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Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by TheApprentice, Mar 15, 2015.

  1. enibeni23

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    Atta boy!! that's the way it should be!! I am rooting for you!!
     
  2. aakkss

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    thank you so very much. and what are you aiming for?
     
  3. enibeni23

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    Well I am aiming till the end of the year and by then hopefully I would have developed enough resilience and courage to never indulge in PMO again.
     
  4. aakkss

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    Hope you achieve your dreams. :)
     
  5. enibeni23

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    I wish you the same, if you need an accountability partner or a friend to talk to... please feel free to PM anytime.
     
  6. aakkss

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    We shouldn't wait for the right moment. Instead we should make the moment right. What say?
     
  7. PBR

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    Great job aakiss and en23. What are you both doing to fight the urge? How's it going Nofapforever, I haven't seen a post from you in a few day?
     
  8. PBR

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    Day 32. A recap and long post from a fun weekend.

    Damn, I made it over 30 days. I don't think I could have done it without the accountability of this community. Thanks to all who are posting their progress, setbacks and insights as well. It is great to read and learn from.

    I was at a festival since the last time I posted. There were a lot of beautiful people, men and women. I've decided everyone is more beautiful when they have a natural smile and are having a great time.
    A few things nofap wise that stuck out to me were:

    I felt like I was overthinking before acting when I came to chatting to beautiful women
    When I focused on the moment, music and surroundings I felt more at ease.
    I had no desire to fap while at the festival because I was surrounded by people and never had privacy.
    I did want and did talk to more beautiful women.
    I bounced around to different groups a lot. Whenever I didn't feel a good vibe I moved on.
    Pushing through the "bad vibe" led to a better experience most of the time.
    Women love to be led, it felt needed and more natural after no PMO.

    I did have sex with a cute woman at the festival after hanging out for a day or so of really connecting well, flirting, making out, and dancing together. I didn't bounce around to other groups that day. We both just enjoyed the moments as they were and nothing felt forced. I did get performance anxiety after foreplay while putting on a condom after not finding it for a couple minutes in a tent. She said, that's ok. I think mentally I relaxed a bit more, enjoyed the moment as it was and then slid inside her, grew hard and the sex was great. No more PA after that.

    The next morning I felt way more relaxed, full of energy, didn't think about what I said when I talked to women or men.

    Lessons, Thoughts for nopmo and life:

    I think a great connection and sex released the sexual energy that was stored.
    The act of no PMO may have allowed me to talk to women I would have thought were "out of my league"
    No PMO made me act more sexual - touching, flirting, eye contact.
    I bounced around to many different groups, conversations possibly due to nopmo. After a release I am way more relaxed and I think less. Note: Even thought a release may allow this relaxation, I'd rather have more drive without PMO. Not thinking about an outcome allows a much more natural comfortable conversation.
    Being forward about your sexual intentions in a fun flirty way makes the progression flow. If it's a negative response, I move on or act as friends and want no more.
    Smiles make everyone more beautiful on the inside and out.
    If I think people are friendly, they will respond that way.

    Insights, thoughts, similar experiences?

    PBR.
     
  9. Sorry I haven't been around for a few days. Was busy studying for an exam and getting a bunch of yard work done. I'm hoping a did well on that exam because I worked my ass off studying for the first time in a couple years and it was a pretty good feeling.
     
  10. I relapsed today. Not sure why to be honest, but its getting easier for me to resist urges without help from K9 or any blockers which is good. I went 4 and a half days without needing K9 and I'm prepared to do it again.
     
  11. PBR

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    How did the exam go nomore? Did you feel like you had more energy and could focus more?
    Congratulations on 4 days of no PMO. I find that OpenDNS probably works well. I just tried typing in the old porn sites I went to and it blocked them. It's free and you can get instructions pretty easily online.
     
  12. PBR

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    Day 35.
    A rough day at work. Got back into the exercise routine. Very tired now. Cleaned the house and played guitar. Desire to watch PMO is being minimized. I feel like my time is better spent doing other things that are more productive to my life. Sitting in front of a computer fantasizing for a half hour or more is a waste of my time.
     
  13. It went well I did feel like I had more energy and payed more attention and such. Hopefully I've passed because my grade is riding on it.
     
  14. blazor28

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    lets do this guys i m in
     
  15. blazor28

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    can anyone pl tell me how to control for the first week i m not inspired enough to cross first week after that i will be able to handle it need help
     
  16. I've relapsed again after 2 days 4 hours and now I feel stupid because I'm hanging out with friends in a couple days and now I'll be all awkward. Oh well. Can't do anything about the past, you can only aspire to fix the future.
     
  17. PBR

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    Blaze what helped me the first week and until now is posting your progress on here. In addition finding something fun or productive to do when you think about PMO. I pllay guitar, read, write business ideas, and update my reports on here. Hope that helps.
     
  18. Relapsed today. I think it was caused by tension/stress... hung out with a girl friend all of tuesday and it was awkward for me (only me, thank goodness, she didn't realize how panicky I was at all) but it was still pretty fun. "Watched" movies and talked a lot. Watched is in quotes because we ended up just having a long conversation that had a pillow fight intermission which was rather entertaining.
     
  19. PBR

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    If you like this girl, you should probably kiss her. A pillow fight sound like flirting to me. She's just waiting for you to make a move in my opinion. Have fun.
     
  20. PBR

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    Wow Day 42. This is kinda getting easier in some and more difficult as well. It's a bit of a roller coaster.

    Over the weekend I met a girl I'd been chatting with from Tinder. It was the second time we met, things flowed well and I had sex 3 times with her. The first 2, no problem with PA but the third time I had PA. I think my head wasn't in the right spot and I was over thinking. Anyone else have this issue and suggestions for resolution?
    I miss the habit of PMO. It relaxes me and I enjoy the time to myself. I still think no PMO is the way to go because I get other things done and I am working on breaking a habit. I feel like I'm now getting hooked on bouncing from girl to girl because of the possible dopamine rush and newness of it all. Anyone else do this or have suggestions. I also feel like when I was depressed, PMO was an escape. Now I don't have that escape so I've been sleeping more than I probably need too. Similar experiences?
    Have an awesome 4th of July weekend.
     

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