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I relapsed yet again... This is just so much more challenging than you make yourself think... its tough and some people don't have the situation to avoid it properly (such as myself) and even though I want to stay away from it as much as I can I just... I dunno... its so tough... I've found that music really helps me, but I can't listen very often because the neighbours get annoyed and I have no headphones of any type (getting some soon thankfully) but music REALLY relaxes me and makes me feel just so happy... I try to get out more but I have like three friends and the only one that lives close enough to hang out with on a regular basis is always incredibly busy. I have no money for hobbies and no motivation to get anything useful done... I just feel like a sad sack of lard sitting around all day going bad...

 

Hey man keep at it. Don't get down on yourself. I find keeping myself busy helps
Not all hobbies cost a lot. If your in the US Frisbee golf is really inexpensive to get in too. If you don't have any money, think of ways to make some. Do you work? If not, what skills do you have that people may pay you for. I ask you because I'm asking myself the same questions. I find guided meditations from the insight timer app is really helpful at helping me realize the urge is just a thought and feeling and it will pass like waves. Good luck and feel free to pm me. I'm just starting this journey as well.

 

Hobbies don't require money ! You don't have to attend a class to get a new hobby . Nowadays the internet is a free class for everything
I found this list of 100 free hobbies . http://freeintenyears.com/frugal-tips/100-cheap-hobbies/
If you get yourself busy with some hobbies from the list you will totally forget about P . And I don't like to advice with playing computer games because I'm addicted to them too ... but they are a great distraction from P ! (I have avoided relapsing a couple of times by just playing) . When you get past 3 days it gets easier around day 4 or 5 then you'll find yourself breaking your best streak !
Best of luck my friend ! btw you still got that K9 right ??

 

I do have a couple hobbies already (hiking, driving range, photography), but they're only on wednesdays and thursdays and the only ones I could do at home that I'm interested in are blacksmithing and building random stuff. Now building random stuff can be free if you do it right, but I don't have a vehicle to pick up old electronics/furniture to get components for making things. SMITHING on the other hand is freaking expensive all the tools and the forge and the fuel for the forge and whatnot. I would hike more, but there are no good trails within walking distance of my house... and videogames are a big part of my life I don't think I'll ever be able to cut out they're a part of who I am basically and yes they help a lot sometimes (especially 6 hour games of civ 5) but I wouldn't advise them to anyone either considering they're built to release dopamine.

 

There is actually a frisbee golf course at a park near where I live so I'm gonna try that out sometime, but in regards to a job I really don't have time... well let me rephrase that... I don't have time that would work for an employer... I'm busy monday morning, all day wednesday, thursday morning and friday both morning and night so... plus I have anxiety (of multiple kinds) that I'm currently in therapy for (yay) which would make it hard working retail or in a fast food restaurant or something so I don't know where I could work anyway... but I do occasionally make money helping friends/family out.

 

Looked at a couple pictures, but wasn't aroused at all (strangely) and so I was like "Wow this is great, I feel no urges" and shut if off... don't know if I should reset my "Watched P or P subs" counter or not considering it was like 30 seconds 4 pictures and didn't even get aroused...

 

It's up to you but I say keep it and make a commitment to reach 5 days this time . Nothing beats discipline and willpower bro

 

Day 9, definitely had some urges. Had a great first date with lots of sexual tension last night. Very difficult not to PMO at home, but went to bed instead, Tonight went over to a friends to hang out and watch a couple programs. Set up an okcupid account and just looked through possible matches. Kind of eye candy, dopamine increase probably but no PMO.

 

Not sure if flat lining or just having rare urges due to repetitive wet dreams ... either ways I like it

 

Congrats Musta, I still have the urges but I'm trying to redirect them.
Instead of PMO I had a 20 min nap and then went by myself to a 1 year anniversary party for a local brewery. They had a free pig roast and some specialty beers on tap. I ran into a friend right when I got there which made it a little less awkward than going by yourself and then met other friends I hadn't seen in a while and chatted with some new ones. I invited a girl I'd gotten a number from a while ago over and we ended up hanging out till about 10:30 and the sexual tension was high. She said she was going to come over for a beer after she had to go drop off something at a friend, but she never came over, oh well. Overall a much better afternoon and evening than sitting in front of a computer pretending. Reality is way better than fantasy because well, it's real.

