would anyone try escort?

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by lingcanada, Jul 15, 2019.

  1. CJack

    CJack New Fapstronaut

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    Your story is so similar to mine in many ways. I am also here due to this addiction and have finally taken the necessary step to rid myself of escorts and pornography. I see pornography as my trigger for using escorts. Remember that your not the only one going through this. Stay strong and treat every day as a massive achievement and a step towards being a happy, healthy human being.
     
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  2. userSCP

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    No escorts during reboot for sure. Afterward... it depends on what kind and how often, i guess?

    I've had really good experiences with them, and really bad ones too. A lot of the times it is pure luck.

    I was always going to pay for sex, and I eventually did. I had told myself that if I didn't lose my virginity by 20 I would pay. Luckily I did it without a call girl at 19. When I was about 21, I was single again and really frustrated. My cousin introduced me to the escort game. My first experience was with an older woman (40), which was awesome. In hindsight, that lady was a professional and she was independent (no pimp), and that's why my experience was good.

    After this, I tried Asian outcall services, which are semi-professional, and are basically uber services for the massage parlor girls. I tried the massage parlors, and generally had good experiences (given I did my research online beforehand).

    My bad experiences were with pimped out girls. There is always pressure on you. She always tries to squeeze you for more >> this is where you hear the infamous question: him "Do you have condoms?" her "No, do you?" Once I got robbed in the trio I arranged, where one girl went through my clothes/wallet while I was soloing with her friend, lol.

    I've had some amazing experiences too. I once paid like double for a premium service. Hottest woman I've had penetrative sex with. Have been with giurls that don't speak a word of English, which is interesting. Been with some body-types I don't think I would otherwise pursue in dating.

    The problem with prostitutes is the after effect. They usually don't kiss or cuddle, and most leave right after. And you don't get to see them again (for a while at least). This leads to loneliness, and for me aggravates the chaser effect through PMO.

    Do I feel the same shame after using a prostitute, as with PMO? No way. Pussy is pussy, the O is totally different. Condoms + lack of intimacy are what make prostitution inferior to real sex. Prostitution is not as easy/carefree as PMO. There is an effort if you are serious about it. Getting clean, making the call. I can see where browsing an ad board could be classified as PMO though...

    Do I feel bad for the girls? Sometimes, with the pimped-out girls, I happen to get by accident. With professionals, absolutely not. They know what they are doing; it's a service, like getting giving a manicure. It has a high potential for abuse, but so do a lot of things.

    Stick to legal places, like in Nevada if you are new, and have no guidance. Maybe the Asian massage parlors. Incall/outcall is so much less consistent since B-page died.
     
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  3. FormerFapaholic

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    No, but I've been to swingers clubs and out dogging in the past and that's the closest thing to it. Like porn, I feel great at first and on a bit of a high. But then left feeling empty, feeling like shit afterwards. I could only imagine going to escorts or prostitutes would be similar - if not, worse!
     
  4. Been there, done that (hookers)!
    I don't know why you yanks call them "escorts" - you seem so preoccupied with euphemisms!

    Sex with a hooker is mostly a meaningless experience, especially on emotional level, but sometimes they are "necessary evil"! I lost my virginity to a hooker, because of lack of other options!
     
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  5. Wolf2019

    Wolf2019 Fapstronaut

    I have never done it and never would. I don't want to catch a disease from someone who has had sex with hundreds of other people.
     
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  6. Nikolai

    Nikolai Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

    Tell you what, I was actually keen on the idea of hiring an escort in the past. BUT, if you do it and have PIED like I did, then it will end up a huge failure, as it did. I wasted $100 and couldn't get an erection in the meantime. So, if someone doesn't have ED and a gf/spouse, then yeah why not. Though as all things, this could get someone addicted, as mentioned in previous posts.
     
  7. Veritech

    Veritech Fapstronaut

    Instead of imagining using a human being as an object; actually doing it.

    A very expensive habit that leads you to similar symptoms as porn does.
     
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  8. Shy_1990

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    Ive tried it years ago when I was single.
    I wouldnt reccommend it because of the p and fapping addiction you wont be able to get hard and it will be a waste of money.
    Many people here have different views on seeing escorts depending on their religion or morals. Ignore all of that because its irrelevant, religion is a private choice.
    Just don't waste your hard earned cash at least until youve come out the other side of flatline.

    Also be safe, where i live its legal and the workers need a health check every few weeks. The govt organisation that monitors it says that because of the rules its prob safer than a random woman from a nightclub. But if you dont have that kind of security where you live then its prob not worth it. You dont want herpes or s something worst.

    But what I will say is this, after youve been on nofap for a while and youve been through a flatline theres every chance your new confidence will lead you to find a nice real natural woman to spend time with. In which case the matter of an escort becomes irrelevant.
    So basically, just concentrate on nofap.

