Hello everyone. I stumbled upon this website some how by accident. Never even knew anything like it existed. I guess you could say I am a porn addict. Especially when things are going wrong in my life. I am recovering from an alcohol addiction as well. I relapsed just a few weeks ago. Watched many hours of porn. The alcohol was just not enough. I quit drinking six days ago, and I still had to watch more porn. I guess I had to find another way to pleasure myself. Even food became an addiction. I started with porn ever since I got my first internet connection when I was 14 or 15 years old. You had to have more patience with the old slow modems back in the day. Now everything is quick and instant. I have always dealt with social anxiety, so normal sexual relationships were non existent. I am getting to the age where I do not want to be alone anymore. Most of my close family has passed away, and eventually I will have not many members left. It is time to take some sort of action. I probably have plenty more to say, but I will leave it at that. I will give this a try and see if it help me with forming relationships. Or at least help me mentally and spiritually. I know there are other mental factors involved, but the dependence of porn now makes more sense on its negative affects on me. I do have help from my family doctor for dealing with my depression and anxiety. Thanks for your time.
Hey Denbert! Welcome to nofap. I'm sober from alcohol too because I had alcohol addiction. I have alcohol, drug, food, porn, sex, love, work/activity addiction and many other addiction! Different groups and programs helped me stay clean over the course of time. So I hope you find what works for you too. You're welcome to message me any time. If you want a suggestion on getting started, I would say read some other new to nofap posts, and try to see what you have in common with other people's reasons for joining. Then you could say "Hi I'm new too" and anything else you wanted to say. That would be a simple way to start becoming involved and meeting people here.
Luckily you have found this website, its about time to fight those depressions and anxietys and not escape reality through PMO. Your life will change soon, dont give up rebooting !
Hi. Welcome to forum Denbert! Make sure you crate a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about. Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
Hey @Denbert , I'm just a normal ordinary member. No moderator super powers and no special insite. I share my ESH (Experience, Strength and Hope) of what works for me. Just another warm welcome and a heart felt hello. This community has helped me so much. What worked for me was "working" it. It took hard work for me to complete a hard reboot (No pmo) for 120 days, then move into a Sex Positive mode. First, reading the literature published by NoFap itself along with reading journals. Then, doing the work. Writing in my journal and replying to introductions and other's journals. Finally, but not least, getting involved with the fellowship. I found it on the forums, but also in people's profiles. The forums tend to be longer posts, where the profiles tend to be more "conversational". That is what has worked for me. I like to remind myself that this community was here waiting for me with the lights on when I arrived. Now, I have to do my best to be there when someone comes to the community. For me NoFap is 1/2 program & 1/2 fellowship. Click on these people and post a "hello" on their profiles. I've found that the bricks that hold this community together are cemented with the support of the members of the fellowship.. @TheGoldenEra @I_can_and_I_will @JackMcWaffles @Mr.Imperfect @Inqonyama @Toughboy @romlel @LeoJohn @Gray Wolf @StarLightReboot @Chriss27 @ludwig525 @hoping_cannon @SteelshoT @reystronaut @2525 One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals. Reading other's stories with their victories and even defeats is a big part of my program. I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work. @StarLightReboot - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/156764 --- @JackMcWaffles - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/169456/ --- @SaapKaBaap - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139761/ --- @GoldSpirit - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/147651/ --- @Lazarus Shuttlesworth - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/53299/ --- @Inqonyama - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/166981/ --- @db001 - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/130513/ -- @progressiverockguy - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/172452/ --- @julianstone - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/146584/ --> L