 

Reality is sure better than fantasy @PBR . Looks like you're doing a good job in keeping yourself occupied , well this will totally make you forget about all urges . Good luck mate

 

Hung out with a female friend yesterday and wasn't awkward AT ALL. It was sort of wonderful to be honest... looked her in the eyes when talking and didn't even feel anxious.

 

And that's only 3 days of NoFap man . imagine the super powers later

 

Good job nomorefappingforever.
Daily update: exercised, meditated, napped, read, and meetings. Went to grocery store and saw a super attractive girl and wanted to start a conversation and maybe get a number if she was cool. Mind went blank when I got over to her. I don't think I have more anxiery, just definitely more horny and my mind was thinking like a chess match instead of just being in the moment. Anyone find resolve for this?

 

Overthinking is so annoying sometimes isn't it? I do it all the time man. If you realize you're overthinking things then you can try telling yourself to chill or just take a second to compose yourself.

 

Relapsed today. I blame it on stress considering I had just finished working in a dirt crawl space for 9 hours... I should have just booted up fallout and blown up some faces instead... oh well I realized I can't trust myself to have my K9 password saved on my computer (unfortunately)

 

Hi everyone..
Today I am starting my 100 day challange ..
I am committed to cmplete it ..
I am preparing for a competitive exam .. PMO has always come a an obstacle ..
Thin time plan to realise my potential .
I am also doing 2 hrs meditauon end
Everyday to keep me on track and going ..
Will keep u guys posted ...

 

Thank you nomorefappingforever for the advice in the previous post. I'm trying to meditate everyday, and coming back to the breath helps in so many ways. I didn't overthink it to much when I talked to a girl at the gym today, no number but I'll see her again. We definitely had a few common interests and I think she blushed a little when I said something about her attitude was sexy. The best thing about this no PMO is that I have way more sexual energy, now to direct it for good.

Nomorefappingforever, having hobbies is helping me a lot, at least so far. The things I am doing right now when I get the urge is:
1. Get away from the computer. K9 didn't work for me in the past, to easy to type in a password for just 15 minutes of PMO. I haven't tried P websites to see if it works, but I directed my router to OpenDNS. Just look on google on how to set it up through your router. Get the IP address that's specific to no PMO. Thanks to someone one this forum for telling me about this. I apologize, I forgot who it was and the IP addresses.
2. Read a book I'm interested in. I am in the middle of 3 right now.
3. Remember this is a challenge, I'm at the point where I will feel pretty crappy to myself and to you all out there if I break this challenge.
4. PMO is not reality. This is a big one that seems to work a lot. Those women are not women you'll meet. I prefer to meet real women and have an interaction not knowing where it will go. Life is not scripted.
4. Remember PMO is a habit. There are certain cues that direct my mind to PMO. Mine are boredom, home alone, A certain room in the house, ect. I am now trying to create cue's to do other things. I am leaving books out, my guitar case is near by, and I got rid of a certain item in the room that reminded me of PMO.
5. This site. The first person that posted in this thread said to update daily, so I am. By doing this it helps me remember why I'm doing this and that there is a large community of support.
6. If I catch myself playing with myself I just recognize it, stop, breath and smile. It's amazing how it changes your focus.
7. I'm 34 and I love this new sexual energy, possibly testosterone boost. I feel stronger and more manly when I exercise and talk to men and women. It's Awesome.

That's what I'm doing so far, maybe some of these things on my list will help you.
Anyone else have ideas, I definitely could use more. I'm still in breaking the habit mode.

Good luck to all on this Journey.

 

A quiet thread today I guess.

Day 14. A busy day at work, thought the girl I had a date with a few days ago was going to come over but a no-show. Played darts and drank beer with a neighbor which was good to hang out and catch up. Just want to PMO but going to bed.

 

Its great that you talked to that girl at the gym man! I'm going to try to be more active on the forums and I'm going to start putting more effort into prevention methods.