    So basically either way. G
     
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  9. Ghost79

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    Sex with an escort is not enjoyable and you will surely regret doing it. Stay away from them for your health, mental wellbeing and wallet. This is coming from someone that has been addicted to escorts for almost a decade already.
    And if you think you are safe with a condom, think again. You can catch HPV from these pleasure women, that causes genital warts by even just touching or a kiss. The warts may go away but that virus will be forever in your body.
     
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  10. CJ_UNDERDAWG23

    CJ_UNDERDAWG23 New Fapstronaut

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    Same it isn't worth it. You might possibly get addicted, and like the other person said it is like cocaine. Quality wont matter eventually and you be smashing ugly hoes you could get for free. I'm suffering with the same issue now but working at resolving it. It been 5 years for me on and off and it hasn't been worth it honestly.
     
  11. userSCP

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    I was about to drop $200 last night.

    The money stopped me, not the morality... i’ve got some ways to go in my reboot.
     
  12. superninjared

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    I lost my virginity to an escort years ago i honestly did not see any other way for it to happen. I had such a powerful mental block it was unbelievable. I even went to therapy prior to it and my therapist was trying to convince me that i did not need to use escorts... Well all that talk did nothing for me its all well and good telling someone in a small room that they should be able to get laid. But as soon as you leave that room its like nothing has changed the girls still ignore you and you feel invisible... I also caved twice this month and had sex with escorts... However i had different reasons and circumstances i am also actively dating too. I cant speak for other people on here but both my experiences were positive. Orgasm both times and no ED!

    Like i said in another thread. I don’t see escorts as a relapse it’s more a less sex with a real girl the only difference is it’s a paid service. It’s not porn, it’s not masturbation because you are not on your own. And the orgasm is natural with a real person.
     
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  13. bken

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    Porn made me go there as well.
    Pics were fake and she turned out to be a lot older and not as nice to put it that way but stupid me went on with it anyway. Again goes to show porn addiction is a slippery slope. I'd never do it again. Feels like a big waste of money. Not a good experience at all and one I'd undo if I could.
     
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  14. userSCP

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    Yeah, this happens a lot, unfortunately. It's par for the course though. But sometimes the opposite happens, and somebody way cuter/younger than their photo walks through the door.

    You should go to brothels, where you can see and choose, or somewhere where you can choose the girl without much pressure. Find out where they are legal to frequent, or become an elite politician with a friend like Jeffery Epstein.
     
  15. superninjared

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    They airbrush the photos to make some of the girls look younger and hotter. The place i have been using also has some airbrushed photos but luckily there are also reviews and for the most part they actually live up to their looks or exceed it.
     
  16. harris37

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    Right here's my take on it... and I am someone who has slept with probably over 100 escorts in the last 2 years (not something I'm proud of) but now I have stopped. I came out of rehab nearly 2 years ago, I'm 36 and spent of my adult life on cocaine. All those years I spent not in relationships or around women building my confidence so as you can imagine I had trouble with erections and trouble even approaching a woman due to being out of my nut on drugs and watching too much porn. I also believed that my penis was small which it isnt at all its average. After leaving rehab I thought the best way to build confidence was to sleep with escorts... this way I can sleep with women, with no fear of rejection, up my chat up game and improve confidence all at the same time. But I tell you this... yes I did become more comfortable being naked and more confident talking to them but I was never happy for more than a day afterward. It turned into a massive addiction, spending way too much money and most important of all it never built my confidence up with women or helped with the fear of rejection like it would of if you did it for real with a normal girl your not paying for sex, the only way you get better at it is going out in the real world and doing it that way. Not only will rejection be easy... you'll be able to deflect it like it's nothing. Your game will get better. In my opinion stay well away. There's nothing real about and it will become an addiction
     
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  17. bken

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    I later discovered the picture was one of a pornstar... It was a completely different person. I will always regret it.
     
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  18. superninjared

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    It sucks that we even have to consider escorts as an option. The real thing is so much better we should not have to pay for sex...
     
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  19. Ghost79

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    The best option is still actually not having sex with escorts because we're losing our energy in them at the expense of our motivation of searching for a true partner
     
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  20. superninjared

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    True i suppose. I have been using escorts to fill in that gap because nothing has been happening with my dating life in terms of outcomes that go beyond a first date and lead to sex... However i am hopeful that is going to change soon. I had one opportunity but unfortunately nothing came of it... I really suck when it comes to doing approaches. But for some reason i have almost perfected the art of online dating. Almost 50 phone numbers and counting... And a dozen potential dates there are not enough days in a month... I have had a few ask me out already but finding the time is not always easy...

    Even though my last two experiences with escorts were positive and i'm not going to lie i have thought about seeing the last one again... The experience was exactly how it should be with a girlfriend... I would prefer to get something meaningful out of these dates so that my energy goes to someone who is truly interested instead of a paid experience. Because it was not cheap and i have bills to pay...
     

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