 man!

 

Relapsed again today because I forgot to take action against my phone being a problem and that stacked with the strong day after urges of PMO. I think the reason why I have trouble with long streaks is because of the day after urges I seem to always fall for them as well as one of the brains oldest tricks in the book, curiosity killed the cat. That constant question of "Does this exist?" that nags at you until eventually you just need to know if it exists and then you're toast.

 

Thanks for encouragement. Today was a rough day to abstain. The answer to your question is does some sort of porn exist, yep probably. That doesn't mean you need to search it out. Your head is still mentally masterbating or playing tricks as your seeing in your comments. Redirect that thought into something else. Beat your 9 day goal, good luck.

 

Day 27.

Work, counseling for ADD, book reading, and movie and popcorn with a girl from Tinder form a day in the teens.

I had the urge to PMO badly today. I stuck to reading and doing the exercises for What color is your parachute. I texted the tinder girl that flaked out on me last weekend to see if she was free tonight. She was so I invited her over for a movie. It was nice to cuddle up to a cute girl and make out. The kissing chemistry wasn't exactly there.
I started kissing her neck, she got turned on then wanted me to stop, work early in the morning was her reason. No problem, I'll see her again sometime soon if I choose.

I'll be at a music festival the rest of the week so no updates till next week. Good luck to all on this forum and thread. I'm finding that alternatives that are stimulating mentally like reading, meditating, and playing guitar are helping me through my urges.

 

Relapsed again today, but oh well. Its discouraging and a minor set back, but all in all its my own mind trying to crush me and I'm better than that and can handle myself and I just need to fully realize this and on that day I will resist the urge, the INSTINCT that caused this infectious addiction to spread among men and women alike and remove this junk from my life entirely to hopefully be replaced by something real and on that day I will be a happy man, but until then I have to work hard to stop myself from doing something I regret a minute later every time.

 

shoot... relapsed again. I had to uninstall K9 off of my desktop computer because it was broken. It locked me out of my computer for 24 hours even though punishment was set at 15 minutes and I hadn't gone on any blocked sites... or any websites at all for that matter... I just started my computer in the morning and BAM locked out... so I uninstalled it cause I needed internet that day and don't want to install it again because I don't want the same thing happening again.

 

NB – I have my own daily journal called ‘Tycoon-P Progress Log’ and was also posting on PMO Free June challenge thread by Alexander Rhodes. But lately this thread has got very active, so I would like to join here too. I have already completed 4 days and every subsequent day will be posted here.
I hope this thread continues to grow. Sharing your own story and reading about others progress just makes the reboot process a lot easier.

Below is the log of my 4 completed days.

WEEK 1
DAY 1
Tuesday - 16th of June, 2015

Successfully completed the first day. No porn - no masturbation.

I somehow feel that masturbation will lead to relapse for I have since my early teenage years only masturbated to porn and porn fantasy. So, it is on my no-no list for the time being.

What are your take on it guys? Do write below. Point me to a goo d article on it if there is any.

I think I have written enough for today. Will check the forums again tomorrow.

WEEK 1
DAY 2
Wednesday - 17th of June, 2015

It is 11:30 pm here in India. The day is about to end, which marks my second day in my reboot process. My body feels deferent. Perhaps it is just my mind telling me so, but whatever it is, it does feel great.

Had my Exams Today. Perhaps I was not 100% prepared for it but still performed well. My decision to embark on this Nap journey yesterday kept me in good mood today. At about 3:30, I did get some wild urges but just wrote about it somewhere in this forum, which did wonders in reducing its intensity of my craving. Guys, writing down your feelings always help. It is perhaps even better to put it down in a social forum like this where others people can chime it and add their valuable insights.

That is all I have for today. Will again write tomorrow.

WEEK 1
DAY 3
Thursday - 18th of June, 2015

Relapsed today! Felt like shit - considered suicide - but decided to fight back stronger than ever.

Reason of relapse -
For thinking that I could control my porn use instead of eliminating it. I was under stress too so that might accelerate the urge to watch porn and masturbate. Began the day browsing Facebook pictures of girls that go to my school. Soon began seeing bikini clad women - then homemade porn and then in a very subtle way, even before I could realize it, I was in the hardcore stuff.
Lesson to learn -
1. Porn use can’t be used in moderate quantity. It will soon escalate and consume your time completely.
2. Sensual images should be avoided. The ‘Non Arousal Mechanism’ by Gary Wilson (www. Yourbrainonporn. Com) combined with the ‘hard mode’ at the moment seems to be the best option.

I hope I don’t repeat my mistake. I end my third day with this.

WEEK 1
DAY 4
Friday - 19th of June, 2015

Today is wonderful. It might be because I had relapsed yesterday and my sperm ducts are empty. I had a habit of masturbating every next day, so today there are no triggers whatsoever. Tomorrow will be challenging but I am ready for it.

Got my Physics and Mathematics exam soon so I have to put a lot of effort in my studies. This is good for it will let my brain re-wire and destroy old pathways and develop meaningful and empowering habits. I have great academic and business dreams which I will concentrate my focus on.

Also from the next day onwards I have decided to add a section of NoFap related things that have learn each day. Maybe I will do that on a weekly basis. Not decided fully but will definitely think about it. I guess that’s all I have for today; I am learning more as I grow. The next post will come tomorrow.

 

coming back from hell after a long time. 2 clean days now..

 

28 days more to go

 

28 is good but I'm aiming for 363 more.